The main reasons for parting

The destruction of existing relationships is a very difficult process. At that moment, when you need to let go of your loved one, you have to abandon joint plans and dreams. The future is not as clear as a couple of days ago. From a third-party position it is often impossible to explain at all why a particular pair suddenly broke up. What can I say, sometimes the former partners themselves realize the reasons for their separation far from immediately and not completely.

You can give up in different ways. Not too often, but there are cases when lovers converge again after a temporary break. Sometimes this episode in a relationship even reinforces further attachment to each other. But not all parting scenarios are positive.

• Some couples maintain friendly or warm friendships after the end of a romantic relationship. Of course, this is possible if both people could cope with emotions and distract from the painful sensations. It happens that out of the former couples, very good and close friends for life are formed.

• Couples experiencing a crisis of relations, often make a mutual decision about a temporary pause. This is a good psychological shake-up, an opportunity to ponder and test your feelings. Sincere love after reunion flashes only stronger. But you should not resort to this method in case of any troubles in the relationship.
• The gaps in which one or both partners maintain sincere feelings are very difficult. Regardless of the reasons for separation, a person is forced to painfully rush between the desire to be with his beloved and the inability to continue the relationship. Feelings can persist and not fade for months and even years. To leave, loving, requires great willpower. Often this leads to prolonged depression.

Why did the once-loving people still break up? What are the reasons why one or both partners are leaning towards a relationship breakdown? What factors and life situations lead to the disintegration of couples and family unions?

• The reason for breaking the relationship may be disappointment in a partner. Many people, especially at a young age, tend to endow their beloved with a mass of qualities that are not in their possession, to represent the ideal and desired image for themselves. Especially often rapid disappointment occurs after the start of life together. The general life reveals to this not manifest or skillfully disguised disadvantages and features of a person’s personality. Often, even a couple who have successfully met for several years have not passed the joint residence check.
• A separation of interests and incompatibility of characters. It is very hard to be with someone who does not share your hobbies, life views. In the relationship is important mutual support, the adoption of a partner. But with a fundamentally opposite worldview, it is unlikely to build and maintain trusting relationships filled with understanding and mutual respect.

• Parting with a guy or a girl can happen due to loss of interest from the partner. At the beginning of a relationship, seeking to create the best impression and win the heart of a beloved person, lovers shower each other with gifts, pleasant words, calls and other signs of attention. After that, some find it hard to accept the fact that all romance is in the past. It is very important for both women and men to feel the attention of their partner at any stage of even long-term relationships. The absence of care and signs of love is most often interpreted as the extinction of feelings.
• Lying able to destroy and friendship, and love relationships. If the deception is repeated many times and deliberately, it leaves a deep wound and can ruin the attitude towards a person prone to such an evil for the rest of his life. Without openness and mutual trust, relations become strained, because one of the partners must always be on the alert.
• Excessive jealousy and possessiveness of one of the partners also turn relationships into sheer torture. The jealous man wants to control every step of the beloved, often arranges aggressive interrogations, scenes of mistrust and scandals. Joint life turns into a real battlefield. One of the partners is fighting to retain their freedom and the right to personal space and interests. The other wants to suppress him as much as possible, to subordinate his control.

• Addictions or addictions of a loved one. Alcoholism, addiction to drugs or games - this is a very difficult problem, causing pain and anxiety to all loved ones of the addict. Severe forms of alcoholism and drug addiction are often accompanied by behavioral disorders. Therefore, maintaining normal relations becomes impossible, and cohabitation is simply unbearable.
• Relationships can intervene relatives and loved ones of someone from the couple. Often, parents zealously prevent the union, as the elect or the chosen one, in their opinion, is not suitable for the beloved child. Due to financial dependence or excessive attachment, young people often force themselves to follow their parents' will. However, elderly parents can manipulate well-grown adults who have even reached middle-aged children.
• Psychological or physical abuse, blackmail, manipulation are very weighty and justified reasons for parting. A person who is prone to this and systematically smashes negative emotions and insults on a partner is unlikely to give up his behavior pattern. But the one who, having gritted his teeth, will endure all this, runs the risk of a nervous breakdown, chronic nervous exhaustion and for a long time saying goodbye to adequate self-esteem.

• Treason It hurts and repels from the one who decided to take such a step, while having a permanent relationship. Many guys and girls are able to forgive a lot, but not this. And when cheating occurs after long years of happy family life, it simply confuses. Survive treason and maintain the relationship at the same level can very small percentage of couples.
• Problems in the couple's sex life can push to end the relationship. It is very bad if a couple are not ready to adequately discuss their sex life, to express their wishes or comments to a partner. As a result, the pair is gradually moving away from each other.
• Monotony of living together, The absence of new interesting impressions does not contribute to strengthening relationships. For couples who live together for a long time, at some point a “crisis of habit” occurs. The existing structure is bored and there is a desire for change. If none of the partners feels threatened and in time tries to bring something new into the relationship, the couple can break up.

• Serious challenges for long-term relationships are age crises. During his life, each person experiences several difficult and critical periods. At such times, marriage or relationships are often threatened. For crises of a young age, impulsiveness and a strong desire for cardinal changes are characteristic. In such periods, the guy or girl is prone to “choke off”, they are attracted by everything new, the unknown, the thirst for change for the better and the willingness to take action. Middle-aged crises are often accompanied by apathy, depression, frustration in life. In such situations, it is important to recognize the root of the problem and provide adequate support to the partner.

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