Crosses do not carry parades, do not choose according to the principle “the more - the steeper”, they practically do not remove. If you have not yet decided on your religious feelings, if you are not imbued with faith and are not convinced that you are ready to accept Christian dogma, perhaps you should not wear a cross. Only when the feelings are sincere, conscious, is it worth wearing a cross.
Is the gift appropriate?
Gifts with religious overtones are always taken more seriously than any trinkets or expensive things, but without any sacred meanings. And it can be understood: a religious gift is not so much about beauty and utility, it is about involvement in a religion to which you strive to become closer. Every Christian should ideally wear a cross. It is a symbol of faith, in a sense, a talisman, which objectively reflects the feelings of the believer, devotion to the Christian religion.
By tradition, men who are chosen to play the role of godfather are presented with a symbol of faith to their godson — a pectoral cross.
If mom and dad consciously reacted to the choice of godparents, if they are confident in these people, then such a gift will be made from the heart, with good thoughts and intentions. You can give crosses on christening day, but you need to make sure that they are already consecrated.
It is interesting that godparents can make such a gift more than once. As the child grows up, it is possible to replace a simple cross with a product, for example, from precious metal. This is normal, acceptable, and you can get such a birthday gift or other holiday a second time.
Signs
Signs that are associated with donation do not always intersect with the Christian faith. She does not accept superstitions and conjectures that come from the evil one or simply from ignorance. Again, some signs associated with esotericism, and whether to rely on them is everyone’s business.
There is a judgment: if you take a cross from a person with a bad fate, his fate will become part of yours.
But it is easy to criticize. Of course, if someone took off the cross and handed it to you, this gift with great stretch can be called appropriate. Even to those who oppose any signs, this may seem at least unscrupulous. There are other well-known signs.
- A metal object saves the energy of a person, so even those who simply hold it in their hands, hand over part of their energy to it. Such statements are controversial. According to him, a person with bad energy, even just holding onto the handrail of a metal trolley in a store, gives you his power, and, perhaps, fate, in a completely random way. If you believe in it, in your faith there is more paranoia than common sense.
- If a cross is bought by a godfather to a child, he gives him his fate. Just think if you have met such stories in your life. Remember your godfather and analyze whether your destinies are similar. Conclusions will come themselves.
Suffice it to say that the ministers of the church categorically relate to prejudice. There should not be a cross, a pure creed, a subject of controversy, superstition, will accept.
On the holidays
The forums often featured the question whether a wife can present a cross to her beloved husband for her birthday. However, it is completely incomprehensible why he causes so much controversy. Yes, it is good if the donation of a small cross falls on major religious holidays, but not necessarily everything should coincide so perfectly.
If a man is a believer, but his cross is lost, or for some reason he hasn’t worn it for a long time, his wife can give a cross to her husband.The main thing is to do it with good thoughts, to buy consecrated crosses and not to evaluate the goods by its size.
The pectoral cross does not need to be displayed. If you are not a clergyman, but an ordinary parishioner, you should not demonstrate a cross, wear it over a shirt, T-shirts. If you bring a cross from some trip to holy places and you know that a person close to you just wanted to get a cross, it will be a worthy gift.
You can give a cross for Christmas, to make such a gift on Easter Eve is also good. Another important point: you can’t require godparents to buy a chain in addition to a cross. This is overkill: it’s useless for a small child.
From another's body
Not once there have been cases when a cross took off a person and donated to another. This situation requires delicate consideration. Probably, you read about how mother crosses helped sons in battle. Perhaps their faith, luck, intuition saved them, but it is impossible to deny that they endowed a material object with special properties, and this helped them.
Therefore, if you are ready to accept the cross that the other person was wearing, then there must be a very strong argument. You can say that you must believe and trust this person unconditionally.
In most cases, try not to do this. And the point is not that someone else’s fate will be yours. If you are a person susceptible to suspicion, then you will be tormented by the thought that you "tried on" someone's fate. Hence, involuntary associations, suspicions, fears and anxieties. Therefore, everyone’s cross should have its own, because the expression “everyone carries his cross” does not exist by chance.
Who can not take?
It also happens that a person can not refuse to accept a gift: shy, afraid to offend.
But do not be afraid to say no in a situation that is unpleasant to you.
In some cases, do not take a cross as a gift.
- From an unfamiliar person. This is basically inappropriate, and you can tell him that the cross is too significant for you, and you cannot accept it as a gift.
- From an unbeliever. If for someone a cross is nothing more than an accessory, and he gives it to you without any Christian message, refuse such a gift.
- From a person who does this for selfish purposes. The cross can be given only with good thoughts, from a pure heart.
Finally, only indelicate, ignorant people give a cross without any warning. The gift is symbolic, special, and his donation must always be coordinated with the person. This is not the case when the surprise will work 100%.
Going, for example, on a trip to Jerusalem, ask loved ones what to bring from there. And if the list of gifts will be a cross, you buy it without any hesitation.
The theme of giving a small cross is not categorical, and departures from generally accepted cases are possible. If you and your friend exchange crosses to become spiritual brothers (which was once practiced by the Slavs), you follow your intuition, your decision. If it is beyond doubt, there is no such document or rule that will prevent you from doing so.
Faith is not about symbols, objects, clear rules, from which it is a sin to deviate. The cross does not make you a Christian, but respect for him is always honored.
On the rules of wearing a cross of his and someone else's, see the following video.
