Each wedding anniversary has its own symbolic name. The first date of family life is called calico. The couple lived together for only 1 year, but their relationship has already changed a lot.
What it is?
In our time it has become fashionable to celebrate a chintz wedding. Despite the fact that this is undoubtedly a solemn date, the young at this moment pass through not the easiest life stage. Try to remember what chintz is - it is beautiful, very gentle, airy, but at the same time it is rather thin and immediately breaks with any careless handling.
Such a comparison is often quite accurate - it is no secret that in the first year of life a lot of marriages break up. When a family only begins to live in one house, after the “candy-bouquet” stage, it can be quite difficult to adjust to solving everyday problems, many do not withstand such a dramatic transition from romance to everyday life, spouses begin to irritate any shortcomings of their halves and the relationship sometimes fails to bear the burden responsibility.
But if the spouses survived, learned to understand and accept each other well, seek compromises, their life will become as bright as chintz, and it is very possible that they will retain their feelings for many years and be able to meet hand in hand and have a golden wedding .
However, there is a more historical version of the appearance of the definition of the very first anniversary of married life. In ancient times, many families in the very first year after the wedding had time to give birth to a child or were expecting him to come into this world, which is why chintz was often presented to young people for sewing diapers. This material is one of the most comfortable and delicate for baby’s skin. Unfortunately, in our years, many are not in a hurry to get a child immediately after marriage, preferring to live for a few years for themselves. However, in fairness, we note that even now this version has not lost its relevance, since many nowadays prefer to live in a civil marriage and decide to legalize their relations only when they expect replenishment.
Traditions and Signs
People signs for the anniversary of the marriage indicate that the young family during this period can be cut up and, conversely, significantly enhanced.
At this moment, the relationship between husband and wife is very fragile and are often subject to negative influence from the outside. It is very important on the very first birthday of the family not to let strangers and bad people into the house. It is accepted that if you let in an unwanted guest, this will lead to an imminent betrayal: if a woman enters the house, the spouse changes, and if a man knocks on a visit, then infidelity can be expected from a young wife.
If, on the day after the wedding night, both woke up at the same time, this would mean a quick conception.
It is necessary that on the day of a calico wedding bed linen was perfectly clean and ironed, wrinkled or undersized things can cause problems between the spouses, at least that's what popular beliefs say.
On the first birthday of a family, young people must present each other something from their wardrobe items. There is a belief that if a girl presents a cotton shirt to her life partner, then their whole fate will be based on exceptional loyalty and strong feelings, and if she gives a handkerchief on hard work and a common cause.
However, to give socks on such a day, as well as pants and leggings, is a very bad sign.Popular rumor claims that in this case the gift is able to send the beloved from the house and lead to a long separation.
In addition, they say that if the young people spend the whole day of the first anniversary in peace and harmony, their life will be full of love, tolerance and respect, and if the spouses argue and swear a lot, then their future together is very doubtful.
There are signs associated with the guests who are invited to the celebration.
So, if a man comes to the very first house - this is the financial prosperity of the family, and if the woman comes to the earliest appearance of the child.
From antiquity to a calico wedding, interesting rituals have been conducted that are designed to ensure a long and serene life for spouses. To do this, the spouses together must purchase a simple handkerchief and, exactly on the day of the first anniversary, take it by opposite edges, tie each tight knot and utter the phrase: “I will tie the knot, I will bring my fate to myself. I call to the house - I close it from all the roads and long-distance roads, I leave it alone for myself / forever. As the knot is firmly tied, so are we tied to each other. Always be together for us and love forever. " Such words need to be pronounced three times, after which the handkerchief should be rolled up and put in a safe place.
It is customary to organize a celebration for a chintz wedding, because this is a significant milestone in the life of the newlyweds.no less important than gold, and it is not surprising that many want to make it memorable. Such a celebration can be arranged anywhere - at home, in a restaurant, in the country or in nature. You can have a big feast, or you can limit yourself to a couple of best friends.
Regardless of the scale of the event, there are ancient traditions that are worth adhering to if you want to make the family truly strong and loving.
The festive table must be covered with cotton fabric., and it is desirable if the young spouse will make a small embroidery on it. Cloth tablecloth, as well as all the ornaments on it, should be designed in delicate pastel shades. On the anniversary must certainly be witnesses, as well as parents of both young.
At the wedding, it is good to give a couple of bottles of sparkling champagne to the spouses - one is drunk at the wedding, but the second is reserved for the first anniversary.
The bride should certainly have wardrobe items or accessories sewn by the wife with chintz cloth. And her husband should have a T-shirt or shirt made from the same material - her husband should also make a small embroidery on her. The room in which the solemn event is held should be decorated with chintz draperies.
Of course, nowadays very few people pay tribute to traditions, but if possible they should be observed. Such important family holidays as the first calico anniversary of marriage, it is better to celebrate in accordance with the beliefs and traditions of their people - this will not only strengthen the relationship between husband and wife, but also make their relationship more reverent and romantic.
At the celebration of the first anniversary it is customary to arrange a photo session.
