How to understand what a girl changes?

Regardless of how long a relationship lasts, how they add up, has it reached marriage or not yet, every man sooner or later thinks about whether his lady's heart changes or not. With related questions, men usually do not go to friends or relatives - the topic is too delicate. They turn to information on the Internet, and here they are waiting for the real test, because most of the tips are made up so that even a non-jealous man by the end of reading up turns into Othello. Not all recommendations are equally helpful. Let's look at the question from different points of view.

Nature has made it easier for men - if a girl changes, it usually becomes pretty quickly obvious, because women are less savvy in conspiracy of their adultery and more prone to emotionality, which can give them away with their heads, and the changes will certainly be reflected in their behavior.

Before talking about the signs, let's look at the girl's psycho. Psychologists distinguish several types of women who are prone to adultery.

• Bored ladies - girls and women who have a large amount of free and unoccupied time. If at the same time the chosen one works, studies and cannot spend all the time nearby, then the bored young lady may well go in search of adventure and new emotions.
• Hereditary cheating. The concept of loyalty is instilled almost from the kindergarten. Any girl subconsciously accepts the type and style of relationships with partners from her own mother. If the mother often changed partners or a divorce with her father took place because of female infidelity, the girl has all the prerequisites to become traitors as well.
• Sexually relaxed and experienced. A girl who has a rich personal story that justifies her friends who cheat on their husbands and grooms has a rather light relation to adultery, and therefore he is not excluded.
• Disappointed ladies. If a girl is disappointed in her partner, if relations have recently become much worse, then it is possible that from resentment on wrecked dreams, she will go in search of someone who can replace the failed prince.

• Women of another social stratum, a different level of education. If there is an abyss between your interests and ladies' interests, if she has a prestigious and well-paid job, and on weekends she goes to self-knowledge courses and learn Sanskrit, and you and your 8th grade and technical school work tirelessly, dreaming of a good night’s sleep or later a clash of interests is inevitable. Most likely, it is she who will find someone who will also study Sanskrit and engage in self-knowledge with her, since with her she will simply be more interesting.

• Also do not be disregarded. There are so amorous and enthusiastic natures that it is difficult even for them to capture their interests and sympathies. In addition, there is a real love - leave the right for a woman to make a mistake (the mistake in this case is you).

There are a lot of signs of female treason, but having found one in the list, you should not make hasty conclusions. Only a complex of “symptoms” of infidelity will help with a more or less real probability to suspect adultery. By themselves, individual signs may not say anything.

If you have been together for quite a long time, then you know your habits and reactions pretty well. The lady, who decided to commit adultery, becomes another - suddenly changes the image, loses weight, does another make-up. And all these changes are clearly not for you, because your compliments are either ignored or cause slight irritation. A woman begins to preen longer before going to her friend, although she used to run out in a tracksuit and light jacket, and take a longer look at herself in the mirror before working or studying. Meetings with the girlfriend will become more frequent, and more and more often she will have a reason to leave home somewhere without you.

The most important thing is changing her mood and look. Women poorly disguise their own emotions, carefully looking into her eyes, much can be understood - the cheater will avert her eyes, avoid direct eye-to-eye contact, at the same time she will be winged and a little dreamy. If treason was a one-off character and the woman regrets it, then she will be in a bad mood, will avoid communication.

Meetings become more rare, intimate life is reduced to a minimum or disappears altogether. If you do not live together yet, then dates will become rare. Increasingly, she will refuse your offers to meet under a plausible excuse - there are cases at work, a lot of workload at the university, someone from her family is sick, leaves for a business trip, etc.

The fact is that women are not polygamous, like men. Several partners at once are not female style. If she has a lover who completely suits her both in communication and in sex, then she will smoothly nullify the sexual relationship with a man who lives with her as a husband or a civil spouse.

A cheating woman emotionally no longer belongs to you. It is unclear for what reasons she stays with you, because usually women, if there are no joint children and dependencies in financial security from a spouse, prefer to go to their lovers or just leave if feelings in a relationship are completed.

But if you have a special case, and you suspect that a woman still has relations on the side, staying with you, you should pay attention to the frequency of her calls and messages. If more recently they were ten a day, and now they are not there, and are not immediately responding to yours, then this is a reason to think about it. But keep in mind that a faithful woman, who has simply lost interest in you, is also disappointed in the same way. If you are not interested in her, she will call exclusively on business. The phrases in both cases are monosyllabic, there is tension in the voice, the woman seeks to end the conversation and hang up the phone faster.

Some individuals begin to provoke your care. They think this is the best option. If you do not withstand the scandals and leave, she will not have to explain and ask for forgiveness. In this case, conflicts erupt from scratch, with or without cause, a woman becomes picky, demanding, capricious. It is impossible to please her, no matter what you do. Even the fact that she loved before causes her irritation.

The reason for this behavior is a strong sense of guilt, which she feels. And the conflicts themselves start, not even on her free will, but on a subconscious level. Consider that in a similar way, some women behave during pregnancy in the early stages and during the premenstrual syndrome, and therefore observe or ask her the appropriate question.

