How to tell a husband or wife about divorce?

Divorce is a life tragedy for both spouses. Some suffer greatly from their experiences. But it already happens after a break up. A more painful situation arises when one of the partners in the marriage is trying to inform the second half about the upcoming separation forever. How to overcome these difficulties when you are on the verge of a nervous breakdown?

Many wonder why people do not live together, because when their family was created, they were happy. What happened now and what exactly led them to make a fatal decision? There are answers to these questions. They may be different. Much in this situation depends on the partners themselves and their characters.

We give examples.

• The couple decided to divorce because of unfulfilled hopes and expectations. For example, a woman married a promising young man. She expected her husband to become a businessman, earn fame and big money. But her hopes were not justified. My husband's husband is multiplying, and he never became a top manager. Now she constantly blames her husband for breaking her life. This behavior causes the husband to hate toward the always nagging spouse. The result is a divorce.
• In another case, the husband could not get from his wife what he had expected earlier. When the joint life began, it turned out that the woman was completely incapable of doing business. Her carelessness annoys her husband, and he expresses discontent. Scattered things and the lack of full-fledged lunches and dinners only reinforce a bad mood. The negative grows like a snowball and leads to a rupture of relations.
• The alcoholism of one of the marriage partners also contributes to divorce. No one will tolerate a person who drinks for money and behaves inadequately. Children and wife suffer and are ashamed of drinking relative. The patience of the spouse (s) someday comes to an end, and the marriage falls apart.
• A tyrant husband is another reason for a woman to file for divorce. Children suffer from constant reproaches and bullying. A wife will long tolerate this state of affairs, but only if she has nowhere to go. But she will eventually find a way out of the situation and leave her despot husband.
• The situation may develop in a negative scenario, if the wife is a careerist, and everything is done in the house according to her instructions. Husband and children live, as if according to a script written by an egoist wife. She does not accept any advice that comes from a spouse. What happens without her knowledge becomes seditious. As a result, if a woman does not correct the situation, everything can end in tears - the family ties will be broken.
• Different interests are another factor leading to divorce. One spouse is a spiritual personality with many intellectual interests. The other is completely interested in nothing and lies on the couch near the TV all the time and swears. What future awaits completely different people in marriage? None, and divorce is inevitable.

No wonder they say that living life is not a field to move on. How many more will meet on your way various obstacles and troubles. Not everyone can overcome them. Therefore, from a divorce from his beloved second half, no one is insured. And if such a tragedy does happen, then you should not fold your arms and go with the flow. One must be able to get out of trouble with dignity.

Divorce is a stressful situation that can cause unpredictable emotions. If you report a break in the relationship to a person unprepared for this event, then his first reaction will be negative.

Instinctively, he will want to harm you in every way and be considered an invaluable feeling. It is possible that in retaliation, he will respond with a categorical refusal. Well, that still will cost that way. In another case, the offended husband staged a scene with assault and disgrace to the whole district.

For example, the husband is a home despot. His wife and children suffer from his antics and negative reactions to everything that happens. Appropriation in such a family is the norm. Day after day, the spouse is subjected to violence, both moral and physical. Aggressive behavior has no end. What to do in this case? Of course, before telling an inadequate person about the upcoming break, you need to be well prepared. It is necessary to take into account all sorts of options from the material part to moral ethics. After all, the news of a divorce can provoke a completely unpredictable reaction from a representative of the stronger sex. He can commit an irreparable act and resort to violence.

You must first find suitable housing and leave home, taking with them children (if any). Then in writing to inform her ex-husband about the divorce. No matter how you do it - through a courier or through a social network, the main thing is that it will protect you and your loved ones from reprisal.

But at this stage you should not relax. Offended husband may seek you to meet or begin to carry out plans for revenge. Yes, such individuals are capable of anything to prevent a divorce. An inadequate person is unpredictable in his actions. Therefore, these actions need to be predicted in order to avoid danger.

You may have to leave for a while from the place where you permanently live in another city and stay there until everything “settles down”. Do everything in your power to maintain your health and life.

And how to tell her husband about the divorce, if he is a good man? The conscience torments the woman, and she falls into a depressive state because she understands the seriousness of what is happening.

You can no longer deceive yourself and your former lover. At the end of the conversation, be sure to thank the man who lived with you for a while in marriage, for the excellent relationship, for his sensitivity. Of course, this will not play a special role, but it will soften the situation. After that, leave the house, so as not to abandon the hope of restoring relationships.

Your husband is a very impressionable person. You perfectly understand that the spouse loves you very much and does not represent life outside of marriage. If you are afraid to inflict a deadly resentment on your other half, you need to ensure that the person does not make a quick decision on suicide.

