Treason: what is and how to recognize?

The relationship between people is diverse. Feelings such as love and hate are always there. No wonder they say that from love to hate - one step. These two feelings can change their places in the soul of a person in the first place when there is a betrayal.

Cheating is treason. And it can be present in all spheres of human life. Especially often this concept occurs when it comes to the relationship between the sexes.

Betrayal violates all laws of fair relations between a man and a woman. Where is the line between betrayal and fleeting passion, no one can answer. All conclusions each person makes for himself.

For example, love breaks out between two close people, which develops into something more - soul mate. Treason one partner makes both unhappy. This happens because one of them decides not to act quite honestly with the other.

As a result, there is a deception that cannot be experienced easily and freely. Disturbed harmony of feelings, which leads to rupture.

Different people change differently. For some, cheating is not considered cheating if it had a one-off character. Despite this, this manifestation will never become the norm of life. None of decent people will accept the fact that he was betrayed.

By the way, men and women have different views on this factor. The first believe that men's treason does not pose any threat to their family. Some representatives of the stronger sex seriously equate their vicious connections with negative habits, like smoking and drinking. And non-drinkers and non-smokers justify themselves by saying that this is their only drawback.

Women cheat on their faithful no less than men. But here you need to make a reservation. Some percent of them make it out of revenge, trying to prove to her husband that he is not behaving in the way we would like.

Speaking directly, no decent woman will go to treason if her companion is rich, polite, handsome, family man, does not drink, does not smoke. Therefore, this issue should be approached in more depth if we want to know the causes of female infidelity. So why do women and men still have a desire to go to betrayal, let's understand.

They may be different. How many people, so many reasons. But to classify the prerequisites that lead to treason is possible. Let's try to break them down by points.

• Let's start with the banal. The girl is not married for love. Certain circumstances forced her to take this step. At that moment when she made this decision, it seemed to her that everything was “endured - falling in love”. But no, the human soul has such properties that do not obey sober mind. After some time, she met the man of her dreams. Of course, in this situation, no one can give himself the order to love or not to love this or that person. As a result, there was a betrayal and as a result - the destruction of marriage.

• Another moment. At first everything was fine in family relationships. But over time, conflicts began. Spouses began to drift apart. One of them met a person more congenial.He seemed more attractive to him. Soon the marriage was destroyed.

• Some spouses lack attention all the time. For example, a woman tries to make her appearance flawless. Against this background, she is also a good hostess, and a self-sufficient person. And her husband at point-blank does not notice all these qualities, but, on the contrary, also rebukes her for the slightest offense.

• Spouses live too long together. Children are adults, but there are no common interests. The emotional situation in the house suggests that the husband and wife have become completely strangers. To check whether this is so, one of them is decided to commit adultery. Then it turns out that, indeed, it is time to release each other from family obligations. But this is not always the case. The situation can turn around and go on a different scenario. Treason will create stress, emotional shake. The result will be a reconciliation of the spouses, and they will heal in a new way.
• Social networks contribute to the increase in the number of changes. Many people have their own personal accounts. Some of them communicate with former acquaintances and classmates. Among them may be former beloved. And there is no guarantee that forgotten feelings will not flare up between them again.

• It is hard to imagine, but it also happens that some just need sex. It is for him that they are ready to forget about the family and children. After such acts, repentance comes, but if relatives find out about it, then the payback will be very high. It will take a lot of work to rehabilitate the relationship between the spouses.
• And one more “trifling reason” is alcohol. In a state of intoxication a person cannot think adequately. Naturally, those feelings that a normal person suppresses in themselves take over. When the consciousness does not meet the requirements of decency, then such negative manifestations happen. Payback for this may be too great. Therefore, those who have poor control over themselves after taking alcohol should be especially careful.

• Big difference in age also plays an important role in shaping the mood for treason. It does not happen immediately. When a man and a woman meet, where one is much older than the other, then at first everything goes perfectly. Older partner protects his love. But time passes, and age begins to affect in all spheres of life. First of all - it is a sexual attraction, then there is a versatility of views and beliefs. The result is a complete mismatch of personalities, since a significant age difference between spouses is by and large unnatural.

Recognizing adultery is not easy. Some unfaithful spouses hide their relationship in such a way that even an experienced special agent cannot split them. Everything is serious there: passwords, apartments, turnouts. Typically, such links are not publicized for a long time, and some of them become completely unrevealed.

If both changing parties do not want a large circle of people to become aware of their relationship, then they will do everything possible and impossible to hide treason.

No wife or husband will suspect betrayal of his soul mate, if she will be careful in everything. Yes, it is very difficult, but in some way justifies unfaithful husbands and wives.

Another thing, when there is clear evidence of adultery. And here's what you need to pay attention.

• The second half began to monitor their appearance with great care. And this applies to both men and women. What you should pay attention to in this case: lately your husband (wife) is especially interested in personal hygiene, a strong smell of perfume or cologne emanates from your loved one, an ideal hairstyle is done every day and so on. It all started suddenly, but before this was not observed. Take a closer look at your companion.
• Flirting is another sign. It can manifest itself without a reason when you are in a familiar company. Your companion (ca) behaves provocatively, constantly drawing attention to itself. This does not mean that the object of adoration of your spouse (ha) is near. Just when a person is in a romantic relationship, he behaves so because of a small increase in hormonal levels, or he is seized with excitement.

