22 years after the wedding: what is the name and how to celebrate it?

Most of us know the names of anniversary wedding anniversaries - silver, gold, diamond. It is also well known about calico wedding - the first anniversary of the wedding. However, each year lived together in a formal marriage has its own name and traditions for its celebration.

And today we will talk about the twenty-second anniversary of family life. This is not a jubilee silver anniversary, but still a rather long period of marriage. And, of course, this day deserves to be properly celebrated.

Twenty two years of marriage are called bronze wedding. This is not silver, but not a porcelain "twenty-year" anniversary. The name of this date is given for a reason, because bronze is an expensive, valuable metal. People who have been living together for so many years are already quite mature enough to be aware of and appreciate the existing relationships and family structure, while they are still quite young to have strong feelings for each other.

Nevertheless, bronze is no longer a fabric, not a tree, it is a metal, that is, the material is much stronger. This implies that the union of partners during the years of marriage “bronzed,” became a kind of monolith, alloy, that cannot be easily destroyed.

The name as if hints that bronze itself is durable, reliable, and at the same time very malleable (for which it is extremely appreciated by sculptors) and perfectly conducts heat. These properties of bronze make it a unique metal.

Making a parallel with marriage, one can say that spouses who have lived side by side for so many years warm each other with the warmth of their souls, know how to give in to important issues for a partner, and together they are a reliable and strong team. In truly strong alliances, these are fundamental principles that act “by default”, under any circumstances, as they say, in grief and in joy, in wealth and in poverty.

Since all people are different, the customs in each family are different. From year to year some couples go to their favorite restaurant for anniversaries, someone goes out into the countryside with their family, someone like this day deserted island in a warm ocean. In a number of families, it is customary to celebrate the wedding date only for spouses, without children. Someone, on the contrary, celebrates with the children in the family circle.

It is good if the schedule of work for both husband and wife will allow them to wake up together on this day and spend some time with each other: exchange words of love and gratitude over the years, remember joyful and funny moments from family life, dream about the future. Maybe they will want to revisit the photo album with memorable moments of family life or videotape from the date of marriage.

Now there are a huge number of companies offering to organize a romantic evening in accordance with any wishes of the client: it can be a dinner on the roof of a high-rise building overlooking the city or a yacht ride on the evening river, you can even go for a joint horse ride or ride in a carriage, fly in a balloon or at least take part in a walking or studio photo shoot and get beautiful memorable photos - only together or with children.

Various master classes are no less popular nowadays: ceramic, in which a couple can manually create a symbol of their family and thus perpetuate this date forever; culinary - there you can cook a dessert or cake yourself to celebrate the event; any other at the request of the spouses.

Many couples, after twenty or more years of marriage, decide to marry in order to hold the family together not only with earthly, but also divine oaths. This is understandable - the union is strong enough, the couple is connected not only with passionate love, but also with mutual respect, care, attention. Really strong married couples will make this ceremony even closer and more expensive to each other.

In the West, such a tradition as “renewal of vows” is popular: spouses who have been married for a long time, once again exchange marriage vows. Without inviting to adopt this ritual literally, you can take from it the idea of ​​reminding each other, why you once decided to start a family, why it was the right step, and what has changed since then - feelings got stronger, strengthened, they had new facets.

However, consider what to do on this day is undesirable.

• To call guests. “Happiness loves silence” - this phrase is very accurate in relation to marriage. Wedding anniversary is a spouse's celebration, celebrated exclusively in the family circle. Husband, wife and children - these are the people who are on it. Invite someone else, even the closest friends, on this day is not accepted. However, it is not prohibited, each couple chooses the composition of guests on their own.
• Turn a quiet family celebration into a noisy party until the morning. This is completely superfluous in this situation, since the anniversary of the wedding, if I may say so, is a “chamber” event, it should pass calmly and joyfully.
• Recreate the events of twenty-two years ago, namely: the wife - wear a wedding dress and veil, her husband - suit the groom with a boutonniere. This is not a wedding, but its anniversary, and the husband and wife are no longer the bride and groom. This is a celebration of two adults who have been married for a long time, and that is why it is celebrated differently than a wedding.

A rare celebration without gifts, and the anniversary of marriage is no exception. Spouses exchange gifts with each other, and children can also give them gifts. If friends are invited to the celebration, they should also bring something as a gift for each spouse or for the couple as a whole.

We list what is customary to present at a bronze wedding.

Bronze - metal is not cheap, as well as products from it. But when and give valuable gifts, as if on a wedding anniversary. You should not buy the first bronze item, your gift should be with meaning and impress the donee.

If the spouse smokes, you can give him a cigarette lighter, cigarette case or ashtray made of this material. If he doesn’t have such a bad habit, you can give him a pair of tea, a flask, a clock. If a man is a coffee lover, a bronze Turk or a set for brewing a drink in the sand, it will hit the mark. A similar gift, it should be noted, will please the lady. Or maybe it will, in general, be a gift of children to parents, if both of them are coffee lovers.

The choice of gifts for the ladies is wider - it can be dishes for the one who is keen on cooking, a mirror in an elegant bronze frame for a secular lady, an ornamental garden figure for a lover of growing flowers and vegetables. In short, showing imagination and taking into account the tastes of his wife (and for twenty-two years he lived, it would have been necessary to learn about them), the husband can make this holiday even more memorable, by giving her exactly what will please her most.

If parents are fond of antiques, you can give them a rare or collectible thing in accordance with their interests. The subject of antiquity can be presented by the spouse to the spouse (and vice versa), if one of them is interested in such things.

In the presence of a large house or apartment, you can give bronze figurines, medium-sized sculptures, other interior items such as lamps, coffee tables or umbrella stands. If the family lives in a small apartment, and there is no place to put these items, you should not burden them with such gifts.

For families in which they are favorably related to esoteric teachings, feng shui objects, for example, images of the gods Daikoku and Ebisu, which help the growth of welfare, will be a good gift. They are placed near safes, piggy banks, where money is stored. Bronze spoons, “zagrebushki” and money shovels, which are put into wallets and purses, will also become an inexpensive, but pleasant gift.

In preparing for the celebration of a bronze wedding, one should take into account both the external entourage in which this event will be held and the list of dishes that are planned to be served.

In accordance with the name of the table design should be "bronze." Tableware and appliances in the appropriate colors, candles and candlesticks, even a tablecloth is good if everything is monochrome in the color of this metal. If the couple marks this date away from home, you can take care of the presence of, for example, balloons in this shade to mark the holiday being celebrated.

As for dishes, they should look “rich”, be richly decorated. The right decision would be to serve oven-roasted poultry - duck, chicken, turkey with apples or other fruits. And also suitable cutting of vegetables, meat, fish, fruits, originally decorated.

A prerequisite for the holiday table, laid in honor of the bronze wedding, is the presence of sweet dishes on it as a symbol of "sweet" life in the future. Most often it is a cake, it can even be decorated with figures of the bride and groom. If you don’t want to buy or bake a cake, you can order a set of cakes, cupcakes, treiflov or any other confectionery, but the dessert should be required.

Today it is not difficult to do this, because a huge number of pastry chefs offers their services in making delicacies to order. A sweet dish can be represented by a pie - with lingonberries, apples with cinnamon, pears or plums, at the request of the heroes of the occasion.

The outfits of the spouses must also be made in the "bronze" range. An elegant dress, shoes or jewelry of a “precious” shade will be suitable for her, and a tie or cufflinks for him.

In families in which the anniversary of the wedding is a real holiday, each past year only strengthens the union.The more years of marriage, the stronger and safer it is, after all, a silver wedding is not far off, and there is a golden hand.

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