The psychology of the representatives of the stronger sex differs significantly from the psychology of the fair sex. Therefore, it is so difficult for them to identify points of contact. If two people became very close, it means that they caught "good luck by the tail." But until this happens, conflicts are possible. Then you need to look for compromises and always be on guard if you do not want to lose your beloved.
What cases require an apology?
First of all, it is necessary to remember that in most cases you should not immediately take responsibility for the conflict that occurred. You should not do this, because the presumption of innocence should always be present in life. Otherwise, you will begin to scourge yourself right and left for what you have not done. So for a short time turn into a scapegoat.
However, one must be able to admit one's mistakes, if there are good reasons and proofs for this. First of all, you need to apologize when you feel guilty. This flair cannot be confused with anything. And in the depths of his consciousness, every person should always remember that without admitting mistakes he cannot adequately ask for forgiveness. It is worth thinking about the problem when the following happened.
- You hurt a girl in a drunken stupor. At a party, a situation occurred when you decided that your friend was wrong. From this, your mood deteriorated, and then you lost control of yourself.
Spoke "a bunch of nastiness" and maybe even allowed assault. Now she does not want to see you anymore. Immediately I must say that this is a very difficult case.
- Because of its incontinence insulted the girl literally "out of the blue" with everyone on the street. From this humiliation, she left all in tears, and now her phone is not available to you.
- Treason - This is the most "unforgiving" case. To resolve this conflict, you have to try very hard. And you should be ready for this. It is possible that all efforts will be wasted, but you should not despair, since forgiveness can still be achieved.
- Inattentive attitude, which is repeated too often, can lead to resentment and rupture of relations. If you are not used to taking care of other people, then you should learn this. Otherwise, the negative experience will be repeated again and again.
- Jealousy for no reason is one of the main problems in the relationship. From jealousy you become unbearable for the girl and for the people around you. You should deal with such manifestations of character.
- Boredom and selfishness can ruffle any person, and especially your girlfriend. Try to avoid such manifestations.
- Greed and restraint in any situation is also unacceptable if you are in a closer relationship.
After the conflict, any guy really wants to correct the situation. Therefore, it is necessary to act, and then reconciliation is possible.
Ways
It is clear that a real man should apologize to the girl when he hurt her badly. There are many ways to do this. The main thing is that your apologies are not intrusive and do not cause new attacks of insult.
Remember that girls are mostly impressionable and tender creatures. Therefore, it is not necessary to use unacceptable methods for rapprochement. For example, if she does not want to put up, then you can not shout and threaten her.
If you behave aggressively and try to take forgiveness by force, you will fail. Use some tips, “tailored” them to your individual case.
The easiest and fastest way is find the right words: to speak in one’s own words, and to sincerely repent and repent. Try to play for this in advance the situation with reconciliation and do not forget to prepare a text that is better to learn by heart.
Only at a meeting, when you will carry out your plans, do not speak memorized phrases, but make your confession sincere. Then you will succeed. After an apology, wait patiently for the moment when the young lady's heart “thaws out” and she will again be ready for dialogue and continuation of the relationship.
In writing to communicate more reliably. Therefore, write on a piece of paper all that you wanted to say at the meeting. Do not be afraid of candid phrases. When everything is ready, try to re-read the entire text and check the correctness of the phrases.
It also happens that in a fit of feelings a person thinks one thing, and writes something quite different and with a different meaning. It is better to be safe here. A letter can be sent along with a courier, ordering a pre-huge bouquet of roses (or those flowers that your girlfriend loves). Put the note in the flowers.
In modern society it is accepted communicate in social networks. Therefore, you can ask for forgiveness in private messages. For this it is worth writing the most sincere apologies. But first identify the problem and admit to your mistake.
Only here it is worth thinking carefully before choosing such a method. If you have a trifling conflict, then an apology by sending a message may work. However, if you behaved extremely ugly, then think about other ways. It is possible that the girl, after you reacted to such a problem very superficially and did not deign to make an effort, would simply block you.
- Surprise may also work, and maybe not. It all depends on the nature of the girl and the nature of the quarrel. With a very strong conflict, you can get the "opposite effect". Therefore, if you thought up to return your beloved with a surprise, then try to think of something “good” and extraordinary. Otherwise, she can take your step as a mockery.
- Good way ask for forgiveness in verse and in the presence of friends and loved ones. So you can “kill two birds with one stone”: rehabilitate yourself in front of the girl and rehabilitate yourself in front of people around you.
