How to cope with depression after a break up?

People meet, fall in love, then the pastime begins. But after a long relationship may break. It is always unbearably painful for both men and women. Depression occurs with lightning speed, capturing every part of the body and soul. It is necessary to fight this condition and, if it does not work out on its own, you need to ask for help.

Yesterday the whole world seemed open, and the sun's rays filled the entire room. Today, when there was a separation between people who were in a long relationship, this colorful world has disappeared. The pain of the soul does not abate, despite the fact that you are trying very hard to relieve it. Tears come to my eyes. For others, on the contrary, there is a lump in the throat, and “dry” eyes look “nowhere”.

These are signs that you have a psychological problem. There is - a clear depression. It developed on the background of the fact that you lost a piece of yourself, namely, a loved one. Together with him went the faith in one's own strength, the faith in the future. You are now afraid that you will never be able to love anyone. And if you love, the same situation can happen to you again - a break in relations will occur.

The fact that new problems can come with new problems is not worth thinking now. Moreover, at the moment you are experiencing severe suffering, and feelings for the former second half have not yet exhausted themselves. Today, you definitely will not have the slightest desire to get acquainted and have an affair with someone else. This is normal. Therefore, in no case do not panic and do not think that everything good that could have happened in your life has already ended for you.

At this stage it is important to recognize and be aware of the problem that you are not in a very good emotional form. And when it comes to the realization that after stress you have fallen into a stupor, then you can begin to act further.

The main thing is to admit to yourself that you are very nervous now. This factor will be the impetus for a way out of a negative situation. Do not stop yourself experiencing, but at the same time make your experiences conscious. This is the meaning of the beginning of rehabilitation.

After parting the emotional state of different people is expressed in different ways. Some are unable to experience and suffer for a long time. Optimists make themselves quickly forget about the grief that has happened, finding new hobbies for themselves.

Others, on the contrary, can live with pain in the soul for years. In a small number of individuals, this experience remains like a splinter, and lasts throughout life. It all depends on the nature of the person.

Therefore, there are three main stages of the depressive state.

• The first stage is denial. Sometimes it passes unconsciously, as it is considered a defensive reaction. Due to this property, the human psyche cannot undergo a very strong negative impact and thus protects the person from more serious consequences, such as psychosomatics. Simply put, in this situation, our consciousness does not specifically perceive the negative factors affecting our mood.
• The second stage is an aggressive state. When the first stage passes, a period comes when a person wants to act. Since consciousness is still in some kind of shock, side effects may develop against this background.The offended person can think of nothing and starts to get angry. It is necessary to get rid of this feeling, because anger cannot lead to anything good. Problems are not solved, but they are growing like a snowball.
• The third stage is an apathetic state. Also does not carry anything good. At this time, the person does not care, and he does not want to perceive the surrounding reality. The world is seen in gray colors. Such a state can end very quickly if a person is strong in spirit. If a person is prone to sluggish depression, then apathy can last for years. And some individuals may suffer from this condition their whole life.

Everyone has their own uniqueness. When treating depression, this factor must be considered. The main thing is to prevent the development of various complexes after a person has experienced loneliness after breaking a serious relationship.

For example, a person may become aggressive towards himself or the people around him. Here the situation may develop in different scenarios.

• Offended person will start revenge and no matter who and why. Goals may be different. Here everything can end very badly. The avenger himself and the one to whom he wanted revenge will suffer. Violence will make a person unbearable for the people around them. Friends and relatives can turn away from it. Loneliness will contribute to increasing the problem. And then, you may need medical attention.
• Another option is the victim complex. It is also the hardest state of an offended person. In this case, the individual becomes passive and sincerely believes that he himself is to blame for the fact that such a misfortune happened to him. Such conditions can quickly worsen. If no action is taken, it will lead to the complete denial of everything positive in life. Man becomes a nihilist. It’s hard to fight this state of mind, so it’s better not to allow such an outcome.

Those who experience this situation for the first time, for example, a girl (boyfriend), are especially hard to survive the depression. It is important to prevent more serious consequences, such as suicide. Therefore, parents should be attentive to their children.

