How to part with a guy?

Breaking relationships is almost always difficult. It is especially difficult to inform your partner about the breakup, if this intention is not mutual. Many girls who have decided to break up with a guy, can not venture into a difficult conversation. At the same time, it is obvious that delaying the terms of parting will not help in any way.

This article will be told about how to part with a man.

Alas, not all couples are able to maintain their relationship. It would seem that recently you seriously dreamed of connecting your life with a loved one, dreamed of general plans for the future. But in life it does not always go exactly the way we would like. And now your pair is frozen on the verge of breaking, and you just need to take a step to go in different directions.

There are many reasons for a couple to break up. Any relationship undergoes the test of difficulties, but unfortunately not all partners withstand them.

• Treason causes great offense and pain. If a guy was guilty of such a misconduct, it can be very difficult for a girl to forgive him. Often in such situations it is necessary to take a difficult decision to break up relations.
• It happens that a partner simply uses passion for personal gain. For example, if a girl has her own living space, or she is not constrained by the means and is ready to spend them on her lover. In this case, of course, there are no real feelings for a man. And after some time the cold calculating attitude will still be revealed.
• Friends or relatives can intervene in young people's relationships. Someone from close often for some reason, often only to him understandable, sets lovers against each other. For example, the boy's mother, having disliked his chosen one, may try to get rid of her in every possible way, provoking quarrels and building intrigues against her.
• Excessive jealousy and excessive male dominance. A jealous man torments his beloved with unfounded suspicions, often arranging scandals and scenes. In such a pair, the partner feels like being locked up. Any phone call from a friend, a delay on the way to a date and other trifles provoke attacks of jealousy and mistrust in a young man. Such a relationship can hardly be called pleasant, calm and comfortable.

• The lack of common interests, differences of views and characters significantly undermine the relationship of the couple. It’s hard to be close to someone who has little or no support for you. It is useless to share with him his joys and experiences, because he simply does not share them and is indifferent to what happens to his beloved at work, at home or in school.
• The lack of attention from the beloved man greatly cools the feelings of the girl. In most cases, at the first stages of the relationship, the guy, trying to win his beloved, did not stint on gentle words, compliments, small gifts, kisses and pleasant romantic surprises. But here you are, and all this gradually faded away. Relations have become routine, low-emotional and monotonous. The lack of tokens from the young man casts doubt on his feelings and prospects of such cold relations.
• Negative traits and bad habits often push the girls to break. Excessive rudeness, aggressiveness, carelessness and other unsightly personality traits make communication with a person simply unpleasant and uncomfortable.Of course, if you love, then you try to adapt and close your eyes to some of the shortcomings of a young man. But all patience sooner or later comes to an end.
• The precarious financial situation of a guy can also cause a gap. Undoubtedly, money is not the most important thing in life.

• Frequently repeated deception on various occasions. With such a man is impossible to feel confident. You have to be almost constantly alert. Mutual trust in a situation where a guy is often prone to lie is simply impossible.
• Often the stumbling block for a couple are problems in their intimate life. Dissatisfaction with the sexual partner can push the girl to parting. Unfortunately, not all couples are able to tactfully discuss their sex lives. Because of this, the problem with time only increases. This often alienates partners from each other.
• Of course, almost all the problems in a relationship can be resolved if the partners are willing to work on themselves, make mutual concessions and trust each other. If the guy does not want to make efforts on himself, the girl alone will be very difficult to correct the situation.

So, you firmly and finally decided to break off relations with a young man. Now you need to tell him about your decision.

It is especially difficult to part with a man who loves you very much and does not let go. In this case, you need to be tactful and soft in order to somehow soften the blow to his feelings.

In addition, after such a news, the guy may have any questions or there will be a desire to express himself. This should be treated with understanding, patience and tact.

For such a meeting, choose a quiet place where you can safely talk. It is better to meet on the "neutral" territory, and not in those places that are somehow connected with your pair. Not the best options would be your favorite cafe, memorable sites in the park or an apartment where you often met or lived together.

Be prepared for the fact that a man will take this news quite emotionally. Do not blame him for this. Put yourself in a similar situation - it is unlikely you would feel well.

