Love and sympathy can occur at any age, to someone such feelings come at 10 or 11 years old, and someone starts to think about it only at 16. And this is absolutely normal. But not always mutual interest arises from the first minutes, because many boys think about how to please the girl in school and get her position.
Start with yourself
Regardless of age, girls prefer educated and tidy guys with whom it is pleasant to communicate. Therefore, the first step towards conquering your chosen one is to objectively evaluate yourself.
For this you need to honestly answer yourself a few questions.
- Do you play sports?
- Do you have any hobbies?
- Do you enjoy respect among your peers?
- Do you study well?
- Do you follow your appearance?
If the answer to most questions is negative, you need to change something in yourself.
Each of these points is important in the life of a young man and helps to become a harmonious and developed person. Such a guy has more chances to attract the attention of a girl.
Do sports
Regular training is an opportunity to keep fit, and team sports are taught to find a common language with others and help develop leadership skills. Athletes are often popular at school, so joining their ranks in any case will be useful. And a possible victory in the competition will definitely help to stand out.
In addition, the girl you like can always be invited to cheer for you and say that it was her support that gave you strength and helped you achieve the goal. She will appreciate this compliment. True, for all this you need to be sure that the victory is really real, and if not, you will be able to lose with dignity.
If you do not see yourself in sports, you can simply go to the gym to develop muscles and not worry about excess weight. Even if you are an interesting conversationalist and an extraordinary person, the first impression often consists of the external appearance, so you should take care to look attractive for girls.
Find a hobby
Unusual hobbies will help you to attract attention. You will be able to interest your darling and stand out from a number of other guys who are not interested in anything other than computer games.
If you are able to do something with your own hands, for example, you burn on wood or do carving, then you can use your skills to make an original gift and surprise a girl.
General hobbies are a good topic for conversation, and joint activities with your favorite business help to get closer. Find out what the girl is interested in, maybe she attends some circles or sections, then you can go there together. This will help you spend more time together, especially if it is from a parallel class or, in general, you are not of the same age, so you only see at school during recess.
Browse her pages on social networks - often by profile you can understand what a girl likes. Even if you do not understand anything about her hobbies - ask to tell about them, show interest.
Be a class leader
Girls like confident and brave guys, that is, leaders who stand out with something. These are usually respected in the team, their opinions are considered.
If you are a rather reserved person, try to get out of the circle of loneliness, make friends and use them to develop leadership skills.
Find what you like, for example, become a captain of a school sports team or gather a musical group, declare yourself. It is not necessary to become an absolute leader in the class, you need to strive to become one of them.
In addition, you can express yourself as a brave and active person, helping others and protecting the weak. Many girls dream of a real knight, and if you are like this in her eyes, she will definitely agree to go on a date with you.
Spend time studying
If the girl you liked is good at learning, she is unlikely to pay attention to the losers. So you have to catch up and how to do their education.
You can use this as an occasion to start a dialogue, for example, ask her to explain to you the rule or the way to solve the problem.
If you are a good student, and your darling is not given something - then you should offer her help yourself. But do it benevolently, so that your advice does not look like a mockery or a favor. Behave sincerely, do not try to seem better than it actually is. Perhaps the girl is aware of all your affairs from the same classmates or fellow rivals.
Take care of your appearance
Any guy should always look neat and polite. And if he wants to please someone, then you need to double monitor their appearance and upbringing.
It is not necessary, of course, to dress according to the latest fashion squeak and only in branded items, bow to all teachers and offer to help a school technician to sweep the corridor at school, but There are a few points that need special attention.
- Take a shower regularly and use deodorant. The unpleasant smell of sweat, dirty fingernails and unwashed hair make the girls disgusted and want to stay away from the sluts.
- Do not allow cases in the school in dirty shoes - all the ladies, without exception, immediately lose interest in such people.
- Watch your clothes — they should be clean and tidy. Do not wear worn, crumpled and greasy things - girls immediately notice it.
- If you have acne - get a special cream that will help get rid of them. And better go to a dermatologist, not to make yourself worse.
- Try to get a haircut on time and watch at least here for fashion. Girls are very kind to this nuance in the guise of guys.
What do girls like?
Tastes and preferences may differ, especially in adolescence, when many people are interested in trying different things. Therefore, even if you know what the girl liked when she was 14, when she was in the 7th grade, it is possible that next year, when she is 15, she will have completely different tastes. Over the summer, many are changing, discovering new interests. Find out what exactly she is interested in so as not to find herself in an awkward position.
Age also does not always help to determine someone's interests. In many respects it depends on the personality and character. There are girls who from early childhood liked noisy games, and then - parties and parties, and there are those who are already 13 years old think about the future and devote a lot of time to study. Some of them are very romantic people, while others have leadership abilities and even compete with guys.
If you liked a classmate, then it will be easier to find out what she likes, because you constantly see her in the classroom and can hear her discussing her hobbies.
But if a girl is studying in a different class, it will be more difficult to establish contact with her, including due to the fact that you cannot always see. The way out of this situation will be the Internet - find it on social networks and see what it likes, what posts it likes and what groups it consists of. There you can start chatting.
Girls are more inclined to notice various trifles, so you need to remember to give your chosen one some signs of attention:
- be sure to greet her, otherwise she may decide that you are shy or simply ignore her;
- at least sometimes to tell her compliments, but if you hesitate to do it out loud, start with nice comments under her photo or post in social networks;
- be a gentleman - give her outerwear, hold the door, stretch out your hand when she gets out of transport, help carry the bag.
Do not make mistakes
Some guys, seeking to please the girl in school, achieve the exact opposite effect. You need to pay attention to your behavior and not make mistakes.
Do not think that everything is formed by itself. Even if you are an active young man, the soul of the company, how does a girl know that you like her, if you don’t show any signs of attention?
Try not only to stand out from the crowd, but also make it clear that you are not indifferent to it.
Perseverance and confidence is good, but do not overdo it, nobody likes arrogance.
No need to try to take a girl's free time and constantly melt before her eyes. Such guys over time begin to avoid.
Don't immediately ask if she likes you. Few people can immediately answer this question, rather, you make the girl feel uncomfortable. Wait a while until you get used to each other. It will be better if you never ask. If you like, the girl herself will say about it.
If she refused you - do not worry too much. This does not mean that something is wrong with you, because people cannot control their feelings, perhaps, she just has other preferences. You can not please everyone. Try to take it calmly, do not blame the girl, and most importantly, do not try to force to be with you - nothing good will come of it.
The following video presents a number of signs by which you can determine the sympathy of the girl to the guy.