Divorce: Pros and Cons

It often happens that divorce is the only way out of a deadlock. It is possible that such a decision may be erroneous. How to determine your fate and the fate of your loved one? Such questions are not easy to answer, but possible.

Signs that divorce is inevitable appear long before this sad event. First, the woman takes down all the insults, and then her soul begins to languish and ask not to endure such a state of affairs anymore. When young marry, they do not think about the imminent break. Some live together all their lives, others can break the marriage bond for another day. Why does it depend and can it be foreseen in advance? What signs should I rely on to make the right decision? The following tips will help in this matter.

Physical abuse is the main argument that should push you to divorce. You can not tolerate bullying. A real man will never raise a hand to a woman. Getting married, the woman perfectly saw all the negative traits of the character of her future husband. At that time, she loved him very much and hoped that everything would be fine, and her husband would take up his mind and begin to correct himself. But time passed, and man never became an ideal. Deceived once, do not hope that time will pass and everything will be fine. So your whole life can fly by, and in the end you will greatly regret your inaction.

If the violence continues for a long time, then it needs to be stopped, despite the fact that you have nowhere to go. There is always a solution if you make the final decision. In the end, in this case, contact the psychological support service for women. There you will be helped to understand your feelings. Do not forget that your inaction leads to your suffering and the suffering of your children.

Moral abuse is also a powerful argument for divorce. Sometimes it is difficult to determine - which is worse: moral or physical abuse of a person. When a woman is constantly humiliated by her husband or finds fault with trifles, love passes and hatred sets in. Therefore, if you are not comfortable with your chosen one, you should think and decide on a difficult step - divorce.

Your husband has long been addicted to alcohol. In this situation, you can try to offer medical care and a complete cure. But if this is a stage that has already been passed, and the person continues to sink lower and lower, then you should not waste your precious time on it. If you stay with such a spouse and continue to hope for improvement, it is quite possible that you yourself will become addicted to alcohol over time. First you get depressed, and then, in order to take it off, try a glass. In this case, you will like it.

The swamp of life troubles will delay, and your family will most likely come to a complete collapse. Everyone understands that it is difficult to live with an alcoholic near. First of all, your children suffer from this. When a man in the first place is a bottle, and not love for his wife and children, then divorce will not be in this case an inexplicable rush. On the contrary, you will free yourself from the troubles and problems.

The betrayal of a loved one is another at times insoluble problem. It is difficult for a woman to put up with her husband’s infidelity. It humiliates and insults. If the betrayal happened once, and the husband strongly regrets and asks for forgiveness every day from his wife and children, then in this case it is worth forgiving. And it happens the other way around. The husband is looking right and left. No one is shy. He changes at every turn and at the same time is not going to leave the family. In this case, you need to put an end to the relationship. This will never be corrected, and you, if you forgive all the time, can physically fall ill from constant experiences.

You have met a seemingly man of dreams. You are blinded by surging feelings. The result was a magnificent wedding. And after her, recovering a bit from the holidays, you noticed that the spouse was not the same as you expected. He changed beyond recognition, became rude and ill-mannered. From his side is only moral pressure and despotism. With him it is difficult to agree on anything. The stubbornness and egoism of the husband begin to oppress you. In this case, grievances accumulate and it turns out that the “soul bowl” is filled with your negative emotions. Then divorce is inevitable. And do not resist this.

Over time, the relationship between the spouses cooled as a result of mutual insults and discrepancies in the qualities of character. Further joint life only exacerbates this perception of each other, the preservation of family ties is impossible.

It is difficult to come to a definite decision, if there is at least some doubt. However, you should not continue to live in a marriage, if everything indicates that you are simply torturing yourself. There are signs by which you can decide on the choice of a specific solution. Once you were passionate about your future wife, and the prospect of family life was seen in cloudless colors. After marriage, domestic problems began. It turned out that your wife does not know how to cook at all. Moreover, she doesn’t even want to make your home cozy and warm. Every time she throws things all over the apartment, there are always dirty dishes in the sink, and the floors do not wash for weeks.

Of course, in this case, you may be advised to hire a housekeeper or do your own business, but where do you get the money from? Divorce in this case is a matter of time. If the situation does not improve, then you will be happy to terminate the relationship with a careless wife.

