What you need to know about meeting with parents?

Sooner or later in life there comes a time when a meeting with the parents of the second half. Every girl or boy should be aware of what you need to know about meeting your parents and how to behave correctly.

The moment when the second half offers to get acquainted with mother and father is considered a turning point in the life of any couple. The girl believes that this step shows the seriousness of intentions in relation to her chosen one, and for a guy it is an awareness of responsibility for the whole family of her girlfriend.

Familiarity with parents rarely occurs at the initial stage of a relationship. A woman should make sure that she chose a man with whom she wants to stay until the end of her days, to marry him and have children. When such feelings appear, you can agree to a visit to a potential mother-in-law and father-in-law. A man should also make sure of his feelings and be sure that his half is the same one with which he wants to build a life and create a family.

Each person wants to please the family of his chosen one, as further relations may depend on this factor. The girl, just like the guy, is nervous before the day of their acquaintance and tries to prepare more carefully to guarantee a good impression. To do this, you can learn the basic rules of behavior that will help to behave correctly and show knowledge of etiquette.

Before meeting a guy, he should carefully study the “portrait” of his girlfriend's parents and prepare well for the upcoming event. For every girl mom and dad are an example to follow. For this reason, it is forbidden to speak bad words to future relatives, even if they are negatively opposed to the choice of their daughter.

Before the meeting, you can ask your beloved about what preferences her parents have: what they are fond of, and what, conversely, can not tolerate. You need to get the maximum amount of information to decide how to behave. Then you should start preparing for difficult issues that will not work. If a guy comes to his beloved's house, it means that he has serious plans for her. Each parent is afraid of such a moment in the life of his child, so he begins to fall asleep to the potential son-in-law with various questions.

For this reason, it is recommended to work out in advance your answers regarding questions about career, views on life, prosperity, seriousness of intentions. It is important that the answers do not look memorized, but sound natural and deliberate. Do not lie and overestimate their abilities. During the conversation, you need to speak the truth and stay confident. Confidence emanating from a man at the first meeting, softens the parents. Thanks to this, they will realize that they trust their child in safe hands.

There are several key rules of etiquette that you should read before you meet.

• Appearance. The phrase: "meet on clothes" is appropriate in this case. For this reason, you should not dress up in ripped jeans and stretched T-shirt, so as not to spoil the impression. However, wearing an expensive suit and a butterfly is also not worth it.When choosing clothes should be careful to look neat and decent. For this fit everyday things. The condition of the nails and hair should also be taken care of.
• Self-confidence. From the first minutes of being in the house from the man must proceed confidence. When meeting my father, I need to shake hands and keep a low profile. However, the girl's mom may behave differently. Some women may rush to hug their future son-in-law, while others only greet each other dryly. Regardless of the behavior of parents, you should bring a small gift. The best option is a cake or a box of chocolates, as well as a bouquet of flowers.
• Punctuality. Do not be late for a meeting. Arriving before the appointed time is also not necessary.

• Communication The key to good dating is the ability to communicate. A good companion, with whom it is pleasant to have a conversation on any topic, will surely please parents.
• Gallant attitude. During lunch, you should take care of your half and behave towards it carefully. Replay is not recommended, because everything must have a sense of proportion. Excessive affection and closeness to the girl can annoy the parents. We should not forget about the halves of my mother, as she quickly succumbs to the temptation of the future son-in-law. Having obtained its location, you can be sure that no one will oppose marriage.
• To win the location of possible mother-in-law You can with the help of their charm and confidence. You should not become self-contained, it is better to behave openly. Delayed at a party is also not recommended. After lunch or dinner, you should begin to gather, thanking for a good pastime.
• After leaving you should not look back and immediately start calling your beloved. It is best to wait a while and wait for a call from her. Such a manner of behavior is not capable of causing a feeling of discontent among any of the parents.

To meet the parents of the beloved passed well, you need to prepare well for this event. It is recommended to use the following recommendations.

