How to survive parting with a girl?

Each of us has to deal with parting with his beloved: sometimes people diverge easily, and sometimes the breaks are painful. There is no universal recipe for dealing with negative emotions: it all depends on specific situations. In this article, you will learn about ways to let go of a loved one and return to a full life.

If, after a fleeting affair, the gap is experienced easier, after a long relationship, the separation is usually difficult for both men and women. The best way out is traditionally considered a new novel. If you manage to get distracted by a new love, it will allow you to think less about past relationships and experience a separation better: bright positive emotions and mutual interest will please you and will not allow you to be sad. Nevertheless, it is not often possible to meet a new person immediately after a break in past relationships, because a person is inclined to compare everyone with past love.

Moreover, It is often very necessary to consider past relationships, to draw correct conclusions, but not to plunge into reflection with the head. If the break was painful for you, give yourself a few days to worry: to endure separation, you need to throw out emotions and understand why the relationship did not work out. Do not blame the partner for everything: in any conflicts both are to blame and, since you cannot change another person, think about what you yourself could change in your behavior. This will help you in the future to avoid old mistakes when you enter into a new relationship.

Do not let your memories devour your whole life. A few days after breaking up, when you clarify the whole situation in your head, it is very important to stop nostalgic and start changing your life. You need a busy pastime, new experiences, interesting things and communication. It is good if there are relatives and friends nearby who will not let you be bored and will actively spend leisure time with you. One of the good alternatives is to immerse yourself in work: not only will you quickly forget about the past, but you will also be able to achieve new successes in your career, which will certainly give you the necessary positive emotions.

Self-development is another correct way after breaking up. The guy after the break with his girlfriend can start to play sports or master a new business, and the girl can change the image and start everything that she had planned for a long time. Often in relationships, people are too “fixated” on each other and lose themselves: this inhibits everyone in their personal growth and becomes an additional painful factor when parting. However, it is very important to love yourself, take care of yourself and develop - the only way you will attract the right people into your life.

Strive to learn new things about people and relationships. Communicate more with a variety of people, watch movies and read good fiction. You will learn more about the experiences of different people and be able to quickly understand yourself. Other people's stories will inspire you to positive changes, allow you to look at the world more broadly and not be locked in your own melancholy.

Both men who have parted with a woman and women who have experienced a break with a man are equally affected. Nevertheless, in our society it is not customary for men to express their emotions, which can be detrimental to the psyche.It is very important that there is a close person to whom you can talk.

Even when you managed to calm down after a painful breakup in your relationship, the question arises what to do next. Often, a person’s life after parting changes significantly - this is especially true for those who are in a serious relationship. If you lived together, you shared an apartment, a common budget and household duties, got used to each other’s habits, put up with certain inconveniences and enjoyed positive moments. Even if you just met, you spent a lot of time on relationships. It is very important that after parting there is no void in this place.

Find pros in a free life: you have time for yourself. If you do not find a good way to manage this time, there is a risk of constantly nostalgic about the past and get depressed. Remember what you have always dreamed of doing and where you may have been hampered by a lack of time and energy. You can find a new hobby, meet friends more often, develop professionally. Creativity is one of the excellent activities that will allow you to express yourself, spill out negative energy and get positive emotions. Sport can also help: after classes you will become even more beautiful, and during active movements the body produces a hormone of joy - endorphin.

Try not to think stereotypically and be open to new acquaintances. After parting with your beloved, you can fall into two extremes: either idealize your former lover and criticize everyone around you, or expect meanness or betrayal from others if you split for a similar reason with your partner. Be open and look for good things in new people. Where can you make new acquaintances after breaking up?

• Find activities for yourself besides work: creative clubs, gym, additional education. There you can find people with similar interests and, perhaps, meet a suitable person.
• Do not be afraid to meet people you like on the street or in a cafe: this is usually easier for men, but women can also afford to take the first step.
• Do not reject dating sites: in the modern world, meetings in the Internet space are increasingly fateful.
• Take a closer look at the circle of your acquaintances, perhaps, if you start to communicate more closely with old friends, someone will open for you from a new side.

Postpone or even throw away memorabilia, do not look through the pages of the former loved one on social networks, if necessary, make a permutation in the room and temporarily suspend contacts with mutual friends. This will help to restart your life and start everything from scratch. Live life to the fullest, be active and enjoy your own loneliness.

Being alone with yourself is not easy, but it needs to be learned. Often, this problem occurs in people who have been in a relationship for a long time and lived together. It may be very unusual for you to spend evenings in an empty apartment, have fun, do household chores or travel without your partner. Nevertheless, it is very important to find inner harmony and feel like a self-sufficient unit. Enjoy your own freedom: a good book before bedtime, a walk in the park alone, home improvement. Only when you enjoy freedom will you be able to create new harmonious relationships.

Very often, people make mistakes after parting with loved ones. Sometimes they simply do not know how to survive the gap, and in other cases they follow the path of least resistance. The following things you should not do if you want to comfortably survive the separation.

• No need to dive into your own thoughts and for a long time to withdraw into yourself. Give yourself a few days to mourn and throw out emotions, and then try to live as actively as possible: do new things, communicate with people, gather impressions. In no case can not be nostalgic for too long, you need to let go of the situation and live for today.
• Do not think about how to return a loved one, if there is no serious reason. Often, people want to renew the old relationship, because they were calm and comfortable in them, however, this is a disastrous way. If you broke up, it means that there are some serious problems, and they will be repeated again: you only ruin your life. There are cases when a couple breaks up by stupidity and accident, but in this case the desire to return the relationship is usually mutual.

• Do not keep evil on your former partner. Even if it seems to you that your loved one is to blame for the break and caused you pain, try to forgive him. Resentment will prevent you from living and force you to constantly think about the past, close yourself from new people, then the separation will be harder.
• Do not keep evil on yourself. You may have made a lot of mistakes in past relationships and are themselves to blame for the fact that they stopped. Forgive yourself and just draw conclusions from the situation.

Do not complain too much to others. It is necessary to speak out to the best friends, but it is not worth sharing the details of your personal life among distant acquaintances. Firstly, you can create a reason for gossip, and secondly, simply to tire your interlocutors. Be positive and open to new things: do not think or talk about past relationships too much.

Many after the break have an understanding that it is necessary to significantly change their lives, but it is not always clear what concrete steps can be taken towards positive changes. If you are given a hard parting, use the advice of a psychologist.

• Immediately after the break, it is better to stop communicating with the former at all, even if you decide to remain friends. It is necessary that the feelings cool down, and when you stop worrying about parting, you can resume communication.
• If a couple breaks up at the initiative of one of the partners, it is useful to constructively talk, explain to each other how you feel and why one of you wants to break up, and the other is satisfied. You need to be honest with each other: then such a conversation will give food for thought, make it easier to part and not repeat past mistakes in new novels.
• In order not to be bored, make a tight schedule for yourself. Work, hobbies, sports, creativity and reading will help to distract and return to normal life, but in a stressful state it is difficult to lead an active lifestyle - it is easier to spend time thinking about the past. Do not allow yourself this: make a clear timetable and follow it.
• Draw conclusions about past relationships and write them down on a piece of paper. Write what you did wrong, what your partner did not suit you. You can visualize problems and not repeat them further.