The second way of parting is to send a message or email. Quite often, girls resort to him, who can’t decide to tell a guy in the eyes about parting. Fearing excessively violent reactions, they prefer to break off relationships remotely. There are situations when a boy and a girl are currently at a distance from each other, and a personal meeting is impossible. In this case also try to state your decision, without offending a young man.

Do not count on the fact that by SMS you will surely part quickly and painlessly. It all depends on the nature of the young man and the characteristics of your relationship with him. It may well be that the guy wants to discuss everything at the meeting and will insist on it. Or you will receive some time from him messages or intrusive calls.

Especially hard is the gap, if you meet for a long time and live together.In this case, in your life after parting significant changes will occur. Prepare yourself for them in advance.

Partners who have been together for a long time usually already know each other well, they have developed a common life. Therefore, in such a case it is worthwhile to carefully consider your decision and check your feelings.

In most cases, such breaks are experienced very painfully. Perhaps in your situation you can still find some ways to save a couple.

There are frequent examples when former partners continue to communicate after parting and even become good friends. But sometimes the pain of loss and unquenchable feelings make it impossible for any contact with the former. In such cases, you need to be able to cope with emotions and pull yourself together as soon as possible to start a new life.

• Having decided to leave the young man, you should also understand that now your plans and dreams concerning life with this man are over. Try not to live with them anymore, and as rarely as you can allow yourself to indulge in memories. When there was little time left after parting, deepening into the past only exacerbates negative emotions: sadness, resentment, regret.
• Try to distract yourself with something. For example, create a new image that you have long wanted to try. Register in the sports section or creative circle. This will help you keep yourself in shape, broaden your horizons and circle of acquaintances.

• Conversations on this topic with loved ones can be a good therapeutic effect from depression and depression. Feel free to talk to someone you trust. Tell us about your experiences. Even if you really do not help you practical advice, sincere confidential conversation will bring you relief.
• Perhaps after some time you will have a strong regret about what happened and a desire to return everything. This may be a deceptive illusion. Sometimes, after parting, the woman longs not for the person from whom she left, but for the way of life and her usual way of life, which has now changed. In such a situation, it is important to separate the real feelings from fleeting transient emotions. Rethink the reasons that prompted you to break. After that, put an end to your past relationship. Adjust yourself to move forward and change.

• The breaking of relationships is not the end of life at all, but, on the contrary, its new coil. Perhaps your former partner in some ways limited you and slowed down, but now the path is clear, and you can confidently go to your dream, experiment and develop.

• If you want to remain friends, and the guy is not ready for this, do not press on him and do not be offended. Perhaps with time, when his emotions subside, you may be able to communicate. Most likely, after breaking contact with you just hurt him.
• Perhaps the man you left will actively try to get you back. In this case, stay firm. It is important not to give him false hopes. In the case when you are strongly harassed with calls and messages, try to gently and tactfully explain that this is unpleasant for you. Sometimes girls have to go for tougher measures in such cases and change the phone number, ignoring the attempts of the former man to restore the pair.
• When parting, thank the young man for those moments that were very important to you, warm and tender. It can not be that your couple has never happened something that is nice to remember.
• In the case when you were the initiator of the gap, do not try to shift all the blame on the young man.Sometimes girls, throwing a guy, try to accuse him on false pretenses and make as many complaints as possible. In such an unpleasant situation, the behavior of your girlfriend hurts even more.
• It is not necessary to stop communicating with friends and acquaintances after a break. Your personal problems should not be transferred to third parties.
• Do not seek to hastily start a relationship immediately after the end of the previous ones, only to stab the former or make him jealous. Chances are wrong to get burned. And in this case, you will not only lose time, but will again be forced to experience an unpleasant situation of rupture.
• If the reason for parting with a young man became your new relationship, do not go into unnecessary details. It will be enough to briefly announce that at the moment you have feelings for another man.
• In some cases, in order to return the beloved, the guy can go to a rather drastic measures. Blackmail or suicide threats are used. In such a situation, do not lose composure. If you make concessions against your will and contrary to the decision made, all the same nothing good will come of it in the future.