Extrovert from "A to Z" - everything you wanted to know about this type of personality

Surely many of us have heard more than once anything about a temperament test, also known in psychology as the “Eysenck Test,” by the name of the British psychologist Hans Jürgen Eysenck, who is its author. Testing is aimed at determining which type of personality is being tested: an extrovert or an introvert.

This article focuses on extroverts. You will be able to get acquainted with the extraverted personality type, find out who the extrovert person is, how to correctly communicate with him, and also we will turn slightly to psychology to find out what is meant by such a thing as “extroversion”.

The term "extrovert" appeared in psychology in 1921. Then the geniuses of psychology, Carl Gustav Jung and Hans Jürgen Eysenck, divided two concepts: “introversion” and “extraversion”. On their basis, they identified two relevant types of personalities: introverts and extroverts. The prefixes extra- and intro in these terms are not accidental: “extra” from Latin means “outside”, and “intro” means “inside”. Therefore, introverts direct their energy into themselves, while extroverts, on the contrary, strive to donate their activity to the outside world, i.e., they are the absolute opposite of introverts.

An extrovert is a person who gets pleasure from socialization, communication, does not think of himself alone, without attention from other people. It is characterized by special activity both in the business sphere and in the personal one. The concept of extraversion in psychology means such a psychological state of a person, in which he seeks to make friends and acquaintances, to saturate his life with communication and to actively achieve his goals.

Communication for an extrovert is synekvanon, that is, it is simply impossible to do without (from the Latin sine qua non is a prerequisite). In fact, if a person of this type of temperament is deprived of the opportunity to be in society, he immediately falls into depression, begins to feel frustrated, devastated and incapable of anything. Stress and frustration are typical states of an extrovert devoid of its usual environment.

Among the main signs of an extrovert person are the following.

• Talkativeness These people are extremely easy to communicate and establish contacts with the people around them. At the same time, they prefer to speak more than listen. It is worth noting that it is thanks to this quality that extroverts sometimes achieve impressive success in the field of public speaking and public activities.
• Activity. Here you can express everything with just one phrase: sitting still is not about them.

• Purposefulness. Their motto: "If there is a dream, there is a way to fulfill it." And extroverts are ready to put a lot of effort and effort to translate their plans and intentions into reality. In the process of achieving their goal, they are even ready to make substantial sacrifices, if only everything turned out as planned.Such a sense of purpose can be explained by the need of extroverts in the recognition of society.
• Sympathy. Extroverts are not of those who stand aside when they see the difficulties and problems of others. They are always ready to come to the rescue and provide support even to unfamiliar people. Coldness and indifference are not inherent in extrovert personalities.
• Openness This type of person does not try to pretend, in society he is what he really is. In emotional terms, such people do not seek to hide some of their feelings and impulses, do not keep emotions inside, boldly spit them out. They may even burst into tears in public if circumstances compel them, and they will not be disturbed by the fact that others will think about them and what opinion of them will be formed.
• Spontaneity. People of this temperament tend to make rash, instant decisions. They act first and then only analyze the consequences of their action. Sometimes it negatively affects their lives. So, extraverts are often said to be spends, since they are able to pull a large amount of money into something that, in fact, is not very necessary for them.
• Sense of taste. Such people know how to dress beautifully, to combine various things and objects, and not only in terms of personal style, but also in interior design.

Choosing as a partner a male extrovert, you need to be clearly aware that such a chosen one is distinguished by emotionality, which means sensual impulses, and sometimes even breakdowns, he will not hide in himself. Such behavioral features can undermine relationships, and sometimes even destroy them. However, everything can be leveled understanding attitude and the same emotional impact from the partner.

Relations with an extrovert man are sometimes very difficult, especially if a woman is completely opposite in her temperament. Despite the generally accepted stereotype that "opposites attract," these opposites may simply not get along with each other. Failure in such a relationship can be guaranteed in some situations.

• The partner is constantly in a bad mood, she has a negative attitude, because of which she exhausts her chosen one with eternal whining.
• Extrovert trying to "sharpen in 4 walls." Homeopathy oppresses extroverts.

