The girl changed the guy: what are the reasons and what to do?

Couples in love during their relationship undergo many trials and vicissitudes. Sometimes young people face an unpleasant and painful situation when a girl betrays, changing with another. Immediately they begin to torment the questions: “Why did she do this?”, “How should we treat her now and do we continue to meet with her?” This article will talk about the causes of female adultery and how to behave a man in a similar situation.

Girls and women rarely change by chance, simply because of the circumstances. The fact is that, unlike the stronger sex, in their psychology there is no “sport interest” in the sexual sphere. Subconsciously, in the animal and human world, male individuals seek to spread their seed and give as many offspring as possible. In other words, males are focused on the task of mating with as many partners as possible.

No matter how rough the comparison with animals may sound, many of the key and basic aspects of the psyche are similar to us. Of course, the society for many centuries left its mark on the moral norms and the personality of the representatives of mankind. We are able to control instincts, regulate behavior, be guided not only by reflexes, but also moral aspects when making decisions. But psychologists confirm that there are quite significant differences in female and male sexual nature, as summarized above.

There can be no exceptions to the rule, both among men and women. But they are usually very bright and clearly stand out. For example, nymphomaniac, experiencing a strong attraction to a variety of sexual sensations.

If the girl has changed her boyfriend, it is necessary to radically analyze the relationship. Most likely, after digging seriously, they will reveal many problems.

• There are often cases when a guy is forced to be in the army or just away from his beloved for some reason. A few months later, the girl begins to change him. Alas, not all relationships stand the test of separation. At a distance, feelings may weaken. Or, for some reason, the partner herself will start to get the impression that her young man, being far away, has lost interest in her.
• A girl can not resist and change with her ex. This can happen if she has feelings for him. Or her ex-boyfriend does not leave attempts to return the relationship, and the girl succumbed to his tricks and persuasion.
• A woman can decide to commit adultery, having the goal of revenge on a partner. If a man periodically allows himself to go left, he causes a strong offense and humiliates his partner. The girl may begin to experience self-doubt, a feeling of inferiority. As a result, having changed at least once, she restores her femininity in her eyes, simultaneously making an attempt to hurt the feelings and vanity of the wrong partner.

• At the beginning of the relationship, most guys are very active in caring for their passion. She is bathed in compliments, tender words, romantic surprises and gifts. But the stronger the bonds become, the weaker the signs of attention from the partner appear, with time, in many cases, going altogether to nothing. In such a situation, the woman begins to feel unnecessary.The lack of confirmation of the feelings of a loved one can be confusing.

At such a moment, it is easy to seduce a woman by showing attention. Often girls switch to another young man. And he, in turn, sparing no effort in expressing his feelings, can end up easily falling in love with someone's passion.

• The lack of mutual understanding between partners often becomes a factor pushing a woman in search of a soul mate. If a man almost does not support his partner in anything, they have little in common and strongly dissociated interests, the relationship is unlikely to be comfortable and warm. After the passionate love is dulled, a woman can pay attention to another person who is much closer to her than the one she is currently dating.
• Malfunctions in the sexual life of a couple can spoil the relationship, and also often cause an outside partner to find a sexual partner. Often couples are shy or not able to discuss their intimate sphere with each other.

• In treason, oddly enough, may be financially motivated. Some women are ready to meet with a young man only because of his material well-being, without feeling sincere feelings towards him. Naturally, sooner or later, such a person is likely to meet the one with whom he really falls in love. But not wanting to lose financial well-being, women in such situations often decide not to leave a rich man, but at the same time have a lover.
• Some of the fair sex are characterized by heightened sexuality and inquisitiveness in the intimate sphere. They constantly want to experience new sensations, to try something unknown. To keep such a girl from treason will be extremely difficult.
• As mentioned above, most women subconsciously seek to find support and protection in a man. And this can only give a confident, morally stable and courageous young man. If the guy weakly shows volitional qualities, is not self-confident and is not successful, a woman can cool off to him, not seeing prospects and not feeling “strong shoulder”.

