The wife is constantly unhappy: the causes and ways to solve the problem

Although each of us, undoubtedly, strives for harmony and mutual respect in marriage, it is not always possible to achieve such an ideal. In the life of the spouses there are difficult periods and unpleasant peripetias. But they can all be overcome if there is a spiritual relationship and sincere feelings between partners. But in some couples, situations may arise where one of the spouses very often or almost constantly expresses dissatisfaction with the partner. The reasons and methods for overcoming the constant dissatisfaction of his wife with her husband will be discussed in this article.

The psychology of the relationship of a married couple is not simple. The expression “dear scolds, only amuse themselves”, indicating the frivolity of conflicts and quarrels, is not always true in all cases.

Often men in marriage face the fact that they are forced to live in a difficult and hostile atmosphere. The wife is always dissatisfied with her husband, often unreasonably insulting, makes far-fetched and unreasonable demands and claims. If there are children in the family, this unfavorable situation has a very negative effect on their emotional and mental health. Unfortunately, men in such a situation are often simply thwarted in response, showering the other half with rude words and reproaches. As a result, scandals exhausting both partners occur in the house almost every day.

To solve this problem with full seriousness should be approached by both spouses. It is important for a man to figure out what the reason for this behavior lies and the almost constantly inflated state of her partner. The wife should also work on her psychological difficulties. She should try to find a way out not in the sphere of scandals and systematic humiliation of a loved one, but in rational methods of correction and control of the psycho-emotional state.

Consider the possible reasons for the discord of family relationships in a couple, because of which the wife is always rude, insulting and expressing dissatisfaction without objective reasons.

Often lead to similar violations in relationships problems in the couple's sex life. Being for a long time unsatisfied with sexual relations, but not being able, embarrassed or unwilling to express it, the woman gradually accumulates emotional stress. Over time, stress only increases, and the spouse begins to unconsciously seek relaxation in the domestic sphere. Many women do not associate the sexual life with their psychological state at all. This greatly complicates the awareness and subsequent resolution of problems in relationships.

Barrier to improving family life is the shyness of one or both spouses. Partners are not ready to competently discuss sex, to express mutual wishes to each other, to point out some negative points. Such a situation, when a couple lacks a healthy sex life that satisfies both partners, greatly complicates the relationship outside the bed.

Emotional remoteness of spouses, lack of common interests and the opposite of characters greatly complicate family life. Often is the situation when the choice of a man to marry was somewhat forced. Unfortunately, even today, marriages of convenience or at the insistence of parents are still being concluded. The reason for such an unsuitable union may be unplanned pregnancy.In any case, almost certainly such partners, cohabiting in marriage, will be deprived of a sincere spiritual relationship.

Lack of common interests and points of contact will complicate normal communication. But living side by side, it is impossible to ignore the existence of each other. Therefore, the reasons for communication, in this case - negatively colored, are simply thought out. This results in cavilings, reproaches, insults from one or both spouses.

The reason that a woman scolds her husband can be family environment, which she observed in childhood. In other words, a girl or woman, having entered into marriage and having begun a life together with a man, unconsciously repeats the scenario of building relationships that she saw with her parents. Often in such cases there are even children's psychological trauma, if the girl had to observe heavy scenes of scandals and even violence.

Pit up the situation in the family and parents of the wife can. Most often mum interferes in the relationship of the daughter. Mother-in-law can negatively respond to his son-in-law. Often, an adult woman may even embark on adventures in order to humiliate her chosen elect in the eyes of her daughter. The situation is even more aggravated if the spouses live in the same house or apartment with the wife’s parents.

The reason for the sharp and rude behavior of his wife may lie in the negative traits of the man himself. Spouse thus forced to defend or defend their interests. Often husbands openly manifest unreasonable jealousy, possessiveness, restrict the freedom of the second half, not allowing it to realize their interests, engage in hobbies. Deprived of communication with friends, not having the opportunity to do an interesting business for themselves, in addition to work and family, the woman responds by tearing off her emotional stress on her spouse.

Severe consequences for the psycho-emotional sphere of women experienced episodes of violence, including sexual violence, by a man. It can be a beating of the father, and fierce fights with an elder brother, rape by a partner or an unfamiliar man. If a woman did not receive psychological help and was unable to cope with the injury on her own (which is possible in very rare cases), then fear, resentment, helplessness before brute force will long remain in her subconscious. This is a very difficult situation requiring long-term rehabilitation and work with a psychotherapist. Women are most often ashamed of this experience, and the husband may not even know that the wife was once subjected to violence. Consequently, it cannot even conceive that the root of the problem behavior of the second half lies precisely there.

Of course, a loving spouse will certainly want to return the calm and friendly atmosphere to his family. However, it is worth adjusting yourself to the fact that this may not be done as quickly as we would like. In any relationship, marital or premarital, patience plays an important role. It is this quality that is important to stock up on, setting the goal of preserving and strengthening your marriage.

Psychological advice for men

• Try to have a trusting relationship with your parents, close friends and relatives of your spouse. This will help to significantly reduce the likelihood of negative comments on their part. Your second half has been your beloved daughter, sister or close friend for many years. Seeing you as a closed person who avoids contact, they are more likely to feel distrust towards you. And then on the part of parents and friends, it is quite possible to expect a defensive reaction in the form of slanders and setting up your spouse against you. Communicating with friends and relatives of the spouse, you can also discover her identity more fully. And these are new topics for conversations and activities for joint recreation and creativity.
• Spend time trusting conversations with your wife. Remember, she has interests and concerns that she needs to share with a loved one.Do not rush to condemn or prohibit anything without objective reasons.

• Do not ignore problems in sexual life. Talk to your wife about her feelings during intimacy. If you and your wife are not ready to discuss such a question, do not be afraid to contact a sex worker. All over the world, married couples visit such counselors, and this helps to strengthen marriage, improve mutual understanding, and often prevents divorces.
• Objectively evaluate your behavior, habits, style of communication with your spouse. Self-analysis of their personal qualities is useful in all situations. Often we reproach a loved one for doing it ourselves regularly.
• Often husbands make a mistake, trying to please the second half in all conflicts. Of course, you need to make contact and correct really perfect mistakes. But here indulge unreasonable demands, insults and cavils is still not worth it. This way you will not get rid of the essence of the problem.

Follow simple tips.

• Try to be calm, do not respond with rudeness to rudeness, do not aggravate the situation. Constructive adequate communication is much more effective than a hot altercation.
• If the spouse can not calm down and does not make contact, perhaps you should leave her alone for a while. Take some time to another room or go for a walk. Before that, gently tell your wife that her words are very offensive to you, and that you are ready to give her time to recover and then calmly discuss the problem with her.
• Learn the techniques of controlling the emotional state. For example, breathing on the bill. To calm you do not quickly count to yourself up to 4, taking an even inhale, hold your breath for 4 more counts at the same pace, then exhale evenly for 8 counts.