Starts to speak in riddles and mysteries appear. Previously, her phone could lie for hours on the shelf in the hallway or on the table in the kitchen.There were no secrets, she always told who and why called. Now more and more often the phone will be in the "silent" or "vibration" mode, so as not to attract your attention. Messages will be deleted, new passwords will appear on your computer and smartphone, which will not tell you anything.

She will leave to talk on the phone "with Masha from work" or "with Lena from the nail salon" to the balcony or porch, and to the question why you cannot discuss manicure or working moments with a colleague right in the apartment, in the kitchen, she will flare up righteous anger and blame you with callousness, psychological illiteracy and an attempt on her personal space.

Women who have theoretically defined a replacement for themselves are beginning to be critical of everything you do. She is annoyed by your manner of eating, it is unpleasant to her that you have not thrown your socks back into the laundry basket in the bathroom, she criticizes your appearance, work, friends, character, hobby.

Very much in this matter depends on how well your companion knows how to lie. There are women who do not know how to do this, and the truth comes out. Therefore, it is worth starting with an honest conversation. If you start shouting and presenting the signs that you identify to her, a normal conversation will fail. Aggression generates a dull defense - it closes and says nothing, it can just get away from the conversation, and then it changed or not, it will be problematic to know with certainty.

Speak calmly, peacefully, choose the right time for this when she and you are not in a hurry, for example, on a day off. It is not worth listening to what exactly she will answer, much more important is how she will do it. There are very few women who can lie without batting an eye, and therefore there are very few women in intelligence. A person who lies, looks away, avoids direct eye contact, scratches or rubs his neck, nose wings, coughs. If you notice signs of lying, say it again calmly and reinforce the words with the signs you find. Many under such pressure give up and admit everything.

The second method is for patient men. It involves the observation and collection of evidence. In this case, the crucial conversation with the mass of evidence collected is transferred to a later time.

Surveillance is not entirely ethical in terms of moral principles, and if you find yourself wrong, it will be very difficult to restore lost confidence. Common friends and her friends can become a useful source of information, but here it should be borne in mind that friends can be biased or poorly informed, and then the truth can reach you in a highly distorted form, and sometimes the stated versions will be far from reality. Besides, the question whether friends should be initiated into your doubts is rather doubtful.

What method of collecting information to choose is up to you. It all depends on what you consider acceptable for yourself due to your personal culture and upbringing - some read her messages in the phone, others watch her before and after work, and others hire a private detective to do all the dirty work with someone else's hands. There are large originals that lead the beloved to the polygraph, however, after that, couples often part and not always because betrayal becomes proven.

If a long separation on duty for your couple is a usual thing, then the question arises whether it is possible to know about the infidelity of a woman from a distance. Yes, you are unable to see her eyes and watch her, but you can pay attention to how much the woman remains attentive to you. If she doesn’t call for a long time, does not write, and answers your calls with monosyllabic phrases that do not imply a long and heartfelt conversation, if your calls annoy her and more often you dial at the wrong time, you can only determine that the reasons for the woman is not configured. What reasons she has for this is difficult to determine at a distance.

By correspondence, it is inexpedient to discuss this, because you will not see the eyes and reactions of the woman in response to your questions. Although, if a girl fell seriously in love, she is very likely to report about it in correspondence and write a touching letter, which will end with the traditional “forgive” and “goodbye” in this case. If the parting is not included in her plans, and that guy is just an accident, then it will be impossible to find out about betrayal at a distance or only during a personal meeting, when there will be an opportunity to talk in person.

Jealousy is a destructive feeling that a person often creates for himself by his fears and low self-esteem, the fear of being alone, being a loser and losing in the eyes of others. Before deploying a large-scale search for evidence of partner betrayal, psychologists advise men to think well - and if she is not guilty of anything? After all, this will somehow negatively affect the future relations of the couple.

If the betrayal is obvious, then the man should try to calm down, pull himself together and decide for himself - what's next. Either he is ready to stay with this girl further and forgive, or he now does not see a common future and insists on parting himself.

Treason is an ordeal for adulthood. Only adults, psychologically and emotionally mature people are capable of forgiveness. If you decide to stay with this woman further, never remind you of what happened and watch your own state - quite often quite severe personality disorders, including pathological paranoid jealousy, develop on the basis of one-time treachery.

If your chosen one herself does not want to continue relations with you, let her go as correctly as possible, with respect. Anyone deserves respect and no one is obliged to meet your expectations.

Scandals, desire for revenge, attempted assault, insults are not the best way for a man to behave in such a situation. The event itself will not change from this, its experience will not change, but to the scale of not the most pleasant emotions a sense of shame will be added, which then, when the anger goes away, will surely arise in the empty place in the soul.

It may take time for a man to answer all these questions. In order not to break the firewood, it is better to take a pause - to go somewhere under a specious excuse, stay in solitude, think, put everything on the shelves. One morning you will experience clarity and a complete understanding of the way forward. If there is a woman on it who has caused a wound, try to build a relationship with her. If the path is different, start living with new forces.