Neurotic: characterization, diagnosis and behavior correction

Neurotic behavior is characterized by anxiety, frequent mood swings, weakened self-control, low self-esteem. This type of person does not manage his emotions well; he sees only negative aspects in life. Unmet goals or unfinished business can cause a strong neurotic negative emotions.

A neurotic is a person with a psychological disorder that often originates from childhood or adolescence, and neuroticity is manifested as a protective feature of the body. Neurotic is a clamped person who practically can not live normally in society. The reasons for this disorder can be excessive parental care, aggressiveness of one or both parents towards the child, and indifference or reproach.

Such people experience fear:

• to be rejected;
• to make a mistake;
• adverse outcome;
• get closer with another person;
• get disapproval from others;
• move to a new place, change jobs;
• show your emotions;
• stay alone, etc.

Neurotic personality disorder includes a wide range of temporary mild mental disorders. Such violations are often associated with any emotional distress, with the result that neurosis develops over time. Neurotics can understand and criticize their own condition.

Neurosis is a psychopathic reaction to a painful situation that a person cannot experience emotionally; The result can be a variety of mental disorders. Neurotic disorders do not relate to severe mental illnesses, they are amenable to correction, but may have a protracted course, especially if you ignore the symptoms and delayed treatment.

Such states negatively affect life, emotional and psychological state, interfere with personal life and career.

In psychology, there are three main types of neurosis:

• neurasthenia;
• hysteria;
• obsessive neurosis.

Neurasthenia or astheno-neurotic syndrome develops due to inability to cope with interpersonal and intrapersonal conflicts. You can identify neurasthenia in the early stages of development, according to the following symptoms:

• irritation for minor reasons;
• distracted attention;
• slow thinking;
• quick fatigue;
• headaches and heartaches;
• decreased libido.

Neurasthenia - the most common violation of the nervous system. Most often this condition occurs in emotionally unstable, hypersensitive people.

Hysteria often develops in women, it appears because of a sense of self-pity and confidence in mental suffering. A person lives in a fictitious world, which is full of depressive thoughts, which can lead to such a state of high self-esteem, inconstancy, pamperedness and other traits of a person’s character.

A violation can occur with the following symptoms:

• uncontrollable tears;
• loss of consciousness;
• nausea, vomiting;
• dizziness;
• missing voice.

Obsessive neurosis or obsessive state is more severe in comparison with other forms. With such a violation, a person experiences various fears, strong anxieties:

• be infected with any disease;
• lose a loved one;
• to go crazy;
• obsessive thoughts or actions (constant monitoring of the pulse, pressure, constant diagnosis of your health, endless washing of hands, etc.);
• phobias;
• panic attacks;
• the pursuit of impeccability.

A person with such a violation is fully aware that his fears are groundless, but his own thoughts and beliefs do not allow him to get rid of fear and worries.

Neurosis of obsessive states has several forms:

• obsessive phobias - accompanied by rapid heartbeat, sweating, loss of a sense of reality and other reactions of the body that occur when seeing a subject of fear;
• obsessive ideas - accompanied by the frequent appearance of various images in the head, which arise spontaneously and can be repeated quite often;
• obsessive movements - accompanied by uncontrolled movements, and if a person does not complete his action, then panic begins;
• obsessive drives - a person performs certain actions, regardless of the circumstances, for example, recounts cars of a certain color, poles or other objects;
• obsessive doubts - pursuing a constant feeling of anxiety about actions that have not yet been committed.

Anxious neurosis is accompanied by a constant feeling of fear, in some cases panic, the cause of which a person is unable to explain. Such a state causes discomfort, limits it both in work and in personal relationships.

When communicating with a neurotic, a healthy person can acquire the same psychotype, therefore it is recommended to limit or, if possible, completely eliminate communication with people who have a neurotic personality type.

The difference between neurosis and neurasthenia is small, but still there. Neurosis develops in people with a neurotic personality type, with a slight deviation from mental parameters. Neurotics are critical of their own character traits, do not distort reality, they are not disturbed by hallucinations or delusions. Such people suffer from mild forms of depression, obsessive thoughts, phobias, chronic stress.

Neurasthenia implies a mental disorder from the group of neuroses. This violation is accompanied by severe irritability, fatigue, inability to long physical and mental work. Lack of sleep or rest and too hard work can lead to such a state.

The development of neurosis can provoke:

• traumatic psyche situation and a strong emotional shock;
• constant nervous tension;
• inability to satisfy needs;
• the inconsistency of the life of the one whose concepts were formed in childhood, often at the subconscious level.

The symptoms of the disorder depend on the reasons that provoked the neurosis.

