What if the husband cheated on his wife with her friend?

Betrayal of a husband with a friend is always a terrible emotional trauma for a deceived wife, especially if she was married all the time while the woman was sure that her husband was incapable of such an act. And even more so with the one who entered the house and who was entrusted with the most intimate secrets.

Sometimes the reason why one woman gets involved in an affair with her husband, another, well known to her, lies in the feeling of envy. The husband of a friend seems to be more successful and attractive against the background of his own, the usual, to which many years have often accumulated over the years of living together.

If a traitor is not married, there are even more reasons to encroach on someone else’s. Even if she earns a lot, dresses better and is able to afford something that her married friend doesn’t even dream of, it is this usual family well-being that can be the envy of her. And if there is a chance to prove to herself that in love she, too, can have everything no worse than that of others, it is impossible to avoid the temptation to seduce someone else’s husband.

Much more twisted intrigue in the love triangle occurs when the forbidden love affair becomes revenge for past "merit" of a now-married friend: you stole my boyfriend, now I'll take you away! In addition, the lover - the husband of a friend - it is very convenient. He will reliably keep the secret of extra-marital bonds and is unlikely to start doing stupid things, since by doing so he will substitute not only his mistress, but himself.

Without interrupting a friendly relationship with a married girlfriend, you can always have access to her home. If her husband asks where she went, it is convenient to honestly answer where she was, and between times she has to play a love game spiced with the sharpness of her secret relationship with someone else's husband.

In addition to the usual everyday causes, sometimes the reaction to prolonged stress, in the state of which there are a huge number of people today, or the banal absence of a permanent sexual partner, sometimes causes betrayal. I wanted to relieve the tension, and then a familiar man turned up, attractive, besides with “recommendations” from a close woman.

Men are divided into two categories. Some of them differ in loyalty, in spite of any problems in the family, while others are able to change at the slightest pretext.

Faced with such a betrayal, women invariably wonder why it was with a friend that her husband changed her, despite the fact that treason with a familiar woman is much more painful than with a stranger.

This is explained by the fact that a man to strike up a relationship with such a girl is much easier than with an unfamiliar, with which you need to get acquainted, prove her attractiveness to her, courting for a long time and so on. If a friend's wife is a pretty, sexy girl, why look for someone else?

The friendship between two women may be different. Some originate from childhood, others begin in adulthood. Be that as it may, if communication between girls comes down to washing the bones of your husbands or discussing what it is not necessary for those to know, this in itself is a sign of unhealthy family relationships. Ideally, the best friend is your own spouse. With full trust from him there can be no secrets.

If a married woman does not completely trust her husband, it is possible that he will seek this trust on the side. The girl, aware of how the family life of the one who is always in reach, is fully prepared to have an affair with her husband, especially if you do not have to persuade him to embark on love affairs.

If a man has changed his wife with her best friend, the deceived woman always raises the question: whether to forgive or not. And in relation to her husband. With a friend, everything is usually clear. It is difficult to imagine that it will be possible to maintain some kind of relationship with her after what happened. If the friendship is real, and not just in words, to sleep with your beloved girlfriend is the same as going with a relative. If the betrayal happened, then there was no friendship.

As for the husband, everything is not so simple here. If the fact of betrayal happened for the first time, you can find the strength to understand the essence of the problem, get to the true motives of the spouse, give him a chance to continue to live together.

If it is obvious that a man does not consider himself guilty, he is not interested in what his wife feels and what she thinks about what happened, then the relationship is unlikely to continue. Moreover, it is not uncommon when a guy considers walking to the left to be a completely natural manifestation of the nature of the strong half of humanity. Even if there is no separation, the woman will probably have to endure the fact that her husband is cheating.

In case of doubts about what to do, if the husband has changed with his girlfriend, experts advise to give yourself time to sort out their feelings. You can move in with your parents or go on vacation, or you can set a traitor outside the door. So there will be a less painful experience of what happened, and watching the further actions of the open lovers will be able to clarify and rethink a lot.

During this time, it is possible to estimate what has not happened so far in family life, and what is the underlying cause of what happened. Perhaps the woman who was changed, by her own actions, brought disaster upon herself. It is never too late to correct mistakes. And if you still have to part with your husband, it is also useful to draw conclusions for the future.

Having experienced such a blow from your favorite people, psychologists advise you not to withdraw into yourself., and seek solace from relatives and those to whom you have confidence. Sometimes it will not be superfluous to turn to a specialist, because not every woman is able to cope with her feelings in such a situation. There is a risk of developing prolonged depression.

The best way to keep family and relationships with friends is not to mix one with the other.

• Do not turn the house into a hotel for friends, relatives and friends who have problems.
• With friends, you can discuss anything, just not the difficulties in the family. Details of personal life should remain between husband and wife. Then outsiders will not have a reason to act as a comforter. It is possible to console so that someone “will remain with horns“.
• It is best to meet with friends outside of your own home, and if you are inviting them to visit, then when your husband left or left on business. If the spouse returns, for a friend, this should be a signal that the gatherings are over. Now the mistress of the house is busy with other things.This approach has two winning sides. The husband does not feel in his own house unnecessary and at the same time he will not have the opportunity to look at his wife's friend, unwittingly comparing the external data of two women.
• Peculiarities of sex life with a husband should never become a subject of conversation with friends, even if there are problems in this regard. There are doctors to deal with such issues.

• Do not allow close acquaintance girlfriend with her husband. If you need to solve domestic problems, for this there are "husbands for an hour", porters, plumbers and other professionals who can solve such issues.
• And, of course, no matter how many years pass, it is important to monitor your appearance, to develop personally, to remain interesting for a loved one, overshadowing all the friends with you.

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