Pre-wedding efforts and bustle captivate not only the main heroes of the occasion, but all the relatives. Everyone wants to contribute to the wedding, give advice and valuable (in their opinion) instruction. But there are also traditions. Whether to observe them or not is a question for the bride and groom, who must decide for themselves whether their wedding will be classical and traditional or non-standard and modern. Wedding traditions are many and they relate to literally everything. Even the purchase of a wedding dress can be determined by customs that have come to us from our ancestors.
Who, according to Russian traditions, should buy a dress for the bride?
In Russia, it was customary for the bride to create her own wedding dress herself, as well as prepare a dowry for herself. The beauty and decoration of the dress could be judged on the abilities of the girl, her skill and diligence. Therefore, each girl wanted to appear before the guests and relatives in the most beautiful and ornate dress. It, by the way, by traditions should be red.
Over time, these traditions began to be forgotten, and wealthy parents of the bride hired tailors to create wedding decorations. Even the color of the dress changed from red to white and pastel.
If the groom managed to visit Europe, then he tried to bring the dress for his future bride from there. And the opinion was born that the wedding dress should be bought by the groom.
In the Soviet Union, the wedding ceremony itself and the preparations for it were simplified, and the old traditions began to be forgotten. The wedding was given not so much time, outfits for the bride and groom were ordered in the nearest studio, accessories were bought in the store, and the celebration itself was held in a cafe or restaurant.
True, there was and is one tradition that continues to follow - the groom should not see the dress chosen by the bride until the wedding. Otherwise, the marriage may be unhappy. But back to our question: who should be involved in choosing a wedding dress and who can be trusted to purchase it?
Groom or his parents
Many believe that the groom and his family should bear the cost of buying not only the dress, but all additional items. This tradition is more common in Central, Southeast Asia and among Caucasian residents.
The outfit is chosen entirely by the relatives of the groom, including jewelry, which can only be gold. Thus, the groom's family demonstrates its wealth and how strong are the groom's feelings for the bride.
If you are just as lucky and the groom shows a desire to fully pay for the entire bridal outfit, then you, as his future wife, should offer the mother-in-law to visit the bridal salon and choose the dress together. It would be prudent to pre-visit the same salon with the person whom you know better and trust his taste and point of view more. Having chosen the appropriate options, show them to the mother-in-law and make the final choice. You can consider the option of buying accessories for two with your future mother-in-law.
It would be foolish to refuse the proposal of the groom to pay for your wedding dress. One has only to pre-negotiate the total amount that you can have.
If the dress you chose turned out to be more expensive, then either you will have to pay the difference yourself, or look for a more budget option.
A common situation is the bridegroom buying a dress, while the bride takes over the cost of the accessories.
Bride or her parents
Situations can be different and it is possible that relatives from the bride will buy a dress. In this case, you need to take your mother’s hand and collect your close friends, whom you trust.
Here you also need to know the amount that you can count on, have an idea about the style and style that suits you.
Before you go to the salon and try on the dresses, consult with the fashion designer, review the fashion trends of this season, study the recommendations of experts regarding the choice of dress according to the type of your figure. The choice of dress is also influenced by the season, weather conditions, the venue of the celebration and the theme of the wedding.
As in other countries is buying a dress
In European countries, all wedding expenses are divided between newlyweds. Parents have little to do.
If the wedding takes place in Germany and does not provide for a wedding, the bride chooses for herself not even a wedding dress, but simply a festive or elegant one, which she buys herself.
Brides from the East marry in a dress bought by the groom's relatives.
In America, the bride should choose garters that are not just an accessory and an element of underwear. They throw the bridegroom into the crowd of their unmarried friends. This tradition is very similar to throwing a bouquet. This tradition is becoming increasingly popular in Russia.
If you look at Brazil, then the groom's family does not take any part in choosing and buying a dress for the bride - everything falls on the shoulders of the bride's relatives.
Modern point of view on the purchase of a wedding dress
In the modern world, its rules that determine the characteristics of the process of preparing for the wedding. No one is so much obsessed with who should still buy a dress for the bride.
Increasingly, young people make up a total budget that goes to all expenditure items. If a woman is wealthy enough, then most likely she herself wants to not only buy a dress, but also pay half of the banquet.
Whatever the situation in your case, it is necessary to agree on the choice of style in clothes for the bride and groom.
I believe that the bride should afford to buy a wedding dress. If there is no money, then you can choose the simplest model. The husband must sponsor the whims of his wife after the wedding)