What if the husband is constantly dissatisfied with everything?

Perhaps, almost no one can honestly boast that he has an ideal marriage relationship. It is natural and normal to strive for harmony, intimacy and benevolent emotional atmosphere in your family nest. But the achievement of such a relationship is the result of the large and daily work of each spouse. Therefore, if difficulties arise, you should not give up and give up, it is better to adequately assess the situation, sort out the problems and solve them together.

It is very difficult to endure the tense emotional atmosphere in the family. Many women are forced to put up with the fact that the husband is always nagging, criticizing, reproaching and insulting. And this can often happen almost without any reason or on far-fetched reasons. A man, as they say, “starts up with a half turn”: he shouts, expresses discontent with the prepared food, housework, reproaches any shortcomings or reproaches his wife with money.

Hurtful words can be repeated over and over again without any further apologies. Claims are becoming smaller and far-fetched. The charter is to endure, many women are ready to decide on a divorce and break the relationship with the once beloved man. What are the reasons for such behavior spouse?

A man may show negative emotions towards his wife due to one or more of the following factors.

• Often a woman complains that her husband constantly screams even without good reasons and is not happy with everything, but at the same time she does not try to assess the general emotional state of his second half. Such manifestations may be signal of accumulated stress, chronic fatigue or prolonged psycho-emotional overload. Most often this may be due to problems at work. Tired after a working day and not being able to relieve stress in other ways, a man returning home shouts and reproaches his wife for nothing.
• Perhaps rude behavior in the family is manifestation of personality traits and character of the spouse. Before cohabitation, they could be simply invisible. Common life is often very unexpectedly able to reveal a person completely from the other side. For example, it’s common for a choleric person that he is almost always angry, often grumbles and always makes comments to others. Unfortunately, even a close and beloved person will not avoid such manifestations.
• It is erroneously considered that a man is almost always satisfied with sex life, especially with its regularity. But this is not the case. And precisely sexual abuse very often cause disagreements and loss of mutual understanding. The situation is aggravated by the fact that not all couples are ready to adequately discuss intimate intimacy, to correctly express their wishes or comments to a partner. Often a woman is not at all inclined to look for the root of the problem in this particular area, not seeing the connection between sex and intercourse in everyday life. This leaves the problem unsolved and over time increases the tension between the spouses.

• Like women, the stronger sex tend to create a certain ideal of his life partner. Having started to recognize her much closer, her husband inevitably faces some kind of disappointment. Especially often this is manifested in dissatisfaction with his wife on maternity leave.A pregnant woman during this period undergoes physical changes, as well as fluctuations in the emotional state. Of course, a man can understand that it is impossible to reproach her for this, but he simply cannot restrain himself in many cases. The fact is that he himself is in some confusion and does not have time to accept the new qualities and image of his beloved woman. It seems to him that in front of him almost another, unknown to him earlier person, connected with him by marriage.

• The mother-in-law can set her son up against her chosen darling. For whatever reason, having disliked her initially, the mother will try to discord the couple. If a man is strongly attached to his mother, for the most part he will blindly take her side and unconsciously agree with her opinion and complaints.
• A very unpleasant and serious reason for a husband’s harsh and rude behavior may be romance on the side. These can be very fleeting feelings that will soon fade away. But in the period of their height, the life partner fades away in the eyes of the spouse. But the new passion, on the contrary, is simply flourishing with virtues and often imaginary advantages.
• Causes for irritation and reproaches can serve real flaws of women. Often, excessive self-esteem does not give us an adequate assessment of our qualities and actions. Listen and look at yourself. Do you show similar negative attacks in your relationship with your spouse? Are your chores and dishes irreproachable? Sometimes a woman simply does not want to admit that she is doing something bad or untidy and stubbornly stands her ground, repeating her mistakes over and over again. And the husband is forced to express complaints and remarks in a more rude, harsh and irritable form in order to "get through" to his wife.
• Your husband may have watched tensions with his parents. Often in the adult period, such children, not having a positive example, in their marriage begin practically copy the behavior pattern of your family members.

First of all, understand the fact that if you let the situation take its course, almost certainly for the better, it definitely will not change. In building shaky marital relationship is important sincerity, love for the partner and patience. Without these qualities, it is impossible to build a trustful and mutually respectful communication even in the premarital period, and even more so after the conclusion of the union and the beginning of life together.

Do not regret time for quiet conversations. The representatives of the stronger sex, although they are more inclined to hold feelings in themselves, still respond very positively to any kind and confidential conversation with a close person. If your man has problems at work, support and cheer him up, show that you believe in him. If the quarrel begins to flare up, try not to start. Do not shout in response and do not aggravate the conflict situation. Constructive calm discussion of the problem is much more effective than any scandal and mutual insults.

Sometimes it is better to leave the man alone and let him calm down. Gently and without a call, tell him that his words are very offensive to you. Explain that you would like to talk about the problem calmly, so ask him to still cope with the emotions. After that, leave the room or go for a short walk.

Try, nevertheless, to correctly discuss with your husband your feelings in bed. If it is obvious that you and your spouse are not ready for such a conversation, do not be afraid to turn to a sex counselor for married couples. Listen to the advice of a psychologist who advises in this area. Unfortunately, in our country, many people still have prejudices and shame about intimacy.But such counseling helps so many couples to harmonize their sexual life and relationships, as well as to keep from breaking.

Help your man realize himself in an interesting business or hobby. Life should not be limited only to work and family. Such a restriction of one’s outlook and activities is extremely exhausting, leading to nervous and emotional exhaustion. Offer him interesting options for a joint weekend getaway or any creative activity. Perhaps your pair will have a new general passion. And this is a sure path to rapprochement and resolution of differences.

Try to work on your shortcomings. Talk to your close friends or parents and ask them to point you to them objectively and honestly. Do not defend and cherish their weaknesses. Such tactics will only lead to moral laziness, complacency and arrogance. And these qualities are very noticeable and unpleasant in any communication, not only within the couple, but also in other areas.

Watch out for yourself. Maintain a neat appearance even at home. Sometimes change your image, it will create the effect of novelty in the eyes of a spouse. Try to build a good relationship of trust with your husband's parents, loved ones and friends. Even if one of them is unpleasant to you for any reason, maintaining communication with them will give you two big positive points.

First, you will be able to more fully discover the identity of your chosen one, to know his childhood and youth dreams and hobbies, interests, hobbies. This will certainly help you in a relationship. Secondly, you can avoid possible “harassment” from the family or friends of the spouse. After all, if you protect yourself from them, then they may well form a negative opinion about you and treat you with suspicion. And this is the ground for intrigue, slander and setting up a husband against you.