Male jealousy: signs and causes

People have different feelings for each other. Some hate, others passionately love. And there is still a feeling like jealousy. It is said that jealousy and love always go hand in hand.

Stereotypical opinion has no basis. A truly loving person will try his best not to hurt loved ones.

Science psychology is devoted to the soul. She studies and describes the emotional states of a person. Jealousy is one of the most vivid feelings that not only people can experience, but also animals. Men and women have different temperaments. The feeling of jealousy torments more than those who cannot and do not want to restrain their emotions.

Male representatives are jealous of their chosen ones for various reasons. Consider the most common.

• Take, for example, a person who is very emotional, but kind and gentle. And he managed to fall in love with him! A woman gave even a small, but a reason for jealousy. Because of incontinence, he can afford to express discontent in a mild form and nothing more.
• The other person also has an unrestrained character, but everything else he is rude, ill-mannered and cruel. This cocktail of feelings leads to the fact that love for him becomes an obsession. Such an individual will not stand on ceremony if his friend gives rise to jealousy. He will throw out all the negative on others. First of all, it will get to the object of his adoration.
• The next case is the most unpredictable. The man is selfish. Everything that surrounds him should belong only to him! He always loves only himself.

• Combining cruelty and self-doubt is the worst case. Such a man is capable of any act. He can afford violence against women. The reason for this is not needed. He will invent it himself. It will be such an act of self-affirmation. A friend for him is just a “whipping doll” that you can hurt to throw out your negative emotions.

Of course, there are many more examples. Each man is characterized by individual character traits that can be intertwined in different versions. Look closely at your companion, and you can determine for yourself which of these examples is closer to his behavior.

Male self-confidence, sometimes even unconscious, leads to the suffering of his loved ones. A jealous husband is a misfortune for a woman. People say "beats and jealous, it means love." But how unpleasant it is to look at the scene when a husband chases his fisted wife down the street with his fists. The poor thing does not know where to go from such a “love”.

First of all, this is a sense of possessiveness. If a person is not indifferent to another, he feels the fear of losing his object of adoration. And it is quite natural. But in different cases it manifests itself in different ways.

It all depends on why a person has become so jealous. Perhaps in his distant childhood there was a psychological trauma. Maybe the mother left the family to another man and left them with her father. Then it will seem to such an individual that his chosen one will sooner or later do the same.

The feeling of insecurity, the fear of total loneliness is pushing a timid man to jealousy in everyday life. He considers himself a simple person. Works in a factory, is interested in football, does not read books.And the wife, on the contrary, is an intellectual, handsome, clever, works in a prestigious job.

Disproportion of personal qualities and characters will lead to the fact that the husband will develop a depressive state. He will become irritable and suspicious. He will begin to control his spouse in all her actions, so as not to give an opportunity to understand that he is not worthy of her.

Sometimes the male is focused on some kind of insoluble problem that happened in his life. After the grief experienced, he is afraid of losing the last close person. Therefore, a man will be jealous of his darling and try not to lose sight of her every step.

Women are different. Some deliberately go to the conflict and try to arouse jealousy of the spouse, flirt "right and left." They like it, so they assert themselves and entertain themselves and the people around them. As a result, such behavior inevitably leads to scandals and divorces.

Jealousy in a man can cause too independent behavior of his wife. When she allows herself to do whatever she wants, has a well-paying job and rotates in the men's team. A sense of possessiveness and dignity will not allow her husband to endure such behavior spouse. In the end, he will first begin to make claims, and if this does not help, he will collect things and leave the house.

Rumors, baseless conversations about adultery wife, too, can set the man to be jealous.

Over time, the man succumbs to suggestion and begins to treat his second half with suspicion. This leads to scandals and frustrations in the family.

Male jealousy is not visible to the naked eye. This feeling can be “encrypted” for various reasons of discontent in everyday life.

Experienced professionals have learned to identify implicit signs of jealousy and to identify its causes. However, you yourself can see if your loved one is jealous or not. To do this, compare the following examples with examples of the behavior of your man. If you notice coincidences, then change your behavior, making it clear that you are the right spouse.

• For example, a husband often finds fault with your make-up, and too bright clothes make him angry. A special attitude to the animal, for example, to the dog, also annoys him.
• Some husbands are interested in all the affairs that occur around the faithful. They need to know everything to the smallest detail: what did you talk with your friend on the phone, what is happening in the team and even on what tram you came home today and so on.
• Frequent visits to parents can also cause possessive feelings. A man will grumble about the fact that there is no food in the house (although the refrigerator is full of provisions), while his wife at this time goes to unknown places.
• Often, women can not understand what caused the aggression of her husband. All attempts to establish contact do not find understanding. Increased irritability and nervousness of the spouse can also be the result of jealousy.
• Sullenness and taciturn will also tell about the husband's jealousy. An itchy feeling causes stress, and therefore a person becomes self-contained. Anxious thoughts do not relax.