• Insults without explanation. Male extroverts are not used to keeping emotions in themselves. They follow the rule: “Don't like it - say it,” and they want the people around them to do the same. According to them, it is much better to put all the cards on the table, make a scandal, but to sort out and solve the problem, rather than “play in silence” and continue to accumulate the negative inside. They are not inclined to notice the reasons for dissatisfaction in the partners only in the manner of their communication; here you need to say everything directly, to be honest.
• The chosen one is not amenable to any adventures. An extrovert man wants to see next to him a “easy-to-rise” girl who will support any of his, even the most crazy idea, for example, the proposal to go in the middle of the night to make snow angels when it's twenty degrees below freezing outside.
• Ingratitude kills the libido of such a man. Recognition from others is extremely important to him. Here you need to celebrate any, even the tiniest little thing he did. The more praise he receives, the more feedback you can expect from him.

Women extroverts have similar qualities as men of this type of temperament. However, such women, as a rule, do not consider male introverts for a serious relationship, because they are considered weak.

So, we found out that there are two poles of temperament - introverted and extrovert. But between these poles there are many subtypes that describe both.

As for the heroes of our today's review, in socionics there is a scale dividing extroverts into 8 subcategories. Briefly consider each of them.

• Logical-intuitive. This is an entrepreneur by nature, seeking to be ahead of the curve. Failures and failures do not lead them astray; on the contrary, they even add incentive and motivation to act further. Hot-tempered, conflict.
• Logic-sensory. Workaholics. However, they will make efforts only on condition that their work will bring profit. Prudent and mercantile. We are sure that there are only two opinions: theirs and wrong.
• Ethical-intuitive. Representatives of this subtype are not completely balanced. There are too prone to stressful situations, which entails depressive states and further mental disorders. In dealing with them, it is important to avoid disputes and disagreements, otherwise the scandal cannot be avoided.
• Ethical-sensory extravert. These are obvious optimists, accustomed to relying "on chance". As a rule, they do not plan anything in advance, so they often have problems with organizing their own time.

• Intuitive-logical. They have an excellent sense, so they are accustomed to rely on their intuition, even if her voice contradicts common sense. The list of priorities in life is headed by their work and further advancements along the career ladder.
• Intuitive and ethical. These extroverts can convince anyone. Formalities and rules are not for them. They ideally analyze the behavior of other people, on the basis of which they can show flexibility in communication if they need it.
• Sensory-logical. The initiative is their middle name. Enough creative, always full of new ideas. The strength of personalities of this type can be considered resistance to stress, however, they terribly dislike when their ideas are amenable to criticism, and their plans fail.
• Sensory-ethical. Often, representatives of this type are implemented at the expense of other, weaker personalities. Not used to keep their word and keep their own promises. They try not to let themselves get too close and not to trust people. Capricious and quite picky.

In a relationship, extroverts are trying to take over. This is not surprising, because they have a very active life position, and they strive to be the first in everything.

Initially, we consider a pair of extrovert-extrovert. Such a union is quite possible. However, all extroverts are different and in order to determine the most successful relationship, we divide all the extroverts conventionally into “passionate” and “business”.

"Passionate" we will call those who are actively searching for their second half, making every effort to find a suitable pair. “Business” we will designate those who are sure that “Happiness will come — they will find it on the furnace,” that is, they fully rely on their fate, thinking that everything has its time, and if there is no relationship at this stage, it means did not come.

“Passionate” are less selective in choosing a partner, because of this they quickly make a decision about marriage, but such a marriage is not always successful and sometimes breaks up as quickly as it was built.

The priority in choosing a partner for "business" - the true feelings. Without them, they are not ready either to start relationships or build a social unit.

The union of the two "business" is also theoretically possible, but in practice only time will tell. In such a family, each will seek to influence the other and customize it for themselves. However, neither side will succumb. Although, if the partners in this marriage make mutual concessions and listen to each other, such a union will be very happy and successful.

The union of "passionate" and "business" extroverts will also be based on mutual rivalry.

As for the relationship with its complete opposite - introverts, here everything depends on the type of couple. If a man is an extrovert, and a woman is an introvert, then with a competent behavior on the part of a girl, extremely successful relationships can turn out, which will later grow into something more. But the opposite way is better to avoid. Such marriages are rarely successful, as a woman will always feel stronger than her man. Over time, she will make him a complete "henpecked", will lose respect for him, and he, in turn, will suffer from constant pressure and reproach from his wife.