Of course, it’s easy to give advice. It is much more difficult for a person who can not decide on the most effective ways. Therefore, you need to take advantage of the experience of those who already have this skill.
Examples
Remember that you are not the first and you are not the last to be in such an unpleasant situation when a girl refuses to communicate due to the offense. This situation may become irreversible. You need to start acting. Try to use the following information and also apply it in practice. Just consider all the nuances, such as the individual perception of the world, which is inherent only to your girlfriend.
- Not bad if you offer your partner spend time together traveling. It doesn't matter how much the voucher will cost and where you will go. The main thing is that you can be alone and finally "mend" the resulting hole in your relationship.
- Give an expensive gift. Here everything will depend on your well-being and the needs of the girl. Try to have the thing desired. Maybe your sweetheart has long dreamed about something or really wanted to buy some thing. Try to fulfill her dream or desire. Then, perhaps, her heart will "melt."
- Write under the window in huge letters the word "forgive" (can be laid out in colors). Be sure to include the name of your offended person. Let everyone around you see this inscription. Girls love to be the center of attention. She will be pleased to see how much you value your relationship.
- Concert tickets her favorite artist will also make your object of adoration the happiest in the world.It is advisable to arrange everything so that it was a surprise for her.
- SPA treatments in full will not only be a nice gift, but also improve your mood. After the girl passes a cosmetic course, she will feel as if “updated” from all sides and will be ready to forgive you.
- Give offended girlfriend nice outfit. To do this, invite her to the best women's store and choose with her an evening dress (or whatever she wishes). From such actions she will increase self-esteem.
- If your passion loves animals, then give her a dog or a cat of elite breeds. From such kindness, she thaws the soul and appreciate your gift. You and yourself will be pleased to see how the mood changes offended girlfriend.
Whatever the gift or surprise, it must come from the heart. Then this step will make your relationship stronger.
Psychologist tips
If you yourself are very worried that you have offended your chosen one, first of all you need to realize that you were wrong. And then the following tips will help.
- To start a reconciliation, no need to tag along behind the object of his adoration. It is enough to determine the time and place of the meeting.
- If you’ve decided to ask for forgiveness, it’s best to meet and talk about the problem face to face. It is necessary to find out exactly what caused such an insult to your girlfriend. This must be done in order not to do what you did.
- When clarifying the relationship with the young lady can "fall down" reproaches and accusations. Listen to them silently. Let the offended person speak outand then his rage will subside.
- All your words speak in a calm voice and try not to create conflict situations. Remember that you made a mistake, so try to behave properly.
- Sincerity must be manifested in all your words and actions. Otherwise, nothing happens. The girl just will not believe you.
- As soon as you have received forgiveness, try to behave not too intrusive. Take a pause in the relationship. In the same time show care and attention. Cleverly “balance” between these two concepts.
- Try hard not to make harsh statements about the young lady, if not much time has passed after reconciliation. If you break some boundaries, the girl may think that you have not realized and are not going to realize your mistake, and indecent behavior is a permanent part of your character.
- remember, that when you are in a bad mood, it’s best not to do anything. Moreover, to take steps towards reconciliation of the parties. In this situation, you only exacerbate their difficult situation.
- Despite the fact that in the world it is now customary to actively communicate in social networks, Try not to put up through messengers. This method is very doubtful in order to fully express their feelings. Your message can be useful if you are not very bad.
- You should not connect friends and girlfriends to your problem. From such assistance can only be worse. Even if your loved ones want to sincerely help you, the girl may not appreciate such an impulse and will think that you are a coward and are not able to make decisions and realize mistakes.
- In another embodiment, it may be even worse. It is possible that among friends or friends there is a person who will only be glad of your quarrel. Assistance from this "assistant" you will not wait, but the harm, it is quite possible, it will cause significant.
- You should not worry and panic either. If you have always had a strong relationship since your meeting, they have not gone away. Just an insult does not give the young lady to remember all the warmth of your relationship. It is necessary that it cooled slightly after a quarrel. Perhaps the partner herself would like to get close to you again.
- Do not blame the girl after reconciliation that you still have the strength to ask for forgiveness.Firstly, it was yours and only your decision, and secondly, she did not ask you to put up with her.
Remember that the relationship between two people consists of mutual respect. It is better to avoid quarrels and scandals than to correct the situation that arose after such an incident.