Betrayal and the lie of a loved one knock the ground out from under their feet and force them to look for ways to restore justice. There is a desire to inflict a knockout on a traitor, making you feel the pain you have experienced. Dip it into the abyss of sleepless nights, tearful pillows, drunk valerian bubbles and endless conversations with friends psychologists. But any tantrum comes to an end, and appreciating the events of the recent past, you understand that you have shown yourself in an unfavorable light.
Why change favorite men? How to implement the "royal" plan of revenge and how to make a traitor to regret his deed?
How to revenge for treason and maintain self-esteem?
Social networks and advice from girlfriends are full of refined ways of revenge, starting with the self-harm of your favorite car, glass in your socks, laxative in beer and ending with magical love spells for an unfaithful husband, returning with a drop of blood, a broom or salt bought in a certain place at a certain time ...
It is unlikely that a self-respecting woman would take such advice as a guide to action, rather, as an ephemeral fantasy of humiliated vanity. Often, stories about clever revenge on an unfaithful spouse remain unfulfilled dreams, and such confessions in forums are a way to tell the whole universe about their misfortune.
Before developing a plan of phased revenge, it is worth analyzing your actions and possible retaliatory strikes by the enemy. If, nevertheless, you decide to take active steps, then you should consider your tactics and develop an offensive strategy. Connect allies and think over the plan of surrender, if something suddenly goes wrong.
Leading family psychologists call the reason for such a desire a state of affectprovoked by personal circumstances. This is a short-term impulsive action, which, unlike the physical or emotional state, cannot be controlled. At the same time, professionals advise to change the situation, switch to another type of activity, go in for sports, appearance, visit the spa. Do what helps you find personal harmony and make you balanced and happy.
Family debt or why change husbands?
Men are by nature polygamous, prone to finding new experiences and diversity in intimate life. Even the most loyal family man sometimes turns his head toward the sexy beauty, enjoying her charms. As a rule, men are pushed for treason by everyday troubles, monotony, usual measured life. Monotony makes you look for impressions and new emotions on the side, if in the familiar family atmosphere he does not feel happy.
Caring for family and children, constant household chores take all their free time from their spouses. She does not have enough strength to engage in herself, and the new passion conquers with its spectacularity, extravagance, and draws you into the world of uncharted adventures. But the main reason is the monotony of intimate life, dissatisfaction and constraint of the partner. Few couples can talk heart to heart and find out everything about the pitfalls in their bed, and the thirst for new emotions, vivid impressions pushes a man to a new novel.
Feelings of a deceived woman can be understood only by a person who has experienced similar emotions.The first thing that comes to mind is to throw a grand scandal with the smashing of dishes, slaps and the connection of heavy artillery in the form of his mother. There is a desire to punish the faithful and his rival in the most sophisticated way. But over time, these sensations are replaced by spiritual emptiness and disappointment. If you manage to cope with the first emotions, you will be able to come up with an exquisite plan for revenge, and if you wish, return your spouse to your bed.
Royally revenge is always served cold
Remembering the stories from the lives of your friends or girlfriends, you, of course, understand that spontaneous revenge is from a series of fiction. In order to take revenge on her husband for treason, desecrated honor, the gift of his life and the mass of invented persistent phrases on this subject, and go dry out of the water, maintaining his self-esteem will have to come up with a couple of creative ideas.
The ideal plan of "royal" revenge can be created on a cold head, while maintaining an exceptional calculation. Get rid of annoying emotions: they are like a malicious burdock that cannot be torn off after a walk in the autumn forest, when enjoying nature is eclipsed by an obsessive desire to get rid of a hateful problem.
The desire to make an immediate vendetta, to punish the offender, to take revenge on her mistress is connected with the complexes that a woman acquires in early childhood or youth under the influence of the social environment, upbringing, environment, relations with parents. As a rule, girls witnessed the divorce of parents, their personal problems or clarify the relationship with the child, which violated the psyche and formed established stereotypes about family life.
Battle tactics
Faced with the problem of treason, you should take a completely win-win option: lie down on the bottom, demonstrate absolute indifference to what happened. This will require patience, overcoming their own resentment, anger, bitterness. But, as experience shows, this is one of the most effective ways to show one’s indifference and sow doubt in the head of a traitor.
Taking the opposite tactic, many women make an irreparable mistake. The desire to call a partner to a frank conversation, find out the relationship and find out, “than she is better than me”, never change the situation for the better, and, as a rule, aggravate the situation even more. Often, such actions make a man think that he has made the right choice. A certain scheme is being formed, which confirms the well-established opinion “the wife scandalizes, which means that she did the right thing, that she changed, left, threw something and did something else there ...”.
Try not to leave any reason for such thoughts and statements. Thus, you will make the faithful responsible for their actions and be responsible for what is happening. In an attempt to justify itself, a partner can provoke spontaneous and rash acts.
For many women, adultery is a point of no return, but for some reason, a man after that needs to feel necessary and megatical for a woman. Attempts to provoke a conflict or cause a storm of emotions are just a way to prove one’s importance and irreplaceability. In this difficult period for both, it is important to let a man understand that he is not the center of the universe and the meaning of your existence. Staying attractive, happy, in demand, showing a man his independence, you are awarded a technical victory.
Psychologist tips
But what to do with surging emotions that overshadow common sense, do not give the opportunity to breathe deeply and require retribution? You can make innocuous dirty tricks: change the door locks, pay with your spouse card in the jewelry salon or flirt with his close friend. That's it with a loved one, because the information to him must come first hand. If an irresistible desire to break a couple of plates or make a fire on the street, throwing your wedding photos into it, do not stop your impulses.It will take time, and you buy the dishes and order new photos, but the moment when you want to throw out the negative should be satisfied, otherwise it transforms into stress, prolonged depression and chronic illnesses.
Social networks can provide irreplaceable help in a little revenge to their faithful. Go to his page under another name and start a virtual novel. Leading questions, easy flirtation will help to find out the true attitude to life and the prevailing circumstances. Learn to read between the lines - this will help to find out what the pious one feels after breaking up.
Try to surround yourself with positive emotions, practice yoga, female Taoist practices, attend master classes and maximize your social circle. This will help to adapt to the situation and create the impression of a confident harmonious personality. The main thing is to highlight life priorities, value time and strive to realize your own ambitions. This is the most sophisticated revenge to a man who underestimated your love.
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