We need the universal efforts of close people so that a person can get rid of the obsessive state. The specialist will help to cope with this problem best of all. However, not everyone has the opportunity to resort to his help.

Not getting depressed can help a close person. And for this he can use the following tips.

• First you need to change the situation. Go on vacation or visit close friends in another city. There you will receive positive emotions, and the environment will not be reminiscent of previous relationships. And if you're lucky, then maybe there you will find a new love. Be optimistic and believe in it.
• Forget about your former partner. It is hard to do, but everything depends on you. If you strongly want this, then everything will work out. The sooner you convince yourself that reunification with past love is impossible, the sooner you will realize that you are open to new relationships.
• After the trip, work hard. It does not matter what kind of activity it will be, as long as it absorbs all your attention completely. So you will replenish your budget and forget about your grief.
• And if there is time after a busy day, go in for sports. At the stadium, you will find like-minded people, maybe you will find a new love there. Act, do not sit still, and then you will be able to cope with sad thoughts on your own.

• Do not lean on food. Overeating has not helped anyone. From excess calories you will get fat and then no one will be sure for sure.At the same time, in no case should not completely refuse to eat. If you have no appetite, use your willpower. To overcome the negative you will need resources, and they can only give a balanced diet.
• Completely change the appearance. Let your friends no longer recognize you. These classes will take a lot of time, and the mood will automatically rise. It is possible that the former partner is very sorry that he did not appreciate you before.
• It also happens that from time to time it becomes unbearable to endure the surging melancholy. Derive from this state will help antidepressants. Seek advice from a professional doctor, and he will help you with choosing the right medicine.
• If the husband (wife) lives with you in the same apartment, then as soon as possible try to exchange it. If this process is delayed, then live temporarily with relatives or rent a house. Believe me, you will immediately feel better because you will not see an object that annoys you.

Do not give in to emotions. They are bad advisers. Confusion, shame, anger and sadness need to be changed to joy. Yes, it is impossible to do right away, but educate yourself and go for self-improvement. This will be your first passion after the break, which will lead you to success.

When morning begins with the thought that a loved one will not come to you again, you need to overcome these thoughts in yourself. Just forbid yourself to think about him or her.

You are a man, or a guy, or a girl — you still have to overcome your pain of loss yourself. How you will do it, and how long it will take to do it - everything will depend only on you.

Simple actions will help to avoid negative consequences.

• In the first place - it is sports. There are special exercises to relieve stress. Running on the spot, breathing training. All this can be done in the gym. A professional instructor will select the tasks you need and monitor the correctness of their implementation.

• Training on self-improvement will give impetus to out of depression. Do yoga or start writing poems. What you will do is not important, the main thing is that this business brings you moral satisfaction. Start knitting or sewing. Needlework will help earn money for additional rest and stimulate further work.
• Stop feeling depressed. Yes, maybe it is! A person likes to feel sorry for himself. He cries with delight and complains to everyone around him about an unfortunate fate. This makes it easier for him. The relief in this case is a temporary phenomenon. Such a state as a drug, delays and requires more and more new emotional portions. As a result, you can fall into a stupor.
• Stop making a perfectionist of yourself. How do you decide that you should all go smoothly, like a note? It must be remembered that all people have difficulties. They each have their own, but this does not make these difficulties less easy. Therefore, accept the fact that life consists of light and dark stripes. It’s just that some people know how to tune themselves to the positive when a dark streak sets in, while others cannot.

• To avoid serious problems will help and that you suppress the feeling of guilt that you place on yourself in all situations. Why did you decide that you are guilty of this or that negative event that happened to you? Circumstances are stronger than us. We cannot control everything. Therefore, from time to time failures occur, and you are exposed to some undesirable factors.

And finally: conduct a ceremony of farewell to depression. To do this, write on paper all your problems and resentment, and then burn the paper. Ash develop in the wind.

Remember that as soon as you close the door and leave your feelings behind it, your spiritual world will begin to recover. Make an effort - let in new happiness.

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