How to stop being a neurotic?

Neuroticism is not a disease, it is a chain of negative stereotypes rooted in the psyche. Born in childhood, the problem often deprives a person of the joy of life, gives rise to inferiority complexes and heightened anxiety about the future.

In our difficult time, full of stress, it is not uncommon for people to experience psychological problems. Neuroticism is a state of mind that is not considered a disease but requires treatment. Neurotic is a personality type. The human individual, who is difficult to finish the job, as he lowers its capabilities and can not realize themselves. From here, a person with neuroticism will experience anxiety, suspiciousness, and emotional instability.

It is known that the human brain includes approximately one hundred billion nerve cells - neurons that are interconnected into stable connections. Thus, patterns, habitual actions and stereotypes appear in the psyche. 80–85% of neural chains are laid up to the age of five and are associated with the behavior of parents and their attitude towards the child. Children who are cherished and loved, in the overwhelming majority of cases, become mentally healthy adults. And if the baby loves relatives and does not receive reciprocity, he suffers and feels himself superfluous and rejected.

Knowledgeable parents will not bring the child to the occurrence of painful reactions, focusing on unsuccessful actions and weaknesses. And also one should not tell the child that there are bad people and envious people around him.

If a person demonstrates his behavior at least one of the following features, it is time to take action.

1. Is in constant anticipation of failure or failure, until the phobias.
2. Goes to extremes from gullibility and naivety to mistrust and suspicion. It is common for such people to blame others for all their sorrows and problems.
3. Stress and anticipation of failure breeds intolerance and irritability. Neurotic interferes with everything and everyone, extraneous sounds and the presence of other people. He constantly feels tired and depressed.
4. Despite the hypertrophied passion for their own health, panic flashes and disorders of the vegetative system, pressure surges, and headaches do not pass. Bad health is associated exclusively with disorders of nervous activity.
5. As a result, business relationships with other people and personal life fade into the background, there is apathy in the sexual sphere.

But doctors say that it is possible to cure such conditions, even if it takes a long time and patience. It is necessary to work on yourself to stop being a neurotic and gain the joy of life.

Psychologists in professional practice use an uncomplicated method developed by M. Labkovsky. He invites patients to adhere to several postulates in their daily lives. helping to overcome habitual neurocircuits in thinking and behavior.

• Do just the way you want yourself. Do not do what you do not like and do not want to do.
• Do not be afraid to say that when something does not like. This should be done immediately.
• Do not say anything extra, to answer the question.Do not tell anything if not asked.

People instinctively move their hands and head, bend and return to their original position to calm down. Thus was born the practice of "self-concussion", popular in the treatment of neuroticism.

There are several important important steps that can help with treatment. It depends on them whether you break the usual pattern of waiting for the bad and take a normal constructive and positive attitude.

• First of all, you need to confess increased nervousness to yourself and close people. Do not ignore the problem, but listen to your own body.
• Become a friend to yourself. Understand that loving yourself is a necessity. From the mirror, a man who loves you is looking at you.
• Premonition of disruption and anxiety are brewing - it means it's time to meditate. Disconnect from the situation and reflect on the other. Do not let the voltage increase. To have a break. Return back to thoughts in 15-30 minutes and in a different state. This will make it possible to get away from hasty conclusions and not to make mistakes, to change the perception and attitude towards what is happening in the direction of unemotional.

• Try to last three weeks without negative emotions. For this you need to fully concentrate on your own feelings. The control will allow to carry out any jewelry - a bracelet or a ring. If during the day you have an unexpected unpleasant feeling - dress the ring or bracelet on the other hand. It is necessary to overcome oneself and suppress completely the negative in relation to the situation or person, as well as to oneself. The marathon is won by that fighter who will win himself and control emotions for all three weeks, as this technique requires.
• Love the sport and long walks in the fresh air. The basic rule is a minimum of communication with people and a maximum of attention - trees and flowers around.
• Forgive old offenses and do not replenish the list of new ones. Try to let go of your thoughts about being hurt. Give thanks for the science - in fact, much of what was said to you was offensive, but fair. There is a path to improvement, and not a reason to be upset.
• If it does not work, forgive yourself and give the opportunity to make mistakes. You can survive it easier and go on. As you know, the road will be mastered.

If possible, do not communicate with those who steal from you the time for creativity and doing things you love, for a long time talking about unpleasant things. Break off long-lasting telephone conversations and strive to communicate with people who are creative and positive in this world.

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