Offended man: causes and rules of behavior with him

In a relationship, unpleasant situations can arise when someone from a couple is offended. Communication in this period is very difficult or even stops. Naturally, such a tense atmosphere I want to quickly change and return the relationship to its normal state. What to do if the offended guy stopped communicating? How to understand why a man behaves this way?

It is believed that women are more susceptible to emotions, and, therefore, more often offended. But such feelings are peculiar not only to representatives of the beautiful half of humanity. Men can also and have the right to express their claims or show by their behavior that they do not like something.

Someone expresses his emotions openly. Someone rolls up scandals or boycotts. And someone, on the contrary, becomes self-contained and practically ceases to communicate with the offender or the offender. In any case, for both partners, such situations are very unpleasant, because relationships are being put at risk.

To understand how to return mutual understanding and to adjust the atmosphere in a pair, consider the most common causes of men's offenses.

• To offend a guy can any rude and tactless comment partner about intimate life. Most men are very painful and keenly harsh criticism on this issue. If this criticism is also biased, then the situation may in a short time reach the end of a relationship.
• Resentment at women can occur if the partner does not receive enough attention from her. Of course, the leaders of courtship are traditionally considered to be the representatives of the stronger sex. But they also need to receive confirmation of the feelings of their beloved.
• Sometimes girls and women allow themselves to openly criticize, express insults to their boyfriend’s relatives or relatives. This is very unpleasant to anyone. If this happens regularly, this can lead not only to resentment, but also to a serious conflict. A man will be forced to protect his relatives and friends from your attacks.

• Excessive jealousy and distrust of the girls can ruin the relationship in a couple. It is very tiring and humiliating to fight off unreasonable reproaches and accusations. Constant tension, open control of each step very negatively affect both partners. And if a girl is too persistently and fanatically looking for deception and lies, then she will most likely “find” her, convincing herself of the dishonesty of the elect. A baseless accusations can not hurt. They hurt a man very much.
• The excessive possessiveness of a woman in relation to her partner makes him a “prisoner” of relations. Attempts to control and manage each step will certainly cause resistance and will lead to further misunderstanding.
• Each person has a hobby, hobbies and simply preferred leisure. In a couple it is important to respect the interests of each other. If a woman completely does not accept the hobbies of her man or even forbids him to spend his free time at her own discretion, then there is nothing surprising that this will cause a negative response.
• There are just very vulnerable and sensitive natures. Perhaps your boyfriend is one of those. These people are very easy to touch, they are suspicious and have long failures.Sometimes it’s not easy to deal with such a person, you have to weigh every word and count almost every step.
• The guy’s inflated demands on his beloved, personal fantasies can provoke sometimes inexplicable offenses. Men often create in their minds a kind of “princess image” and expect their chosen one to conform to their ideal. When a girl does something “wrong”, the partner, seeing the discrepancy to the desired, feels a sense of frustration and touchiness.
• The betrayal of a loved one greatly hurts and brings pain. Here we can talk not just about the feeling of resentment, but about a serious trauma. Many men do not forgive resentment associated with betrayal.
• Insincerity of the woman he loved, systematic deception leaves a very negative impression. Intentional lie humiliates and offends a man, in the end, he stops trusting his half.

For most of the representatives of the stronger sex, the feeling of resentment is somewhat different than for girls. The latter are much more prone to emotional outbursts and the demonstration of their claims.

Men, however, often withdraw into themselves. A guy can suddenly become very dry and short in communication. Sometimes a man stops contact at all: he stops calling, writing messages, making appointments.

Some men are simply afraid to flare up and talk too much. Therefore, they deliberately try to distance themselves from communication and contacts for the time of an acute experience, and afterwards find out the relationship as calmly as possible.

Of course, it is impossible to describe the universal model of man’s behavior in a situation when he was greatly offended. It all depends on the specific circumstances and characteristics of the nature and personality of the person.

Male resentment against women for minor reasons may be completely asymptomatic, so to speak, that is, without external manifestations. Strong men are able to pacify their emotions and forgive their favorite minor blunders, accept her habits and behavioral patterns. But, of course, this does not mean that you should use it and try your partner’s patience on purpose.

If you are sure that the man was offended by you, try to find out the reason. If the partner does not make contact, analyze your relationship over the past few days. Think seriously, what your act or words could hurt him? A sincere apology, admission of their wrongfulness and a heart-to-heart talk will certainly correct the situation in the pair.

• If a man is not ready to make contact and talk, do not insist and do not rush him, give him time to "cool down" and relive his feelings.
• Sometimes a person in a difficult situation for him needs some time to be alone. If an offended man asks you about this, do not resist.
• You can take the first steps with regrets by writing your favorite note or email. But then a sincere personal conversation must follow.
• If a guy is offended very much and broke off contacts with you, you can try to make peace through his friends or relatives. Talk to someone he trusts and ask them to convey your apologies.
• Behave naturally, you should not immediately try on the role unusual for you. It will look like you are pretending or evil teasing a partner.
• Apologize, keep calm. Do not throw accusations in response and do not try to hurt the guy in response.

In your pair, try to follow the following tips from the psychology of relationships.

• Tactfully express your comments and suggestions to the partner in sex.Harsh phrases and harsh reproaches just will not fix your love life. They only hurt your man and, possibly, in time, will implant in him complexes.
• Try to maintain good relationships with friends and family of your man. Do not allow yourself to unreasonable criticism or insults to them. Remember that they are expensive for him and his indignation about your attacks is fully justified.
• Even in a long relationship, do not cease to pay attention to your partner. Every person needs from time to time to receive confirmation that they love him. Tender words, compliments, small gifts for holidays and memorable dates will strengthen your relationship and add pleasant moments to you.
• If you are prone to jealousy, try to keep yourself in the hands. Pay attention to the real state of affairs, and not to your fantasies or to possible slander. Often, those who are obsessed with jealousy start thinking up something that is not really there. A partner in such a situation remains only endless excuses and attempts to prove his innocence.
• Respect the interests and hobbies of your loved one. Let him spend his leisure time as he wants. His hobbies are an integral part of his personality, accept them. Often wives do not let their husbands go fishing or sports entertainment, depriving them of the possibility of a comfortable and interesting holiday. Do not make such mistakes, and you will avoid fair resentment on this issue from your other half.
• Maintain trust in your pair. A friendly, sincere conversation can resolve many problems. Give your man a chance to speak out if he cares about something. Give support to your loved one in difficult situations.