As a rule, a photographer is chosen for it, but most often they equip a photozone in the place where the event takes place. To design such a photozone, ribbons and handkerchiefs of their cotton fabric are used.
Ideas for photo shoots can be very different. Very popular remake of the very first date. To recreate the event from which your story began, you need to carefully recall all the details of that meeting, your feelings, thoughts, feelings. Be sure to visit the very place where your first meeting took place - there you will surely feel the spirit of lyrical adventurism. And the operator himself will choose the most valuable moments and photograph you.
Quite often a photo shoot in wedding dresses, the ones you were in a year ago, is held for a print wedding. Similar attire looks very stylish and atmospheric on the background of abandoned temples or in some romantic corners of your land.
Nature photos always look perfect. It will be especially beautiful if you spend a photo shoot on horseback - beautiful places and these noble animals make the shots really beautiful and a little magical.
Many people prefer this day to arrange a thematic photo session, for example, a cowboy, in the style of Chicago, with ethnic motifs. This could be a performance of a favorite movie or a color photo shoot. In the latter case, all guests must come to the event in accordance with the dress code, which reflects the ideas and themes of the event.
Table decor
Celebration of the first anniversary should be treated with all responsibility, show imagination and creativity. First you need to decide on the place of celebration and decide how to arrange a banquet. Of course, you can have a feast at home or go to a cafe / restaurant, but a small country house will be more romantic. Especially good if it is a wooden building. Such material will create a real atmosphere of warmth and family comfort.
Trees and shrubs located in the courtyard, it is necessary to decorate with ribbons fabrics of different shades, lace or shawls. Soft toys and plenty of helium balloons will always be appropriate.
However, if you decide to celebrate in a city apartment, then you can try to turn your cozy family nest into a truly atmospheric and elegant place. To do this, you can hang cotton curtains or simply decorate the existing curtain with bright braid, buttons, various scarves on clothespins and beads.
This option is preferable for women who love to cook - in this case, you can always surprise your guests and the one you are married to with your culinary delights.
Option celebration in nature with a barbecue or barbecue is also very interesting. You can combine a holiday with a swim in the river or a walk in the woods, or you can launch a kite and even a flashlight with desires.
As we have already mentioned, the table should be covered with a chintz tablecloth, and in addition, the decor can be complemented with napkins of the same material. If you pre-starve them, they will look very dignified.
Of course, a calico wedding should not do without a cake. - it can be a high multi-tiered dessert or a modest cake with a thematic decoration. But the stand for the cake can be supplemented with ribbons of chintz canvas. For more gloss they can be combined with satin or silk cuts.
Of course, any celebration requires a festively laid table. But even if you consider yourself an ideal hostess, you should not be too zealous in the kitchen - this is your holiday, and it will be very sad if you spend most of this festive day at the stove. Let your slogan for this day be simplicity - the more chintz wedding consistently associated with tasty, but simple dishes.
Focus on fruits and vegetables - the way to your table will be a lot of salads, they are always popular during feasts. Use original recipes that may surprise your guests, but do not require much effort.
Very little cooking time will require sandwiches. Of course, they are very simple, but stylish and original, canapés will also be a good option. On the table there should certainly be snacks - pick up the most original recipes, but at the same time try to do so without garlic and other pungent-smelling ingredients.
It has long been celebrated in Russia on the anniversary of the wedding with a samovar. Nowadays, not every family has such an attribute, so one can limit oneself to juices, cocktails and soda.
The cake must be the “highlight” of the program, and it is better if an experienced pastry chef makes it, decorating with a wedding decor or interesting inscriptions.
Well and, of course, completely do without hot dishes will not work - the celebration, as a rule, is delayed for several hours and the guests have time to get hungry, especially if the holiday takes place in nature.
For the most hungry guests, you can cook simple meat dishes - chops, steak or roast pork, and in addition, offer guests cakes and pies.
Your guests should not go hungry.
What to gift?
The first anniversary is very important for loving people, because it shows that the man and the woman he is married to are firmly committed to supporting each other and are planning to spend their entire lives together. That is why on such a day it is worth making each other small but significant gifts.
Traditionally buy cotton linens and tablecloths. However, if all the guests present the same gift, then this is unlikely to please the young, so alternatives are possible. For starters, you can donate the same linen, but sewn from cotton or linen. These materials are similar in texture, therefore interchangeable.
You can be more original and present both spouses with T-shirts with individual text. Surely the young will be pleased with the pair of products made according to your own layouts. Here in the course can go family photos, declarations of love or some phrases that have meaning only for spouses.
It would be nice to give aprons so that the couple could cook together for their entire family. It is noticed that such a pastime brings together and eases tensions in personal relationships.
Invited guests should also pay special attention to gifts. Keep in mind that at this moment the family is still quite young and they are just beginning to develop their family nest, so they will benefit from any gifts - bedding, bedspreads, home textiles, as well as practical things - household appliances or furniture, decor items will also be useful. young couple. But regardless of what you give, keep in mind that the packaging with a gift must necessarily be tied with a chintz ribbon.
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