• Do not be afraid. Every girl is worried, but you should not bring yourself to panic. Nervousness can play a bad joke, and when meeting with her parents, the girl will not look cute, but hysterical or excited.
• Updating the information about parents from a guy. In advance, you should learn as much information as possible from your beloved: rules in the family, views on life, hobbies, education of parents. Such knowledge will help create a psychological portrait of a possible mother-in-law and father-in-law and prepare. It is recommended to immediately clarify the taboo topics.
• Positive attitude. No need to look at the situation negatively and wait for a trick. Familiarity with parents elevates relationships to a new level. In preparing for the meeting, it is better to set yourself up for positive changes in the future.
• You should immediately forget about the famous mother-in-law stereotype. On how the relationship begins at the first meeting, will depend on the future life with your loved one. If it fails to improve relations with the mother-in-law, the man will rush "between two fires" and suffer. One should learn to be wise, even if this quality is not in her mother-in-law. A man will always appreciate such a feature in his beloved.
• The main goal is mom. In most families, upbringing rests on the shoulders of women, so it is important to gain recognition for the future mother-in-law. However, this does not mean that the boy’s father can be ignored. Pay attention to all family members. It is necessary to act sincerely and discard all the play.

Each guy or girl, when there is a question about meeting the parents of their second half, thinks about the gift. Usually at the first visit they bring with them a bouquet of flowers and something for tea. Most people think that visiting without a gift is a sign of poor tone.This belief is partly true, but you need to know the sense of proportion and be serious about choosing a present.

Gifts can cause different reactions. If there is no information about the taste preferences of parents, you should proceed with caution. You also need to know the attitude of future relatives to the presents. If they do not like to receive them, it is best to treat this with understanding and come to visit with a cake or a good box of chocolates.

In some cases, even the most good thoughts can turn against a person. There is a category of parents who associate gifts with bribery and believe that they are given only to put down their guard. The father of a loved one may not pay attention to such a factor, but mothers are sensitive to such actions. Therefore, before handing any thing, you should think carefully. If you do not want to come empty-handed, you can opt for confectionery.

The topic of conversation is another problem that boys and girls think about before meeting with their half-parents. There are a large number of questions on how to behave, what to say and how to behave. First of all, you need to stop worrying, and to eliminate unnecessary discomfort, it is better to come along with your half. It should collect your thoughts and manage your emotions. Conduct a conversation with a smile. Stretching the mask of decency is not the best option, since insincerity will immediately be evident. Naturalness is the most optimal behavior.

Topics for conversation can be thought out in advance, based on the preferences of mom and dad, which you can learn from your couple. No need to strive to please everyone and use the jargon that is used during conversations with friends.

It may happen that parents do not like the boy or girl of their child. To find out feedback, you can call your half and clarify how it all went. If there is any dissatisfaction, it is better to find out the reason immediately. Perhaps because of the nerves some kind of mistake was made that was not immediately noticed or the topics that were unacceptable in this family were raised. If a fatal error has occurred, the next time you need to apologize for it. Mom will appreciate such an act.

Since acquaintance with parents is not an easy ritual, it is recommended to get acquainted with the recommendations of a psychologist. They will help prepare for the visit and "do not fall face in the dirt."

• Some parents conduct peculiar checks of a potential relative and try to provoke. In this case, you can not support the provocations and resist them. It is best to show wisdom and find a way out of the situation.
• If the situation starts to get out of control, you can try to translate everything into a comic form or change the topic of conversation. If nothing happens, a distraction to the narrative of a ridiculous case will help.
• Rude parents are a rare occurrence. If you had to deal with this, do not get angry. However, letting yourself be humiliated is not necessary either. The best option is restraint and lack of rudeness.

• It is important to try to leave only positive emotions about yourself whenever possible. If you were asked to see an album with photos, do not refuse.This will give a chance to quickly get closer with the family of their halves.
• You can not negatively respond to the parents about your partner. No insults are allowed. No matter how he behaves and no matter how a person he is, it is impossible to talk about this to parents at the first meeting. Even if the mother and father themselves began to talk about the fact that their son or daughter had flaws, it is not recommended to support such speeches.

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