Treason at work: signs, causes and options for action

Office romance often destroys family relationships, especially in the case of cheating on his wife. Many men are interested in how to recognize adultery, which can be the cause of women's weakness, can you forgive her.

Joint life, family unite the couple. At the same time, heaping worries can extinguish ardent and tender feelings. Spouses no longer feel the love of a partner. Family conflicts, petty quarrels contribute to cooling intimate relationships. Often a grumpy and untidy wife meets a man at home, and a well-groomed and friendly colleague at work. A colleague may also be someone's wife or girlfriend.

Often office romance occurs between the head and subordinate. A wife cheats on her husband with her boss most often under duress. Fear of losing a job, the desire to move up the career ladder - the main causes of adultery. A leader may force sex through threats and blackmail. An unexpected passion that has led to betrayal with a boss or another colleague is not excluded. Interest in a colleague may arise when the marks of attention from the husband are terminated. Having ceased to feel welcome, the woman gives in to beautiful courtings from the boss or the colleague. With a workmate, your girlfriend or official wife can get close to corporate events, which the management arranges to unite employees in order to achieve further joint fruitful work. Holidays and corporate parties sometimes lead to short-term intimate relationships between family people.

Vigilance and sensitivity will help to recognize his wife's betrayal in a timely manner. Hasty conclusions in this situation are inappropriate. It is necessary to carefully analyze every characteristic sign of treason.

• Suddenly, the spouse has ceased to allow her husband into her personal space. She began to hide personal correspondence, telephone calls. Does not tell about upcoming or held meetings. In the evening and on weekends, she gets a call to solve some working moments. Wife with a phone goes into another room. There is a high probability that the behavior is associated with adultery. It is important to remember: it is possible that because of your pickyness, ridiculing the statements of the spouse, her various messages, or stormy discussions with friends and relatives, she began to be shy, afraid of your criticism, she no longer trusted you.
• The spouse pays much attention to her appearance. Carefully makes makeup, hair. Before leaving for work, he stands in front of the mirror for a long time, carefully looking at the features of his face. Such behavior should be especially wary if she has ceased to consult with you about her image, about which she cared much less. She didn’t care what she looked like next to you. Remember: this behavior may mean unwillingness to fall behind their girlfriends.

• Uncharacteristic attention to her husband, excessive care and tenderness indicate an attempt to make amends to her husband. Wrong husband, being in a similar situation, on the contrary, begins to find fault with his wife for any reason. He begins to compare his soul mate with his mistress, whom he currently considers the best. It is important to remember: in practice, it happens that the wife really realized and appreciated the positive qualities of her husband. Rethinking can occur after the loss of the second half of a girlfriend: divorce or death of a beloved man.
• In the intimate life felt chill with her. In case of refusal to show caress and tenderness, it is possible that the feelings are wholly surrendered to another person. In such a situation, the unfaithful husband sometimes completely stops his sex life with his wife or begins to demonstrate acquired skills in new relationships. Remember: do not forget that the reason for this behavior can be frequent quarrels with her husband, accumulated resentment, fatigue, depression, illness, pregnancy.
• An acute reaction to criticism from her husband began to cause discontent, irritation. A woman's self-esteem rises with increased attention to her by a stranger. It is important to know: the option is not excluded that your wife was bored with your endless negative remarks, comments on any subject.
• Missed calls her husband. The explanations can be very different: I didn’t hear, I was traveling in public transport, I was busy, the battery was discharged, I forgot the phone. Do not forget: this behavior does not necessarily happen when you change.
• Minimizing communication to a minimum. The wife herself begins to actively use the screwdriver and hammer. Husband does not ask for anything. In the evening there are no stories about the past day.
• The appearance in your company of a new man to whom his wife pays a lot of attention.

• Previously punctual wife begins to linger at work. Frequent overtime working hours must necessarily alert the spouse. Especially if the wife returns home with a joyful face, and not with the emaciated air that is characteristic of exhausting work. The appearance of unscheduled inspections and reports that were not there before is the first warning sign. She talks about overtime hours with sheer indifference, not irritation. Pay attention to its aroma, whether there is a foreign male smell on clothes or hair. The categorical prohibition to meet my wife from work on such days can mean fear of getting caught. It is important to remember: the situation in the enterprise may change with the change of leadership or for some other reason, and the spouse really takes care of her husband, so he does not want him to spend his time and meet her from work.
• Appeared business trips or day trips that do not improve the financial situation in the family, should alert the husband. Business trips become frequent, and the salary remains at the same level. Remember: the desire of the wife to build a successful career is not excluded.
• Indication of family affairs, conversations with you can be a sign of treason. I lost interest in cooking dinner, washing dishes, restoring order in the house. Life is completely abandoned. My wife does not want to visit your parents. It is important to know: sometimes a loss of interest in life is associated with illness or depression.
• Mysterious thoughtfulness suggests the idea: the thoughts of the spouse are aimed at the person she adores.

Forgive treason wife is very difficult. Male pride and pride hurt. No need to take rash actions. Drastic measures can be taken rashly. We must wait for the initial shock to pass, sound thoughts will start to appear. The final decision should be taken by the man himself without the participation of friends, relatives, acquaintances.

First of all, we need to consider the situation from different angles. There are two important points:

• treason happened once: on a business trip, at a holiday, corporate party or under pressure, threats from a boss, a dangerous acquaintance, or in retaliation to an unfaithful husband;
• both spouses for a long time were not true to each other.

In these cases, frank confession is very important. The wife repents, voluntarily agrees to change the behavior, precluding the repetition of infidelity to her husband. The sinned half must make its own decision. She refuses to travel, attending parties unaccompanied by her husband. The spouse officially breaks the communication on the side, calling her lover in the presence of her second half. The wife demonstratively throws out gifts to her lover, provides her husband access to social networks and the telephone. A long-term affair with a colleague is best to complete the dismissal from work.

It is extremely difficult to forgive an unfaithful wife and restore family relationships in the following cases:

• the woman deliberately went to treason, she herself inclined her colleague to love pleasures;
• with direct evidence available, the wife did not confess and did not repent;
• the lover at work turned out to be the best friend of the husband or a man from among the inner circle — he is in the family;
• if the wife has several lovers;
• the wife refuses to break off the relationship with her lover;
• spouse does not want to change the approaches to their lives.

It is best to find out the truth about treason by asking a surprisingly direct question to your wife. Secret surveillance does not lead to anything good. They will necessarily end with a grand scandal and a final rupture of relations.

With a married boss, the novel is hopeless, it is doomed to collapse in advance. A fleeting affair at a corporate party may be a random episode. The efforts of the husband should be directed not at finding a lover, but at correcting the situation:

• Start paying more attention to your wife than before: give flowers, fill her up with compliments and gifts, fulfill all requests;
• organize a trip, a hike, entertainment;
• invite to a restaurant, cafe or cinema;
• fulfill her desires;
• more anxious about intimate relationships;
• listen carefully to her stories;
• start with her active correspondence via instant messengers;
• try to criticize the wife gently, not hurt;
• do not skimp on money and tender words;
• do housework on time;
• listen to her advice, requests.

This does not mean that you will go with your spouse on occasion and fulfill all her whims. Stay always a real man. The emergence of true love contributes to the daily hard work on family relationships. The original spark is gradually extinguished. Passion and love with time passes.

It is necessary to fill the family space with warmth, love, understanding. Changing relationships for the better should be regular. The saying goes: when in the family mode, no treasure is needed. If there is a real deep feeling for the spouse, in the relationship there is an openness to each other, trust, then treason is almost impossible.