Manners of communication: what are and how to make your speech beautiful?

Acquaintance with a new person begins with his assessment. First of all, evaluate the appearance. The first impression depends on how the clothes, hairstyle and accessories are selected. As soon as a person begins to speak, reinforcing his speech with facial expressions and gestures, a more complete image is obtained. The manner of communication often determines the character of a person, his personal qualities, tastes and habits.

The concept of "manner" includes a combination of many factors. When communicating with other people, it is also important how the tone of the conversation is conducted and which words are spoken. Evaluated and your facial expressions during a conversation, and gestures, and even gait.

From the assessment of these factors is a certain opinion about the interlocutor. A person with bad manners uses obscene language, slang words. The habit of interrupting the interlocutor, lack of restraint, tactlessness, ill will is also considered a bad form.

A cultured person is always respectful to other people. He is tactful, respectful with elders, courteous with women, knows how to properly conduct a conversation, is familiar with the subtleties of etiquette. Such people try to avoid conflict situations, maintain good relations with people. This determines the attitude of others to them.

Often people with bad manners are untidy dressed, or they can have a defiant style. A person with good manners usually has neat and clean clothes and shoes. Although there are situations where appearance is not related to behavior. Teenagers can dress up shockingly, trying to show their originality. However, they can be very cultural.

The right speech has recently begun to lose its relevance. Increasingly, our conversation includes foreign words, slang expressions. However, the use of new words can mean the enrichment of the language. By consuming them correctly and in place, you can easily support any conversation.

In modern society, people do not pay enough attention to the development of speech skills. Therefore, a cultured and educated person immediately stands out among the crowd with the use of correct turns of speech and the absence of vulgar words. The manner of communication of such people will not remain unappreciated, because the Russian language is very rich and beautiful.

Competently delivered speech increases the location of your interlocutorsIt allows to find a compromise in disputable situations, to come to an agreement in business matters. Especially this moment should be important for you if you often take part in public speaking.

If you want to learn the skills of proper communication and conversation skills, you can start attending special speech literacy classes. They are held for adults and children.

Schoolchildren will be able to tighten the gaps in knowledge, master the competent speech, learn to behave more confidently. Older people through such activities will be able to improve their manners, get rid of the use of slang words.

You can master oratory by yourself, by performing certain actions.

• Begin to practice by speaking the tongue twisters or very quickly speaking the words. So you improve your diction.The slow pronunciation of sounds and words will help in this.
• Speak the words clearly and moderately loud.
• Try to eliminate slang words from speech, get rid of parasitic words (“well,” “in general,” “as if,” “that is,” and others).
• Answer the questions clearly and clearly, exclude from the lexicon such words as "Yeah", "not-a."
• Develop your vocabulary, be open to new knowledge.

• Pay attention to proper stress.
• Try to express thoughts accurately, briefly and concisely. Do not be distracted by trifles, go straight to the essence of the issue.
• Make sure your conversation is logically aligned. Do not jump from one thought to another.
• Do not speak too quickly or too slowly, maintain an average pace.
• In controversial situations, do not try to shout down to others, proving your case. Give everyone the opportunity to express their arguments. Do not interrupt the interlocutors. When they give you the floor, calmly voice your objections.
• You can use other techniques, for example, learn the technique of proper breathing.

Strengthening your voice and having completed the correct tempo of speech will significantly improve the quality of communication. And how you will conduct a conversation will depend on its end result.

With constant training to master the technique of correct speech, you will be quite easy.

Here are some case studies to help you.

• No matter how busy you are at work leave some time to read classic literature. So you fill up your vocabulary. After reading the text, try to retell it. In the process of retelling you immediately notice the errors and omissions and can work on them.
• Use game training. One of the most interesting and popular is a game in which participants must describe a specific item in 10 minutes. It is not as easy as it may seem. Such exercises give excellent results for the development of correct speech.
• Perform an exercise-imitation. Turn on the TV and try to repeat the speaker, everything he says, using his intonation and keeping all the pauses. Be sure to pronounce the text out loud. You can also try to imitate your favorite singers or movie actors. Follow the style of performance, behavior.
• Many people are very modest by nature. By imagining yourself speaking in front of more people, you can become more self-confident. Public speaking implies a great responsibility and increased attention to his speech.