In any case, the suffering side will always be an introvert, because his partner is so sociable, there are always a lot of people around him, including the opposite sex. In such conditions, it is difficult to cope with your emotions and jealousy, so scandals motivated by jealousy are possible here.

Any person should choose the type of activity, making a start not only from his own “I want - I don't want”, but also proceeding from his characteristic features and type of temperament. In combination, these conditions would help many choose exactly those professions that were interesting to them and brought pleasure and a sense of self-realization. What areas of activity should look at our extroverts, consider below.

• Secretary In this area you need to communicate a lot. And who, if not the extrovert, does it work best? Undoubtedly, communication is far from being the only, and certainly not the fundamental responsibility of the secretary. It is much more important to help people in need to organize their work and solve the problems that have arisen.
• The teacher / teacher. Extroverts are as open and emotional as children. Therefore, occupying such a position, they will definitely feel "at ease".
• Journalist / correspondent. Extraverts have all those qualities that are necessary to become a successful journalist or correspondent and move up the career ladder: communication skills, ability to apply, openness, ability to adapt in an unfamiliar environment, as well as the ability to smooth corners and cope with difficult situations.

• Administrator. If desired, an extrovert can be very persuasive, which means that he is able to stimulate people to work as they should, and to fulfill their duties efficiently. It is the ability to motivate people should be any administrator.
• Policeman. This profession is an opportunity to prove oneself. Suitable for motivated, responsible and active people.

Communicating with a type of person whose psychological energy is directed to the outside world is not as difficult as it may seem at first glance.Moreover, extroverts are accustomed to themselves go to the contact and begin to communicate first.

However, when interacting with them, it should be borne in mind that these are rather chatty natures who like to talk more than listen, so try not to interrupt them.

Since such people love big companies, parties and parties, they will appreciate those who will support them in this.

As for their relationship to others, he prefers not to become attached to others, they easily start relationships, and they are just as easy to give up.

Temperament is an important component that should be considered when raising a child. If your child is a sociable, open and socially oriented person, encourage it and in no case try to redo it.

At a very early age, this type of temperament is manifested by hyperactivity and excessive excitability. This is an inquisitive baby fidget, who is interested in absolutely everything around. This can frighten some parents and cause anxiety. However, do not panic, nothing bad about it at all.

As they get older, they easily make friends among their peers, they have no problems with communication. They are always in the spotlight. This can be considered the undoubted advantage of such children, because while other parents must make a lot of efforts to accustom their child to the society, extrovert kids are extremely independent in this regard.

Consider the main advantages of an extrovert child:

• adapts quickly to any environment;
• easily finds a common language with both peers and adults;
• inquisitive, without constraint asks and learns something new;
• not afraid to say if he does not like something;
• he is not shy when all attention is directed precisely at him, on the contrary, he loves to be the soul of the company.

It is not uncommon for such children to be born to their opposite parents — introverts, who often want to just sit at home in peace and quiet. The kid can not stand such a situation, he gets bored and sad. In such a situation, problems may arise.

Here it is important to understand that it is impossible to ignore the child and his needs. Try to somehow participate and pay attention to your child. Talk with your child, listen to him: let him at least at the evening dinner tell you what is in his mind, how the day passed, and what interesting happened.

Many introverts, tired of their closeness and isolation, do not cease to ask the question: "How to become an extrovert?". Of course, a person can change, but not so drastically. Extroverts do not become, they are born. Each of us upon coming into this world is endowed with certain traits of character and temperament. Of course, over the course of a lifetime, our psycho-types may undergo some changes, but they cannot be completely turned over, no matter how hard a person tries.

However, it is worth noting here that it is almost impossible to meet a “pure” extrovert or introvert. Even introverts may show signs of extraversion to a certain degree. If these tendencies are developed, then it is quite possible to slightly shift your psycho type from one pole to the other.

They say, "With whom you will lead ...". If you strive to develop your temperament in an extroverted manner, try to communicate and surround yourself with people of this particular psychotype. In this way, you can develop your sociability, fall in love with big companies and become a more open person.

See the following video for the difference between extroverts and introverts and the different schemes for their energy replenishment.