• Coldness in sexual relationships - This is a bright sign that your partner is changing. The unfaithful spouse (s) has a double life. In one, your other half is a loyal and loving person, in the other - a passionate lover (ca). Such people have enough experiences, and they easily give up unnecessary ones.

• Nervous behavior can also indicate that a partner is cheating on you. You simply began to annoy him because he had a new object of adoration. It seems to him that you deliberately do everything to make him angry.

• Your wife or husband behaves suspiciously. Frequent delays at work, scared look when you ask leading questions. Everything suggests that you need to ponder over the problem. Many changing partners start hiding their phone so that you cannot track their calls and private messages. Perhaps you are too carried away by your suspicions, but checking in this situation does not hurt.

These are just some of the most pronounced signs that you need to pay attention to. If you know your husband or wife quite well, then you yourself will be able to see changes in behavior that are peculiar only to your loved one.

There is not and will not be a definite answer to this question. Of course, nothing good in treason is not a loved one. And if judged one-sided, then you can only give one advice - get a divorce.

But we all understand that in our life there are different situations that do not allow us to act directly and unconditionally perform the right actions.

If you are strongly attached to a husband or wife, love to madness and do not want a divorce, then you should think and listen to the advice of a psychologist.

You can put up with betrayal when you can’t imagine life without a person close to you. In this case, you should not push him into a frank conversation and try to bring him to the "clear water".

So you run the risk of losing your love forever. Perhaps he (she) will turn around and leave with the words: “Since you know everything, it means that I don’t need to explain anything to you.” If you are afraid of such a turn of events, then proceed with caution.

It is not necessary in this situation to stir up scandals and tantrums, to demand loyalty and honesty. If the spouse (s) did not “slam the door” immediately, then where is the guarantee that he (she) will not leave after another scandal.

If you feel that your husband (wife) is suffering and does not know what to do, then it is better not to make any sudden movements. Pretend that you do not know anything, continue to behave as if nothing had happened. Even try to increase your attention towards your spouse (s).

Another thing is when cardinal measures are needed so that the spouse recognizes his mistake.

First you need to catch a cheating husband (wife). An incorrect partner must understand that he has done a very bad deed. Otherwise, betrayal will become a habit. It is not necessary for the husband (wife) to bear (la) a large punishment.

You can simply talk to a loved one and explain that his actions damage your family reputation. If you have a trusting relationship, perhaps everything will work out.

The standard of marriage has always been the loyalty of both spouses. Therefore, you need to urge your partner to the correct behavior in relation to you. For this you need to rely on your thoughts and desires.

You need to understand that it is not enough just to calculate adultery. After this happens, it is necessary to clearly know what to do with this fact and how to proceed. There is one simple answer to this - it's up to you. If you decide to forgive, then forgive and never regret it.

It is not enough to know that the second half changes. After this, it is necessary to understand how to survive the pain of betrayal. So follow your inner voice, it will never deceive you. And start working on the problem.

• Do not dwell on what you have changed. Destroy all the negative memories and experiences that you had during the time you learned about the betrayal of a loved one. Cross out the fact of treason from your head. This will be made easier when you feel that your partner is very repentant.
• Do not reproach yourself with faint-heartedness and the fact that you are acting in a wrong way. You go to the call of your heart and in this are absolutely right. No one can blame you for your actions.

• Do not listen to the advice that "well-wishers" are trying to give you. Not always they can help, and some can only hurt. Remember that from the side it is much easier to judge than to experience a problem in the soul.
• Do not take revenge. Be taller. Do not be angry, because anger is a bad adviser and has never helped anyone yet. Because of the negative, your problems will only grow like a snowball.
• After the betrayal of a loved one in my heart is very bad. To avoid depression, get involved in distracting and positive things. Best help sports. On a treadmill or stadium you will meet like-minded people.

If you are reading this item now, you should understand that in the depths of your soul you still hope that your relationship will not break up. If you decide to forgive treason and make peace with your spouse, follow a few steps.

• When you are close to your soulmate, try not to blame him (her) once again for treason. Believe me, your loved one is experiencing no less than yours and is trying with all his might to improve relations
• Walk together a lot, go to visit and show your reconciliation.
• Get involved in a common cause, for example, start saving money to buy an expensive item that you need and which will please both of you.

• Be sure to involve children in various family celebrations and pastime. From this, your marriage will only strengthen.
• Start a joint repair in your apartment or initiate construction at the cottage of any object in the form of a gazebo. Subsequently, you will arrange joint gatherings there.
• Separate pastime can also contribute to quick adaptation to reality. Let one of you go fishing, and the other handles household chores. By evening, you will meet and have a joint dinner, where the main course will be an ear.

You can forget all the insults when it will be a sincere mood. No one will solve your problems for you.

Treason is a betrayal.The psychology of betrayal is this: you are betrayed by the closest person, and this makes it even more painful.

