If the family broke up, it does not mean that the relationship is exhausted comprehensively. For children and for themselves, the best outcome of a relationship is to remain, if not friends, then close people. That is why there is nothing surprising in the fact that the ex-husband decides to give the ex-wife a birthday present or other holiday gift. Moreover, if the former wife is the mother of his child, this is a civilized, intelligent approach.
Are flowers appropriate?
Flowers - classic and easy solution. A rare woman does not like that on a special day for her, relatives, friends, colleagues give her flowers. And if relations with the former husband are not so warm and kindred in order to count on a more substantial gift, then flowers will be the best compromise solution.
The moment is delicate, because the new elect of the former wife (and the current girlfriend of the ex-husband) can be jealous, seeing how flowers are bought from a woman from the past. But a reasonable approach and trusting relationship will not leave the place of jealousy and misunderstanding.
Moreover, very often ex-husbands and for a child's birthday give flowers to an ex-spouse with the words “Thank you for the daughter (son)”.
Therefore, such bindings are appropriate, but they say that after parting, people do not burn bridges, but retain appreciation for a good common past and continuation in the form of children.
Therefore, flower delivery to the former wife with a postcard “Happy Birthday! You are the beautiful mother of our daughter (son)! Be happy! ”There is no ugly background that hurts the current halves of the ex-spouses. What kind of flowers to give, etiquette strictly does not mean. Classic options in favor - roses, tulips, chrysanthemums, asters. Fashionable and very beautiful combination - yellow tulips and irises.
Standard solutions
It is not necessary that the present to the ex-wife should be expensive: if you present sweets, tea / coffee, balsam and flowers - this is quite convincing for people who are no longer in a relationship. Nevertheless, it is a sign of attention, a sign of complicity. What else can you give?
- Not very high cost certificate. This may be a certificate in a spa, clothing or cosmetics store. But to give a certificate to a lingerie store is not worth it - the message is unequivocal, is possible only in rare situations (often leading to the resumption of relations).
- Jewelry. In some cases possible. If such gifts are perceived as appropriate for the former spouses, if you do not want to put the ex-wife in an uncomfortable position with the help of earrings or pendant, then there is no reprehensible in this gift. But if it is unexpected, too expensive, and presented with a challenge - relevance is excluded.
- Gift box. Beautiful, modern, and some intelligent neutrality is preserved. In such a box can be cosmetics, chocolate, candy, other sweets, elite alcohol, beautiful dishes, etc.
- Voucher. And this is one of the best options, if the voucher implies rest with a joint child. Let it be even a ticket for 3 days in a holiday home in the country, and not at sea - this is a very convincing, unequivocal, pleasant birthday gift.
It is very important what kind of relationship remained between the former spouses. If warm, smooth, then you do not need to look for universal gifts - you know the tastes, preferences of each other, they hardly managed to change dramatically after the dissolution of the marriage.
How to give?
The answer to this question also depends on the circumstances of your marriage, divorce, current relationship.In many families, the former husband is a guest at a birthday party, to whose arrival everyone is understanding, without omissions. If the situation is such, then the gift is presented traditionally. If the arrival of the ex-husband to the festival is not quite appropriate, there are two options: order delivery or donate after the holiday, in a neutral place.
Many spouses give gifts to former wives through children - and there is nothing “criminal” about this.
Perhaps more than the present, the ex-spouses are waiting for good words and wishes from a once beloved man. You can always pick up words that smooth corners, help you forget grievances, build bridges of understanding.
If you feel some awkwardness, take the child "as accomplices." Together, buy a bunch of colorful balloons, a cake, flowers, and at a convenient time congratulate your former spouse.
The child helps to balance, removes moments of constraint. There are also situations where you know that your ex-wife is not going to celebrate her birthday (not before anyone, with many worries), and if you order a modest restaurant table for her and the child, the gesture most likely will not go unnoticed . The main thing is to know exactly about her intentions - common children can orient you.
Examples of congratulatory speeches
- "Happy Birthday! Although we broke up, it does not negate the fact that you are a part of my life, and there is a lot of good in it that is connected with you. I wish you to be happy, surrounded by good people, wonderful events. Take a small gift from me, it's nice to make you happy. ”
- "Happy Birthday! On your day, I want to say again - you are a beautiful woman, a wonderful mother, a good and kind person. I am grateful to you for the time spent together. I wish you health, love, warmth and well-being. Thank you for our child, he will bind us all his life, which means we will always remain close friends. You can always count on me, congratulations. ”
If you do not disregard the birthday of your ex-wife, it is only for the benefit of your children. They learn that a person cannot be erased from life: you can forget about insults and quarrels, keeping in mind the good things that were surely in life together. Therefore, such a positive example of human relations, support, is always better than silence, ignoring holidays and joyful events in the life of a once close person. Of course, not all relationships that end contribute to this, but in most cases this is possible.
Other gift options for girls can be found in the video below.