Here it is important to make time to get used to the thought of breaking. While you have not made a final decision, behave with your husband rather coldly, but do not be rude and do not make scandals. Just hint in every way that your relationship has long been exhausted. Do not allow intimacy.

Sooner or later, your other half will accept the fact that between you there is no longer the connection that was before. When you once again hint at the end of a relationship, perhaps your husband will not mind.

An important role in the divorce is the question of who the children will be with. Usually they stay with the mother. But the offended spouse will be able to manipulate you if he starts to blackmail you with taking away your children.

However, it should be reminded to the man that raising the younger generation is not easy. Every minute attention is required to babies and teenagers, and if the father is at work all the time, he will not be able to give the necessary education to the children.

You also need to add that your spouse will definitely find a life partner. It is not excluded that the new love may not agree with the presence of children and will require to give their native mother.

Next, be sure to explain to your spouse that after a divorce, he will in no way lose contact with his native child. We need to sincerely assure the man that communication with the guys will continue, despite the fact that they will live separately. Usually men, after some thought, agree with such arguments.

If you are going to get divorced, then telling your wife about the break will not be easy. The reasons for this can be great variety. It all depends on the temperament and character of the woman with whom you lived for some time in marriage.

As a rule, the man himself decides on divorce if he meets another woman. In other cases, the intention to part with each other gradually comes to both spouses. However, often an unpleasant conversation is “delayed” indefinitely. The problems grow, and then the man takes all the responsibility on himself and reports the divorce.

And how to do this, the following tips will help.

Your wife has a despotic character. Everything in the house is under her control, including all your actions. Finally, you are tired of the status of "henpecked", and you decided to get a divorce. How to tell your spouse about this? Act carefully. Typically, these women do not forgive betrayal, and breaking off relations is in some way betrayal. The reaction of the woman will be unpredictable if you report the news of a divorce suddenly. Prepare for this event. First, find a way out.

If you have no parents or extra living space, then remove the temporary housing. Believe me, it will be better for you. Then inform your spouse in writing about the breakup of the marriage. You can do this by phone and through a social network.

The reasons for "delaying" time with the decision to divorce - a lot. One of them is when spouses have lived in marriage very happily ever after. In this situation, a man tormented conscience. In this case, do not delay the proposal to dissolve the marriage. Otherwise, you can get into an unpleasant story, morally torturing yourself and your ex-wife.

After a frank dialogue, promise your former spouse that you will help her in every possible way, and also you will not forget about your joint children. It is necessary to explain that you and your wife will always be loved as people have lived a significant part of your life in marriage. Tell her that your relationship will simply go to another level. It will calm the offended woman.

You are afraid that your spouse will be “morally killed” by the news that you decided to divorce her. In a more severe case, it can reach suicide. These circumstances make things very complicated, but you should not change your decision because of this and continue to pretend that you have a strong social unit. From this you will only get worse. Sooner or later, your indecision will lead to dire consequences.

After a while, when the spouse calms down, continue to fulfill your intentions. Gradually, but surely, make your relationship cold. Give up sex and behave independently. Over time, the woman herself will be bored with such a relationship, and, perhaps, she herself will ask you for a divorce.

In any case, when you start talking with your wife about the final break in your relationship, try to assure her that she will not be left alone. You will always be in touch and close. Such assurances will reassure the ex-wife and she will not put obstacles in your way.

During a divorce, you need to remember that psychology will certainly help to act correctly, but remember also that this issue has material aspects. It is they who can undermine your peace of mind and lead to depression. So act your own way, but rely on some tips.

• In order not to be trapped during a divorce, try to prepare in advance all the necessary documents.
• Think about who your shared children will be with. Usually they stay with the mother.
• If a man decides to keep the children after the divorce, then he should be aware of all the difficulties that await him after making such a decision. No mother will not give up the child, so get ready for a confrontation with the former wife.

Maybe your decision is better to change, since raising a child is not an easy task for a man. However, the cases are different, perhaps your intention was deliberate.

• If you made the final decision and just want to inform your wife (husband) about this, select the appropriate time and place for this. Take care not to have your children around.
• Do not delay the conversation. From this all will only get worse.
• If you started to explain the essence of the problem, then speak clearly and clearly so that your spouse (s) have no doubts.
• You see that the spouse responds to the news about the divorce too emotionally, try to reassure her (him) and do not “wind up.” Otherwise, you immerse yourself in complete negativity, and from anger and swearing your decisions will be distorted.
• The important question is your jointly acquired property. Try not to be greedy and share it according to your conscience and justice. Do not forget to take into account the interests of your children.

Remember that it is difficult for both men and women to make a decision about a divorce. Gender and age in this matter do not matter. It hits hard on the psyche.