How to part with a girl?

The termination of relationships with a girl is not easy for many I really want to give up so as not to hurt the feelings of the partner and at least somehow smooth the pain and feelings from the situation. And here you are again and again scrolling in your head the possible options for how to inform her about your decision. However, you can not dare to act. This article will discuss how to part with a girl.

For a start, think carefully about your decision, weigh the pros and cons. Perhaps you are led by a short-term strong impulse that arose after a quarrel or other unpleasant situation. Listen to your feelings and scroll through the possible consequences of your decision. After all, to restore a broken union, in case you still want it to return, it may be difficult.

The purpose of this article is not to discourage you from parting. You can just break off the relationship in a fairly short time, but you may have to regret the results of the hastily taken step for a very long time. Especially hard to rebuild your life after the termination of a long relationship. And if you live together, you will have to change your life and habits.

Perhaps the only reason for parting can only serve as the extinction of feelings. In this case, you have to pretend before the passion, in fact, deceive it. Listen to yourself and try to understand whether you really are cold to the one you have been with all this time. Will you feel the real loss when it disappears from your life? So, if you still firmly decided to end the relationship, it remains only to choose the method by which you tell about it.

In general, there is absolutely a universal recipe for how to part correctly, suitable for all occasions, naturally, and there can not be. You, of course, understand that it is important to remember the feelings of the girl. If your decision is not reciprocal, then the message of a break is likely to cause her offense and other negative emotions. So try to part correctly, carefully, without causing her pain.

One option is to express your thoughts on paper or in an email. It is not necessary that the words be chosen very beautifully. The main thing is that the text is sincere. But it is important to understand that this should not be a short “reply”. Therefore, it is still undesirable to part by SMS, having sent only one short phrase. A handwritten letter will make the best impression. After all, these are not dry printed letters. This method still emphasizes the fact that you have worked on your message after all.

If circumstances do not allow the transfer of a letter or such a method in your case is clearly inappropriate, use a personal message on social networks or e-mail. The same rules apply here.The printed message should contain your detailed thoughts.

Another option is a telephone conversation. You should prepare for it in advance, pick up words and outline a general plan of conversation. Most likely you will be worried, and without preparation you will not be able to express your thoughts intelligibly.

Speak in a confident, calm tone. Even if a woman, due to the surging emotions she has heard, begins to escalate the situation, still continue the conversation extremely politely.

Do not interrupt the conversation first, and especially do not hang up. Allow the girl to speak, even if it is unpleasant to you. If possible, do not interrupt. After all, you have already simplified your task by using the telephone to talk, rather than meeting in person.

For many guys, a personal conversation with a girl on such an unpleasant topic as breaking up a relationship is the most difficult way to break up. Often, young people postpone this difficult conversation, not daring to say in the eyes of their passion about the decision. At the same time, this is probably the most worthy, responsible and courageous way to break.

As for the telephone conversation, prepare in advance for a personal meeting. A place to talk is better to choose one that has nothing to do with your couple. This may be a cafe to which you did not go before, a quiet park or another poorly populated and quiet place where you will not be disturbed.

Tune in not only to speak, but also to listen. It may well be that part without insults will not work. Therefore, be prepared to gently and delicately listen to the emotions and pretensions of your former lover. Chances are that there will be no tears. Do not take too long to bring the topic of conversation. After the greeting, calmly say that you need to talk seriously and you will now say a very important thing. Further state your decision and tactfully argue it. Do not try at this moment to offend the girl with your reproaches. Do not pay the reasons for parting her reproach. Your former passion and so very hard at this moment.

After let the girl speak, answer the questions she had. Be patient and respect her feelings, because for her such a turn of events was most likely very unexpected. By reporting the breakup, you broke her plans and dreams related to your couple. Do not be surprised that this is not perceived with a smile. After the conversation, if the girl does not mind, you can take her home.