Definitely no betrayal of forgiveness. No explanation can justify this action. Such an attitude towards yourself should not be tolerated. The world is crumbling before our eyes and it seems that everything, life will never be the same.

However, it is worth saying “stop” to yourself. Pull yourself together! From sobbing and wailing you will not feel better. On the contrary, you will further aggravate your condition. Nothing is worse than death. Everything that is not connected with it can be corrected.

To forgive or not to forgive - it will depend only on your desire, character and attitude. The moral side here does not matter. Under certain circumstances, a loved one can be understood, despite the fact that he is very guilty before you.

Of course, if your companion (ca) broke the vow of loyalty more than once, then you should think deeply about continuing the relationship. Although in this case it is impossible to judge unequivocally. Especially if it’s not for the first time that you let everything go “on the brakes”, it means that you have already adapted to this turn of events in your life.

Is it worth it then to change the way you live together - since you always forgive your loved one, then this person is dear to you.

In no case do not condemn themselves for such behavior. Nobody has the right to do this either from the side of relatives or from your friends. It is your destiny, and only you decide how to act in a given situation.

If you are not tired of suffering, it means that they do not cause much damage to your psyche. In this case, there is only one advice: fight for your happiness, despite ridicule and condemnation.

Normal people will not laugh at other people's mistakes. If someone is trying to condemn you, it means that he himself is not all right in his personal life. A loser's opinion should not interest you.

It also happens that a person made a mistake once and immediately got caught. He really wants to fall before your knees and apologize. But your pride does not allow to give your chosen one the opportunity to sincerely ask your forgiveness. From this you torment yourself and torment your other half.

What is this suffering for? There is one simple rule to be a happy person: if you really want to do something, then do it. Otherwise, you will later regret the rest of your life about the lost opportunity.

No one knows what will happen next. Maybe you are “blind” from the offense and are not able to see how your loved one suffers. therefore Be prudent - do not resist your sincere desires and impulses.

This question is the same as in previous cases, there is no definite answer. Spontaneous betrayals can not be predicted in advance and, of course, to prevent them. If, however, betrayal occurred against the background of drunk alcohol, then it can be considered a force majeure.

No need to think that the husband or wife will definitely change you. Our thoughts are material, and you can involuntarily call trouble on your family. Just live and do not be afraid of anything, the more you need to do it if there are no certain prerequisites for concern.

To begin with, your opponent (ca) will never be successful if you are the standard of correct behavior. If your immaculate appearance makes passers-by turn, and the behavior is always correct, and you have all the human qualities, then relax.

The chances that you will be deceived by a loved one are halved. Anyone who wants to seduce your wife or your husband will think several times before trying to persuade the other half to change.Since the opponent (ca) will understand that you are a worthy opponent (ca), and will not want to suffer a fiasco.

Another thing, if you are not trying to take care of your image lately. This may be due to lack of time and money. But especially women should remember that a real lady will always find the means to make herself beautiful.

Simple cucumber masks, unpretentious hair care and not expensive, but stylish clothes will make your look unique. Men can also be advised to keep themselves in a certain form. Do not overeat at night and go in for sports regularly (this also applies to women). The flabby figure and sagging belly have not made anyone attractive yet.

Many temptations often lead to the fact that a person begins to spray. He wants to taste all the pleasures of life. For those who have a less stable outlook on life, the lines between hobbies and betrayal are blurred.

Life theory is always significantly different from practical. No wonder popular wisdom says: "Other people's trouble hands reconnaissance." And what about his? It will not work out overnight. We'll have to work on it.

Remember that after the betrayal of one of the partners (spouses) between you, nothing will ever be the same. All relations will have to be restored anew, and some of them changed in a completely different direction.

If you decide to save your marriage and feelings, then try to tune in to the fact that you will have to do a lot before peace and joy come to your home again.

To do this, follow the advice of a psychologist.

• Do not provoke once again your partner on the scandals. Do not remind of treason and do not blame.
• Engage in common affairs that will unite you and make peace.
• Communicate more with your children and spend your family holidays together.
• Try to forget all that was associated with treason. In extreme cases, you can try to move to another city. There is definitely no one and nothing will remind you of the negative experience.

In another situation, when for you a betrayal of a loved one has become a fatal phenomenon, you should not torture yourself and try to “glue a broken cup”. Take a volitional step and in one fell swoop cut off everything that was connected with the person who betrayed you.

This will make it easier for you to dot the i. It is necessary to understand one simple rule: the longer the decision making time is, the more you will fall into a stupor. This condition will entail psychosomatic phenomena. From large emotional overload you can get sick physically. Therefore, take care of your nerves and give yourself the order to part.

Yes, at first it will be difficult, but time heals. Everything passes. There will be nothing left from pain, and you will be ready for new meetings, brighter ones, which will end in strong relationships.

Just do not try to put on a "cross." It now seems to you that you can no longer believe anyone. Remember that in life there are still a lot of interesting and unexplored. If you now do not want to see anyone else near you, then try to find a hobby for one’s soul. As a result, you will be able to cure your soul, and when this happens, you yourself will feel that you want to meet someone.