How to survive parting with your beloved man?

Everything in life can ever end, including love. But this does not mean that with the departure of love our happy existence ends. On the contrary, one meeting will be followed by another. But why is it so sick? Maybe because we do not know how to switch and “twist” the same plate until suffering begins to affect our well-being?

Suffering is peculiar to girls. Subtle natures fall in love and believe that they will be happy. This happens because the female psyche is always set on faith in a sweet chosen one.

Young ladies tend to “ascribe” to their beloved non-existent qualities. And in fact everything goes wrong, as we would like. The guy is not quite a decent man. It's no secret that as long as the representative of the stronger sex is caring for the lady of the heart, he tries to show himself only from the best side. He attributes to himself various virtues, behaves like a knight. This is the psychology of men. To seduce your object of adoration, which just do not go guys. The whole world is ready to throw to the feet. But time passes, and some of them begin to look at the side, while others feel cold.

There is nothing surprising. Many men can not love the same woman throughout life. And if there was a separation due to the fault of the representative of the stronger sex, it means that you met the wrong person. Therefore, do not dwell on this problem.

However, there is always someone who argues that the heart can not command. What can be safely answered that this is a controversial question.

This happens because the female characters have many-sided features, and the representatives of the weaker sex, like men, are divided into strong personalities and weak-character natures. Girls who cannot hold their emotions in their hands move in a circle of sufferings. They justify the obsession with a strong attachment to another person.

This happens for various reasons.

• Some people like to enjoy their pain. They like to make a sacrifice of themselves. From this, even some enjoy. Of course, such pleasure is doubtful and can lead to a depressive state.
• Others have such traits that are particularly obtrusive. Psychological dependence of one person on another is characteristic of a neurotic personality. These tendencies need to be fought in all sorts of ways. First of all, it is necessary that the person himself wants to get rid of his obsession with achieving something.
• Egoistic habits also contribute to increased pain during separation. In this situation, there are emotions that are aimed at the fact that the representative of the weaker sex feels offended and asks: “How could you leave me, so beautiful and loved by everyone?”. From these thoughts develops an inferiority complex and obsessive states.

• The failure to accept reality leads to suffering. The girl does not want to let go of the young man. All the time it seems to her that the former beloved will return to her, and she will again be happy, as before.Expectations heighten stress, and this leads to a worsening of the problem.
• After the breakup of relations, some girls suffer because they are unable to suppress their decadent moods for a long time. The feeling of grief haunts them and only intensifies every day. It comes to the fact that a person loses the ability to dream, to strive for something, that is, he plunges into the abyss of negative emotions. In this case, only the help of specialists can eradicate the problem.

When a difficult period comes, it is necessary to remember that help from the side will lead you sooner or later to a positive result. However, be aware that the person himself should also strive to get out of depression as soon as possible.

It is difficult to make it, but you can, if you strongly want. After all, you suffer not so much by the person himself, as by the emotions that you experienced when you were close to this person.

It is necessary to separate these two concepts. Then it will be easier for you to understand your feelings. And for this will help some tips.

• First of all, you need to understand one thing: once the end of a relationship has come, it means that you made a mistake in your choice. Perhaps your young man was not the way you imagined him.
• Next, you need to figure out and ask yourself whether there were any real feelings between you, maybe you thought up your own thoughts and believed in them. Try to analyze the events that happened to you while your young man was nearby. You may find many inconsistencies in his actions.
• Finally, you should not hope that something is still being formed, and your boyfriend will return to you and ask for forgiveness. This will never happen. And the sooner you understand this, the faster your heart will open to new feelings.

• Look around and you will see that you are not alone. Perhaps tomorrow you will meet a decent person whom you will love.
• No need to wake up and think that this day will pass again without your loved one. Train yourself to ensure that in the morning you open your eyes and think not about the lost relationship, but about the events that will have to happen during the day. Surely you will be waiting for interesting meetings with peers, studies and hobbies that you should devote all your free time.
• Switch your mind to another wave. Learn to think differently, and then you will succeed.

To accept is to understand and become aware of the problem. As soon as you do this, then the rehabilitation process will begin.

The girl does not need to dwell on a negative event. It is necessary to understand that there are no coincidences in life. Everything that happens in our destiny would have to happen someday. But as they say, everything that is done is for the best. And it is difficult to disagree with this statement.

The circumstances often, as it seems to us at first glance, are not in our favor. We begin to suffer greatly from loss and resentment. Over time, comes the realization of everything that happens. There is no longer any regret left in the soul, since it becomes clear that fate precisely saves us from unnecessary suffering. For example, a woman met a beloved man. She waited, that someday the chosen one would make her an offer. But time passed, and the representative of the stronger sex continued to use his partner for his own purposes. Why take on commitments that are inherent in a married man, when you can live without them? This is usually what sociopaths do.

A man in this situation suited everything, but the woman suffered because she was not sure of the future. And so he came. The young man met a new love, and ex-girlfriend put out the door, as an unnecessary thing. From such a turn of events come the shock of any woman. And this is quite normal. It is not worth suffering and suffering for a long time in this case.It is necessary to realize that fate has given you a chance to get rid of more serious consequences. In the future, you will find a new meeting with a decent man. You will be surely happy.