With this exercise, you will not only be able to find your style and learn how to conduct a dialogue, but you will also be able to overcome the fear of such situations.

On how a person gestures, depends on the general idea of ​​him as a person. If you want to make a good impression, you must not only beautifully express your thoughts, but also be able to control your body.

Knowing what these or other gestures mean, you will not only be able to attract your interlocutors. You can analyze the behavior of other people. You will quickly and easily determine how interested a partner is in a conversation, whether to start a conversation or even conduct business with this person.

Consider a few, the most common gestures.

1. Gesture of openness can tell a lot about the interlocutor. If a person is in a good and happy mood, he is sitting relaxed, his jacket is unbuttoned. This means that the interviewee is positive, all his words are sincere. During business negotiations at the conclusion of the transaction, if the issue is resolved for the benefit of both parties, partners usually move to the table and unbutton the buttons of the jacket.In some cases they may even take it off.
2. For a person solving a problem or looking for a way out, pensive facial expression is ordinary. If someone tingles the bridge of his nose, it means that he is fully focused on internal reflections. In this case, it is better not to disturb the person and not to distract from the thought process.
3. If your partner put his chin on his handsThis means that he is very skeptical, does not accept your evidence or objection. The content of the conversation he is also not very interesting.

Pay attention to the position of your hands, especially if they are lying on your chest. This gesture can mean both a way of protection and a negative attitude. Depending on how a person crosses his arms on his chest, one can determine the nature of this gesture.

• Simply crossing the arms means that the person feels in danger. Sometimes this posture can also mean a calm state if the conversation is friendly.
• Crossed arms with clenched fists suggest that you should stop talking. This posture speaks of hostility. In a pinch, try changing the subject or changing the pace of the conversation.
• If the interlocutor’s hands are wrapped around his shoulders, this means that he is negative. Sometimes such a gesture is accompanied by a mocking smile. In this case, it is possible that he is holding back with all his might. If urgent measures are not taken in such a situation, a scandal may break out.

By walking also you can say a lot about a person. From the pace at which he goes, how his head is raised, whether he is waving his arms or holding them in his pockets, one can determine his character, state of health and even his age.

1. Arrogant people can be seen by the fact that they are importantly “pacing” with a raised chin, resembling a stork.
2. Confident personality can be identified by a characteristic calm and confident gait.
3. If a person goes quickly, waving his hands at the same time, one can understand that he is determined, ready to cope with any problems.
4. Closed and insecure people often slouch, walk with their heads down, not looking at passersby.

Mimicry is also of great importance. The effectiveness of your dialogue depends on how much you can “read” the expression of the interlocutor’s face. By the facial expression of a person, you can understand how he is configured, whether to continue the conversation.

• During the conversation, try most of the time to look into the eyes of the other person. If you want to achieve a result, your eyes should meet up to 70% of the time. Constrained people who try to look away usually have less confidence.
• It is important to monitor the position of the lips. If a person smiles, he is friendly. If the lips are compressed, it means that he is in doubt or displeased. Lowered corners of the mouth indicate that the source is upset.
• And even the pupils can judge the reaction of a partner to what is happening. If a person becomes angry, his pupils become smaller. If he is happy or excited about something, they expand.

From what manner you have, depends on the attitude of others.

1. Listen to others, be friendly and honest, smile.
2. In the conversation, always be correct and restrained.
3. Try to look your partner in the eye more often, especially if you are talking to a lady.
4. Control your posture during a conversation, keep a distance between the interlocutors.
5. Watch your facial expressions and gestures, pay attention to the behavior of your partner.
6. Replenish your vocabulary, read more.Watch your speech, do the exercises described above.
7. Working on yourself, you can become a welcome companion. You will find an approach to different people, avoid unpleasant situations. Also, you will be able to earn the respect of colleagues and the trust of friends, develop a business "grasp", and achieve excellent business results.

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