The behavior of the neurotic depends on the severity of the condition. In a slight degree, there is emotional imbalance with annoying factors. In this case, the person is distinguished by adequate, but unstable behavior.

In more severe cases, hysterical seizures and absurd actions occur. So people need the help of specialists.

The following common symptoms will help to recognize a neurotic:

• short-term loss of mental and physical performance;
• inability to cope with their own fears;
• low cognitive ability;
• constant concerns about their health;
• problems in intimate life;
• persistent headache, dizziness;
• drops in blood pressure;
• excessive attention to their health;
• desire for loneliness;
• constant fatigue;
• bouts of hysteria;
• self-doubt, isolation;
• pessimism;
• desire to be the center of attention.

There are a lot of neurotic personalities today, but if you understand and learn to communicate with them, then you can build relatively normal relationships with such people. Many neurotics are not considered dangerous for society, they can suffer themselves or make others suffer (for example, “choke” with their love) with their behavior, but psychologists consider this behavior acceptable.

Feelings in a relationship for a neurotic is a special topic. For such people, love is associated with negative feelings - fear of loneliness, being misunderstood, etc. The roots of the problem in childhood are: the coldness of parents, constant reproaches on their part, raising their grandmother, endless scandals in the family, drinking parents, brothers or sisters that require a lot of attention - all this leads to the fact that the child feels rejected, lonely, misunderstood. Having matured, he will certainly look for a relationship in which he will suffer, because only in this way can he show love.

A neurotic child first of all regrets himself, while he suffers, but loves his parents very much. All these feelings are transferred to adulthood and the person by any means tries to obtain from the partner solace, pity, support, but does not give anything in return, he as if begs for love.

The main problem with the neurotic is that he does not enjoy life; husband or wife, children, do not bring joy. Such people put their desires in the first place and demand their immediate fulfillment from their partner. And if for any reason the partner does not want or cannot do what is required, this is perceived as dislike on his part. Then begin to show certain signs of neurotic behavior.

Living with a neurotic is pretty hard, but it can be even harder to part. He always wants to be there, at any time and in any place, wants to know exactly where his partner is, can bother with calls, talk about anything. Such people are demanding and unhappy. They are suitable for co-dependent relationships, when one partner demands and takes all the time, and the second fulfills and gives.

Neurosis in men is associated more with the functional side: irritability for any reason, pain and weakness in the muscles. Disturbance is more common in choleric and athletes.

Symptoms may be as follows:

• fatigue (physical and psychological);
• recurrent headaches;
• nervous exhaustion;
• inability to cope with simple logical operations.

The main symptoms in women are difficult to isolate due to their non-uniformity, here the mental state is more taken into account. Often the development of neurosis may indicate:

• frequent mood swings;
• indifference to everything;
• unwillingness to do anything;
• expression of negativity for any reason;
• in life there are only sad moments.

Neurosis in women often leads to problems in intimate life, they have completely or partially lost sexual desire.

Neurosis in a child manifests itself:

• new character traits;
• frequent causeless tears;
• hypersensitivity;
• behavior change;
• minor psychiatric traumas can react with aggression, fear, despondency.

In addition, somatic problems are observed;

• blood pressure jumps;
• respiratory disorders;
• sweating;
• disturbing sleep;
• decreased memory and concentration;
• digestive problems.

Experts in the field of psychology do not consider neurosis to be a disease, therefore there is no definite method of treatment. Psychological correction will help get rid of neurosis only if the person fully understands that his behavior is abnormal.

In mild cases, with irritability, increased exactingness, which interferes with communication with family and friends, you need to contact a psychologist. With obsessive fears, various phobias will help the therapist.

Neurosis should cause concern among relatives and friends, perhaps a person needs emergency help. Neglect of symptoms can cause problems in the life of the neurotic himself, his family and friends.

Finding contact with a neurotic personality is difficult, there are various techniques in psychology that will help you find the cause of the neurosis and carry out a psychological correction. Initially, the specialist will advise you to exclude all negative factors from life that may be the cause of such a condition; without this important condition, treatment will not be successful.

Further, the specialist will eliminate the obvious symptoms of neurosis, which will help a person to sensibly perceive life. At the end of treatment, the doctor focuses on the personality of the person, his strengths, so that he can live normally in society and respond correctly to various situations.

Finding the cause of the problem will help to cope with the neurosis. Often these are any childhood experiences, unresolved conflicts or other problems in the family. Awareness of the causes of neurosis is the first step towards overcoming it.

You need to behave with neurotic neatly. No need to convince him that he is sick and in need with professional help. Also, all explanations that life is beautiful will go unheard. It is necessary to talk and act with such people ruthlessly and quickly, often without even asking about the desire to visit a specialist.

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