It must be remembered that nothing good in such a relationship was waiting for you and will not wait any longer. Therefore, consider yourself lucky to some extent, thank your guardian angel. Another situation when the girl and the guy broke up suddenly. After a long relationship, he left his girlfriend. The pain of loss breaks the soul. However, here it is necessary to think and ask yourself whether love was in your relationship. Perhaps it was not, and everything that seemed so fundamental and happy, you thought up for yourself.

Tears of sorrow will not help. Therefore, it is necessary to take measures to restore their balanced state. First, try to remember the good moments that happened in your life while you were with your loved one. Then remember the negatives. Mentally weigh in the pros and cons. It is possible that you will be very surprised that you practically do not remember anything good. And so it turns out that just a month ago you had a reliable rear, which turned out to be not as reliable as it seemed.

A real man undertakes obligations and, in spite of everything, fulfills them. Of course, anything can happen in life, but a decent young man will not "waste everything in trifles." If he swore to love you, then he will fulfill his promise. If you get another type of man (wrong, selfish, emotionally cold), then you should not regret that your relationship with him collapsed. It was predictable, you just could not assess their viability due to certain circumstances. Most likely, your mind is overshadowed by a strong passion, passion or love.

At the moment it is inappropriate to start a new relationship. Otherwise, you will randomly start looking for a new partner, and such actions are fraught with mistakes and new disappointments. First you need to deal with your old feelings. Let go of the situation, and just live. You will gradually enter a new channel of life. Fate will present you new feelings as a gift. More difficult situation for those women who meet with married representatives of the stronger sex.

Male psychology is so arranged. But girls need to remember that the relationship with a married man does not carry anything good and can end abruptly and very badly:

• his wife’s vicious passion may be recognized by his wife, and then you may be under attack from her;
• the legal spouse will terminate all meetings, as it has all the rights;
• you spend your precious time on the person who uses you.

If your relationship with a married man has ended, then in this case you should rather rejoice than upset. Do not remember the words and promises that your partner told you during meetings. Remember that he did this in order to prolong your relationship and put down your guard. Only a small percentage of married men keep their promises. And if the promise to divorce his wife is fulfilled, then this step is done under great pressure from the mistress.

Stop suffering and become aware of the obvious facts. When you realize them, you will realize that you are lucky, and you did not have time to spend most of your life in vain.Tune in an optimistic mood, and you will again be open to new meetings.

What period is needed to recover from the past, no one will say for sure. Some of the fair sex forget about the negative experience immediately and never later remember, and someone experiences a lifetime. But this is extreme. Most often this is tolerated very painfully. Try to find the strength to start your own life happy.

Every decent person will hold himself in his hands, despite the severe pain. Try to cultivate self restraint. Control your emotions and feelings. However, this does not mean that you should grit your teeth, walk with a straight face and with all your strength hold back tears. When separation occurs, the person’s mental state is on the verge of a nervous breakdown. This is an unpleasant, but normal result.

At this moment it is necessary to throw out your feelings: cry, weep loudly and feel sorry for yourself. In no case should this state become a long-term process. To prevent this from happening, start working to bring yourself out of negative emotions as soon as possible.

To improve well-being and to soften the process of parting, you should not do some things.

• Scandalize and expose your tantrums for all to see. With this you will not achieve anything, but spoil the opinions of people around you.
• Do not feel sorry for yourself and allow others to do it. Pity is a bad feeling. The more you torment yourself with suffering, the more your depression will increase. In addition, not all your relatives and friends are able to sincerely sympathize with you. There will be those who make a mock out of your grief to the surrounding "well-wishers."
• Closing in is also a bad idea. On the contrary, communicate more, participate in public events.
• Do not revenge and do not be angry. These actions will only aggravate the problem.

The specialist will certainly give you a helping hand and pull you out of negative emotions, like from a dark well. But for this you need to have the means and time. If for any reason you cannot afford to attract outside help, use the advice of a psychologist.

• Stop thinking about the person who hurt you. Memories will not help him back, but the depressive state you make.
• To quickly destroy the feelings that you have for a former lover, try not to stir up the past. If you catch yourself thinking that again you are thinking about your partner and about what was connected with him, then immediately straighten yourself and switch your consciousness to something else. For example, think about the upcoming happy event or work. Do this constantly and gradually, such actions will become a habit.

• Write on paper all your experiences. Print each letter carefully, putting your own pain into each word. Let the paper be for you a sort of "vest" in which you can cry. Then crumple it and set it on fire. Look at the fire and smoke, imagine how all your problems disappear.
• Play sports. This passion will help one hundred percent in getting rid of the obsessive state.
• Start practicing your appearance. Change your image beyond recognition. These actions will take a lot of time and effort. You simply will not have the resources to suffer.
• Find new friends and like-minded people. Together with them, do what you love.

Try not to fight the negative, but skillfully walk away from it. And then you will become invulnerable.