A rather ambiguous method of interrupting relationships. In fact, it is equal to escape. But there are situations when it is necessary to apply such actions. For example, if a girl is unnecessarily intrusive and continues to make efforts to save the couple. Some guys choose this option, if they fear excessively violent reaction of the former passion to the gap.

If you decide to disappear, then know that in our time it is not so easy. We'll have to ignore calls or even change your number. In social networks, your girlfriend will have to be blocked so that she cannot contact you through private messages. Some problem in this case are common acquaintances and friends. Your passion can also resort to their help to find the “fugitive” and ask him a few questions.

However, most girls with a similar behavior of a young man quickly recognize the situation. So the likelihood that you will have to vigorously hide from the ex-lover you left is quite small.

The separation can be relatively painless if the girl herself loses feelings for you. Some guys and men who decide to break with their beloved simply stop showing any feelings. When courtship stops, attention signs disappear, the guy's behavior becomes harsh, etc., many girls decide to disperse.

However, this method is quite difficult to implement, if you still love your girlfriend. Another disadvantage is that some individuals can be quite patient. Then all your tricks will be wasted, and the passion will not stop clinging to your relationship.

Such a way to influence a girl is in fact a ploy by which you shift the responsibility for your break onto your former lover. Think about whether it is worthy? Does your girlfriend deserve such behavior?

A man should be able to take responsibility for his actions and decisions. Here were described several ways to break a relationship with a girl. Which one is suitable in your situation is up to you. In any case, remember to respect the other person. Especially since the girl once trusted you, reciprocated your feelings. Do not discount this. There are more cruel ways of parting, but we will not describe them in this article.

In any case, each of you will be better off if you leave, retaining a decent impression of each other. If after the breakup of your couple you want to remain friends with your ex, take note of a few tips.

• Do not pass the blame for parting on her. Do not blame or criticize your partner during a conversation about your break. It is better to sincerely apologize yourself for your mistakes and any unpleasant moments that happened in your relationship because of your fault.
• Do not respond with aggression or a flood of emotions to its possible incontinence. The negative reaction to your words is fully justified and natural. Sustain it with dignity, be calm, gentle, patient. Allow the girl to speak, and, if necessary, cry.

• If you live together, do not drive your ex right there. Think about your travel options in advance. In the case when you lived in a rented apartment, pay it 1-2 months in advance and move out by yourself. You have already caused the girl a mental trauma and, possibly, knocked her out of order for a long time (psycho-emotional). Therefore, do not make it difficult for her life even forced emergency housing searches.
• Do not part with a loved one through third parties. For example, asking a friend or girlfriend to convey your words about the break. It is very disrespectful and unworthy. Thus, you dedicate to your personal affairs a third person who finds out about the break before the girl herself, and this is at least very offensive. Moreover, you are cowardly escaping from the battlefield, not deigning your former beloved to a personal conversation and an explanation of the situation.
• If you nevertheless decided to leave, having sent SMS, make it tactfully and competently. It is not necessary to use your tender nicknames at the beginning of the phrase, for example, “my little darling” or “kitten”. Refer to the girl just by name. Then write a brief about what you decided to disperse and indicate the reason. Avoid monosyllabic dry phrases like: “Goodbye forever, never call,” “I’m leaving you, I don’t need you,” and so on. you content
• Do not demand your gifts back. Accept them only if the ex herself wants to return them. Also, do not throw her donated things. Even if this page in your life is forever closed for you, you should not uproot those pleasant moments that once united and warmed you.

• After parting, do not deliberately avoid communicating with your ex-girlfriend. When meeting, behave naturally as a friend.Do not constantly remind you of what happened and do not get rid of the wound with intrusive questions: "How are you?" If you have friendly relations, it is very good. But in any case, the girl herself will tell you what she considers necessary.
• If the reason for separation was another woman, do not go into unnecessary details of the new relationship. It’s enough just to talk about the fact that you have feelings for another person.
• After parting, do not hurt your ex-lover even more, purposely showing her your new passion. Unfortunately, some men do not miss a chance to humiliate their abandoned girl even more, demonstratively showing a successful and tumultuous romance.