Universal recommendations and instructions on how to act in case of betrayal of his beloved, can not be given. It all depends on the specific situation: on the nature and duration of your relationship, on your feelings and reciprocity on the part of your partner, on the reasons that prompted a woman to change.

• Having learned about the infidelity of the beloved, try not to do anything on the “hot head”. Inadequate, excessively emotional behavior can harm in this situation, pushing on rash acts.
• Recheck the information if it came to you from third parties or anonymously. Perhaps someone is plotting against your passion and just slandered her.
• Try to find out if it was a one-time relationship or if the woman has a long and constant affair on the side.

In the first case, quietly talk to your beloved. Ask her about the reasons for this behavior. Most likely, something in your relationship does not suit her. Let her know that you are ready to work on yourself and that relationships should be built on mutual trust, not on omissions.

The second situation, when the partner has a constant lover, is more difficult. Find out if she has feelings for another man.

Once a woman has changed, it can be very difficult for many men to regain lost confidence in her. If the guy wants to continue to meet his beloved, he will need to be able to release this unpleasant situation in the future.

Often the woman herself, after treason, suffers greatly from her conscience, she sincerely repents what happened.And if the partner has decided to end the relationship with her, she tries to return it, begging for forgiveness.

In the case when a man still decides to break with the wrong pass, he faces a difficult period of rupture. And if the strong feeling for the girl has not faded away, the separation is often very painful. However, if the changed woman clearly does not repent of her deed, or the infidelity episodes have been repeated several times, parting is perhaps the best option.

One more way is forgiveness of betrayal and continuation of relationship But it’s also not easy for many guys. Usually forgive and forget about what happened is strongly hampered by restrained pride, resentment. Most men subsequently feel tension and distrust of their partner almost constantly. Such an episode in a relationship, like treason, often inflames a feeling of jealousy in a partner.

In such a situation, everything will depend on the real feelings of the woman and on her further behavior. If she succeeds in breaking the ice of distrust and resentment in the heart of her partner, the couple may well have a chance to return to normal relations over time.

The events that are happening with us give us the opportunity to accumulate precious life experience and correct our mistakes. Therefore, having lived even such an unpleasant episode as the betrayal of a loved one, you should not dwell on it too much.

A big mistake is samoing and constant experience, consciously remembering this trouble. Life does not stand still. When a child burns on a hot kettle, he gets a valuable lesson: you need to be careful with this item and you don’t need to touch it with your hand. And this skill, further, undoubtedly, helps him in life.

In a similar way, one must be able to endure something important and useful for oneself from any events, even heavy and painful ones. Having lived the situation, analyzing it and drawing conclusions, force yourself to stop returning to it. And, of course, leave the gained experience with you, but drive away the heavy memories.

To get distracted, lead an active lifestyle. Try sports or any new hobby. Keep chatting with friends, do not lock yourself in. Remove from the apartment things that clearly will remind you of what happened.

• Do not shift absolutely all the blame for treason girls only on themselves. Everyone has shortcomings, and they could partially serve as a reason for infidelity. Try to take them into account and work on fixing them.
• Do not label yourself as “useless” or “insolvent” men. Often the guys after they changed, lose confidence in themselves. They can consciously or subconsciously forbid themselves to meet and seek new acquaintances with the opposite sex.

But this is a very wrong model of behavior. Remember, there are a lot of women in the world, they all have completely different personal characteristics and characters. Therefore, it is extremely stupid and unacceptable to punish yourself with love "ascetic" because of one failure.

• If you still decide to improve relationships and stay with your girlfriend after adultery, try to tame the manifestations of jealousy. It is very difficult, but refrain from checking your phone, your account in social networks and personal messages. If the passion really keeps fooling you, it will still pop up. And your attempts at control just make it better to hide.
• If a woman sincerely repented and is truly true to you now, such jealous behavior will humiliate her greatly and keep her in suspense.
• Try to learn to talk with each other. The expressed fears, experiences, claims in a tactful manner, wishes and requests can be worked through with joint efforts. Confidential communication in a couple significantly strengthens the relationship.

But omissions, emotional closeness, or, conversely, excessive aggression and scandals heighten the situation, alienate the couple in love from each other.