Lack of jealousy in relationships: what does it mean and does something need to be done?
Jealous means loves ... This is what most modern women think. Are they right or wrong?
Causes of jealousy
Jealousy is a complex set of emotions. It has a sense of ownership, fear of losing a partner and basic instincts. There are several causes of jealousy in men and women:
- this is inherent in nature from nature: the violent temper and hot temperament provoke suspicions;
- a girl or a boyfriend is flirting with other young people, or their ex behaved in a similar way;
- a man or a woman has a “stigma in a cannon,” and they try to find a problem in a partner in order to subconsciously justify themselves;
- pathological jealousy may lie in mental illnesses that require treatment from an appropriate doctor.
Why is the husband or boyfriend not at all jealous?
There are girls who would give a lot to not tolerate ridiculous suspicions from the second half. Since women are very emotional, they endure zealous attacks from scratch. But there are ladies who, on the contrary, provoke men, flirting with the opposite sex. These girls want to get the heat of passion, but often do not see absolutely no reaction. Why it happens? Does this mean that the guy does not love his girlfriend?
In fact, men are not jealous soul mate in the following situations.
- They trust her like themselves. Even her games in flirting, these guys are not considered seriously. If the relationship has gone through fire and water, then it makes no sense to invent problems sucked from the finger.
- They do not need to confirm their significance. Successful men almost never jealous of his girlfriend or wife. They understand that their woman just does not make sense to look for someone on the side. After all, finding a replacement for them will not be easy.
- They so infinitely love their soul mate that they will forgive her any prank, and perhaps even betrayal. These guys will close their eyes to everything, if only this girl stayed in a pair with them.
- They do not consider betrayal something awful. Fans of free relations will not be offended if their girl comes off once or twice to the left. These guys themselves can do the same thing without feeling remorse.
Why not jealous girl?
Although girls tend to see rivals in surrounding girls, but they also often do not show a feeling of jealousy. This happens most often when the guy really loves them and his behavior gives confidence in the absence of adultery.
In fact, a relationship where a girl does not nag her boyfriend with eternal reproaches that he did not look at a beautiful lady is just perfect.
And most likely, a woman is not jealous, because she loves and trusts her partner very much.
Do I need to do something if you are not jealous: advice from a psychologist
If the problem of lack of jealousy does not cease to put heavy weight on the heart, better follow the recommendations below:
- talk to your loved one and once again listen to his admonitions that everything is fine;
- try to easily hint at how it would be nice to feel jealous sometimes;
- you should not continue to flirt with others, otherwise it may go too far;
- to think again about how difficult it would be to build a relationship with a pathological jealous man or a jealous woman and feel constant surveillance behind you;
- update the wardrobe and more closely follow the appearance: it is possible that then the partner really will begin to worry that someone will want to take away his beautiful soul mate;
- appreciate the freedom that a calm, unspeakable person provides.
Lack of jealousy does not mean the absence of love. This is just a warehouse of character and coincidence.
Therefore you should not make an elephant out of a fly, you need to appreciate what you have at the moment.
On the psychology of jealousy, see the video below.