Another aspect is the unfaithfulness of the wife. She changed you, and you do not see much remorse in her behavior. This suggests that treason can happen again and again. Invalid spouse can leave you at any time, as soon as difficult times come. Why wait when you "stuck a knife in the back"? When you divorce, you will be able to meet a decent woman who will appreciate and protect you.

If the wife is engaged only in her own affairs: she does her hair, manicures, and so on, flirts with men at every opportunity, then you should thoroughly think about divorce. A selfish woman will stay with you while you pay for all her whims. As soon as you lose your source of income, your wife will leave you for another, more successful man.

Another scrupulous problem, when you have lived with your wife for a long time, but your children have not gained. A family that has no children has no future. If the situation is hopeless and you have been thinking about a divorce for a long time, then you shouldn’t delay with the decision. Thanks to the divorce, you will be able to find happiness in a new family and make a large number of children. Perhaps your ex-wife will find such a man with whom he can have children.

You met a woman, without whom you can not live a single day.Your legitimate wife annoys you for a long time, and you dislike her only because she lives next to you. Do not torment your soul mate. Honestly admit her treason and leave the family. So you will commit an honest act, and two close women will not suffer from your indecision.

You and your wife are completely different people in their views. Together you are bored, and even having children does not save the situation. Since you have become so far apart, it has been a long time. Due to the current state of affairs, you have become depressed. Then it is necessary to make a joint decision about the divorce.

A career wife is another problem for a man who aspires to a full-fledged marriage. The strange situation is aggravated by the absence of children and the coldness of the spouse. Usually in a family where the wife is passionate only about work, the spouse is outraged by the fact that his spouse is never at home. Even on Sundays, she solves the problems of the company by telephone. Current household chores her little interest. And talking about the fact that you want to have children as soon as possible causes such irritation to such a woman. Run from such a woman as far as possible. Do it while you are still young. Of course, after a divorce, you will be able to find a wife who can create comfort and harmony in your life together.

Making any serious decisions is always difficult. But since such a trial fell on your lot, then take it with due courage. In this case, it is necessary to calculate all the pros and cons. Of course, you can try to save your family and put all your strength into it. The human soul is a very subtle substance. It is impossible to adjust and go against their will. Even if this happens, over time you will either regret what you have done or fall into final despair. None of the two parties need such a turn of events.

If there is a child in the family, often the couple is not divorced just because they do not want to hurt him. At the same time, you always find yourself thinking that you are a deeply unhappy person. You do not want to go home after work. Yes, and scandals are not uncommon. Think about who your child will grow up if you are constantly in such a tense situation? Get rid of dubious torments and make a willful decision.

It so happens that the feelings have cooled so much that it is hard for you to be close to your soulmate. You feel it all the cells of your body. Here, nothing will save your marriage. Everyone knows that family crises occur in relationships. They should not be confused in any way with dead ends. The crisis can be resolved through universal effort. Spouses do not want a break, they feel that they need each other, but they don’t know how to continue to lead their life together.

Psychological assistance and the desire of the spouses will help save the marriage. However, there is a completely opposite picture, when both spouses have long been tired of being cold in a relationship. In this case, divorce is the only correct solution. For example, if a spouse has announced to you that they leave the family to your opponent or rival. No need to repair obstacles. This you will not achieve anything.

Treason spouse casts doubt on your cohabitation. Every day you hate your soul mate more and more. Before my eyes pictures pop up, where your loved one is in the arms of your opponent. From these thoughts you go crazy and blame yourself for not being able to take a step towards divorce.

If you are sure that the problems occurring in your family are not just a crisis that may arise at a certain stage of living together, then the divorce will be an undeniable way out of all your problems. And, nevertheless, in order to make a final decision, it is worth well to realize and think over everything. If you are a strong personality and feel that you can cope with the issues that arise, do the following.

• Choose a time when no one is at home. Turn on your favorite and relaxing music, sit in a comfortable chair.
• Relax and breathe evenly. Let nothing distract you from your thoughts.
• Remember all the moments that happened while you were married to your other half.
• Think about bad situations first. Remember the details where you were married is not as comfortable as we would like.
• Then remember those moments where you and your spouse were happy.
• Think about how you will live without your other half.
• If you thought about parting and it became easier for you to think about it, then it may be worthwhile to proceed with the actions to dissolve your marriage.
• If you do not come to a definite decision, then repeat these steps after some time.
• Remember that no one and nothing can help you and make a decision about a divorce. This you must do yourself.