• A man can often disappear at work. This does not mean that he is cheating on you. Perhaps this is how his hidden jealousy manifests itself. He is freaking out and wants you to pay attention to him and think about the fact that you can lose a loved one.
• By the way, many psychologists noted the fact that people who had been married for a very long time and had a very respectable age came to them for consultation. It turns out that the spouse was jealous of his wife because he was afraid of losing not only a loved one, but also the established way of life, which suited him completely.At first glance it seems that the attacks of jealousy in this category of people can only cause a tender smile, but there is nothing funny about it. People, indeed, feel the fear of loss, which overshadows their minds.
• Let us give one more example: the woman already had one unsuccessful marriage, after which she married again. Now they are happy with their current spouse. Their happiness violates the husband's jealousy for the wife's past life. It seems to the man that his spouse was not able to completely forget her first love. Anxiety about this gives fertile ground for the growth of family conflict.

First of all, you need to figure out how jealousy manifests itself, and then act. Some women in forums discussing family problems complain that the husband is bothering them with his overly obsessive behavior. For example, calls every half hour, as soon as the wife leaves the house, interferes with communication with friends or does not allow to be alone at the cottage, controls every step or offers a ride at every opportunity.

It must be said that there is no problem here. On the contrary, rejoice that you have such a caring man. Other women can only dream of such care.

Another thing, if a man shows signs of aggression. Here are two options. If to tolerate such behavior is not only impossible but also dangerous, then you need to terminate the relationship as quickly as possible. If you love your chosen one and feel that everything can be corrected, then show resilience and try to carry out a series of actions aimed at the full restoration of mutual understanding.

So, we set the tasks and strictly follow the recommendations.

• Eliminate jealousy. Stop doing bright makeup, correct your behavior, remove short skirts from your wardrobe (give them to your unmarried friends). And no communication with men. Even with classmates at least for a short time you need to stop talking.
• Do not cause conflicts. If the husband suspects you of treason, do not deny anything, do not shout, but explain in a calm voice under what circumstances you stayed at work. Then leave your husband alone for a while. Just go to another room. Let him think about the problem and calm down.
• Every time convince your chosen one that he is very dear to you as a man and as a person. Say that you will never see this again. And, in general, are not going to look for anyone. You have happiness - this is it and you need nothing more.
• Do not blame your husband in response to accusations sent to you. Explain to him that this behavior greatly upsets and offends you. It interferes with your happiness.
• Do not hide anything from him. Leave your phone in a prominent place. Let him know that you have nothing to hide.
• When the spouse treat other representatives of the stronger sex more than indifferent. Never use the example of other men as opposed to your husband.
• Create comfort in the house and treat your man with love, making it clear that he is the most expensive and the only one in the world.

Getting rid of an unpleasant feeling is not easy. But you must really want this, and then everything will work out. No one can accomplish this task except yourself.

• Sit in front of the mirror and look at yourself from the side. Remember the emotions that you experience when your husband is jealous. Write down unpleasant feelings on paper. Afterwards, show them to your husband and explain that this is poisoning your life and destroying your family.
• Talk to your husband in private. Ask him to admit that he is jealous of you. Explain to him that you do not need to hide feelings and be ashamed of them. Everything is fixable.This will be his first step in getting rid of obsessive feelings.
• Try to understand the true cause of husband's jealousy. This can be done when you are alone. Take him to a straightforward conversation. Explain to each other. Let everyone express their grievances and complaints. Such actions will help you better understand the problem moments of your life.

• Take a joint business. For example, start saving money for a cottage or a new car. A new hobby relegates jealousy to the background.
• Radiate a positive and pretend that you are happy, no matter what. Such behavior will attract the attention of the spouse, and he will follow your example. The more positive, the sooner you get close.
• Try to save your spouse from obsessive thoughts. Download it by work, for example, start repairs in the apartment. Themselves also take an active part. So you can distract your spouse from bad thoughts, and working together will help you come closer.
• Constantly convince your spouse that the past is in the past. We need to forget the old grievances and disappointments.
• Create coziness and comfort. If you have children, then spend more free time with them and with your spouse. Gather at the same table children, spouse and tell about all the positive features of your family.
• Praise your husband for his loyalty and consciousness. Thanks to his efforts, you do not need and live without any particular material problems. This will raise his self-esteem, and he will be less to find fault with you.

Do not be afraid to identify the negative aspects of your life. It is necessary to look the problem straight in the eye. As you begin to look for and correct mistakes, you will feel that life is changing for the better. You can always leave, but you will be sorry for the lost relationship all your life. Therefore, we must strive for understanding and dialogue.