4 years in marriage: what kind of wedding is it and how is it celebrated?

Many people after the wedding did not mark the next anniversary of the marriage. And they do not even suspect that each year of marriage together has its own name, as well as traditions for celebrating a significant date. Four years from the date of the wedding let a small date, but also important, which should be treated with all the attention.

In different countries, the date of the fourth anniversary of the marriage has its name. In Holland, it is celebrated as a silk wedding, in Germany - as an amber. Even in Europe, she was given the name of the wax. And if you think about it, it really makes sense. During 4 years of marriage, spouses learn to be flexible in relation to each other. As the wax changes under the influence of external circumstances, so the husband and wife adapt to each other.

In Russia, this anniversary is called linen. Since the fabric of flax is practical, such that it is not easy to tear, and, moreover, clothing from it has always been valued so much that only wealthy people could afford it, therefore the meaning of this name is obvious. A married couple who have maintained love and mutual understanding over the years can achieve material well-being and raise the level of relationships in family life to incredible heights. Four more years of marriage are celebrated as a rope wedding. It is believed that the couple at this time are intertwined like ropes.

In Russia, there were traditions to celebrate the dates of matrimonial life. For example, four years after the wedding, it was customary to tie a wife and husband with ropes. They were tied to chairs. If they could not get out of the bond, it was considered a good sign. So, the couple will be in a happy marriage, being bound by strong bonds. And also on the date of the four years of living together in the morning, when the sun only rises, the wife covered her husband with a blanket of linen. This woman began to weave a blanket before getting married.

According to the blanket, one could judge the feelings of the wife towards her husband. If it was large, it spoke of the excellent prospects for marriage, and if it was short, the husband should have thought how much love and attention he gave to his spouse during the years he lived together. Weaving blankets from flax ceased over time, but the tradition has not gone anywhere. The girls began to do embroidery on a piece of fabric and, having married, continued this work. The beauty and richness of embroidery created in four years, it was possible to judge the welfare of marriage - such is a simple and visual psychological test.

Embroidered fabric was used to create the sheets, which made the conjugal bed on the day of the wedding anniversary celebration, and then this item became the family property. On the fourth anniversary of the wedding, the godfather was made to give a goddaughter, who marked the fourth date of marriage, a chest or spinning wheel and a spindle. The godmother presented her with linen fabric or ready-made linen items. The couple, in response, were supposed to treat the godparents with wine and fresh pies. Such baking was considered a symbol of security.

By the fourth anniversary of marriage, the wife was supposed to sew a linen shirt for her husband. She did it personally and without measures. The success of the work depended on how much the spouse recognized her lover. In the embroidered shirt, presented to him by his life partner on the day of the four-year marriage, the husband received guests who showered the spouses with flaxseeds, candy or coins.In this way, wealth was attracted to the family. In preparation for the holiday in the duties of her husband was to decorate the table. He had to make for him figures of the bride and groom from flax stalks.

The four-year anniversary of marriage in marriage can only be called an anniversary. It is usually invited to relatives and close friends. On a grand scale to celebrate a linen wedding is not accepted. As a rule, it is celebrated at home, although in our time it is hardly shameful to go to a cafe or restaurant for a celebration. On the table, according to tradition, you need to put a tablecloth and napkins of flax, because it is believed that this will strengthen the relationship of the spouses. As well as an attribute of this holiday are wax candles, which should be lit before the arrival of guests. Ornaments in the form of flaxen figurines will also be a symbol of the strength of relations and a tribute to the tradition of celebrating a linen wedding.

Treats by the fourth anniversary of the marriage should not be difficult, as long as they were tasty and satisfying. Although the hostess should not limit their cooking skills. She has an excellent opportunity to demonstrate what she has learned over the years of living together with her husband. A woman can cook a variety of dishes, ranging from salad and ending with a birthday cake. It is believed that if a married couple celebrating the date of the fourth anniversary of the wedding have not yet acquired children, there should be a lot of sweets on the table. Primarily from the category of home baking, which will attract health and offspring to the family.

On a holiday, both home and purchased alcohol is appropriate. But we must not forget that this is not about a “wide wedding”, so you should not make large stocks of such drinks. The first toast is usually offered by the godparents or the parents of the spouses. Then friends and relatives can do it. It is better to hand over gifts at the height of the holiday, when everyone is already relaxed and feeling at home.

On the fourth anniversary of the wedding, it is customary for husband and wife to exchange gifts. The most suitable for the wife are the following:

• flax clothing;
• cosmetics based on bee products;
• elegant candle holders;
• art objects;
• song written in honor of his wife;
• linen textiles;
• collage of joint photos;
• jewelry made of precious metals with a “rope” design;
• amber jewelry (similar to the traditions of Germany, where amber symbolizes the strength of family ties);
• bouquet of wild flowers with flax sprigs.

The wife can give her husband such gifts as:

• silk or linen garments;
• forty-year or four-year alcohol;
• self-made towels or paintings.

It is clear that to limit the proposed list is not necessary. Each couple has its own interests and preferences. Therefore, today anything can be a gift, starting from a joint parachute jump to a trip to rest abroad. A good book or spinning can also please your loved one. How much relatives and friends guess with gifts by date depends on the extent to which they know the preferences of the spouses. A win-win situation will be practical things - bedding, elegant bedspreads and tablecloths, original sofa cushions.

The original move will be to present to the husband and wife celebrating an important date the passes for free trips to the theater or tickets to a popular show. Jewelry with the same design can also please the heroes of the occasion. In addition, they will later remind them of the past holiday and the joyful moments of living together. A symbolic gift is a set of wax candles.Although any gift wrapped in linen "packaging" or laid in a bag of this fabric, will already be of particular importance. Like products in macrame technique, symbolizing a strong "rope connection" between spouses.

Parents on either side can give a couple clothes for children. And, by the way, only they alone can do this according to the rules of etiquette. Mostly close older relatives give spouses who celebrate a linen wedding with more expensive gifts. This is not forbidden to friends, although they can present something humorous from the category of "jokes." Although, of course, the main thing is not gifts and not following traditions, but the desire to preserve the love and respect of a man and a woman for each other, no matter how many anniversaries of life together are noted by a married couple.

In more detail about what to present for the 4th anniversary of marriage, you will learn from the following video.