Phlegmatic: characteristics, pros and cons of temperament

Surely you have noticed that some people are always in a good mood, while others have enough of the slightest reason for sadness; some do everything, while others can not come anywhere without being late; someone grasps on the fly, and someone needs long and tedious explanations. The reason for this is the human temperament. Today we will talk about phlegmatic persons, their characteristic features, peculiarities of relations with them and upbringing of children of this type.

Under the definition of phlegmatic psychology refers to very slow people, a feature of which is the calmness that they save in any situation. In order to take them out of balance, you need to really try, such people are extremely laconic and, as a rule, carefully hide their feelings and experiences.

Due to the fact that phlegmatic people have a slower reaction rate, many of these people seem sluggish, tired and even unwilling to comply with the requests of friends and the orders of the authorities. Sometimes it seems that these people are not able to feel neither fear, sadness, nor joy, nor delight. Actually, many believe that phlegmatic persons do not have any emotions at all, but this is far from being the case. Under the mask of serenity lies the real hurricane of feelings and experiences, but these people will never give themselves away with a look or a word.

Phlegmatic calm, balanced and unshakable like a rock, wait for them aggression is possible only in the most extreme situations. These people are also distinguished by thoroughness, balanced decisions. Phlegmatic never base them on feelings and sensations, the final verdict these people endure only by the result of careful deliberation, multi-day analysis and weighing all the pros and cons. This means that you will never hear from such a person the phrase “I was prompted by an inner voice ...”, they are extremely responsible and extremely focused.

Select phlegmatic quite simple. These are people stingy on expressions of emotions. Their joy or sadness is always expressed exclusively with restraint, the biggest problem for them is the abrupt change of activity or the transience of events occurring in their personal lives. For example, they can be upset if your favorite restaurant closes or you have to move to a new place. The absence of any changes becomes the basic parameter of well-being and complete security. If the circumstances around you change too much and quickly, this can cause a nervous breakdown and neurosis, since the mind of the phlegmatic person simply does not withstand acute internal experiences.

Phlegmatic are introverts, that is, people who often resort to self-digging and self-analysis. Being alone, get the opportunity to dream, reflect on their mistakes and make plans for the future.

As a rule, phlegmatic individuals have adequate or even reduced self-esteem. These people do not have the habit of making high demands on others, they do not display ambitions, so in their careers they rarely reach the heights, they have enough tits in their hands.Phlegmatic people avoid being in the center of attention, a crowd, a large audience or any public appearances are alien to them.

In relations with relatives and friends in every way try to avoid aggravation of angles. At the time of quarrels, they either keep silence or agree with their opponent, and more often simply leave to avoid taking part in the disassembly.

Phlegmatic character has both its advantages and disadvantages.

These people are distinguished by external hardness of character, absolute calm, strength and confidence. Usually, all those around him are drawn to such individuals; they are attracted by the opportunity to find support and participation. Phlegmatic people are cute and very charming people who charge their friends and relatives with their charisma.

The undoubted advantage of phlegmatic persons is that it is almost impossible to knock them out of balance. In order for them to lose their temper, something extraordinary must happen, in which case he will express his displeasure in a rather stern, very formidable voice, but succinctly. As a rule, such “remarks” make a crushing impression on the opponent.

Phlegmatic people are considered to be unique people who can easily get along with representatives of all other types of temperament. Such people accept others as they are, do not seek to bend them to themselves and redo them. These are inborn diplomats who can always find a common language even with unfavorable-minded individuals. They do not perceive disappointment, resentment and threats to heart, so they rarely experience an unpleasant feeling of bitterness if the desired does not work.

Such people absolutely do not have the habit of using the people around them for personal gain, it is unusual for them to weave various intrigues behind their backs, such people keep secrets well and they can always be trusted without fear of publicity.

Phlegmatic always help if you ask them for help, but do everything in their power to ensure that the request is granted. At the same time, they are always responsible for their words, and if they are thanked for their support, they will continue to try to help with even greater zeal.

Phlegmatic people have a long time to make decisions, but if they still intend to act, they will go to the end. If the situation starts to get out of control, then they will activate all their internal forces and will direct them to search for a way out of this situation. Exceptional dedication, complete zeal and endless hard work - these are the main qualities of phlegmatic.

You should not assume that phlegmatic people are always “in themselves,” on the contrary, they are people with a well-developed sense of humor. At the same time, they do not throw jokes nonstop, unlike sanguine persons, but they can always defuse the situation with a witty joke in difficult times.

However, there phlegmatic and disadvantages.

People of this type hardly adapt to various changes that can knock them out of a rut for a long time, deprive them of a sense of safety and security, and cause nostalgia. Phlegmatic people do not like travel and trips very much, as they are unable to quickly get used to new living conditions.

Outwardly, these people do not show any emotions, because many people around regard this attitude as completely indifferent. Such people are often accused of callousness and heartlessness. And since they are laconic, they do not seek to convince others of the opposite.

Sacrifice is a feature that quite often causes harm to the phlegmatic himself, since he is quite rapidly depleting his nervous system. In any difficult situation, the phlegmatic person tries to console others, literally radiating confidence and calm, but in their souls they are in a real storm. Internal experiences do not receive external output and deplete the internal forces of the body.Thus, the phlegmatic directs all his negatives to himself, since acting on other people is taboo for them.

As a rule, phlegmatic people take a long time to assess their environment. Any change of circumstances can knock the ground out from under their feet, but after the whole environment has been thoroughly analyzed, the phlegmatic people begin to take steps towards achieving their goals.

Due to their balance, such people are rather hardworking and persistent, they tend to memorize a large amount of information and thoroughly analyze all the information they have.

As a rule, phlegmatic often act as a waistcoat - they constantly lend a shoulder and are ready to provide any support. Their prudence and internal core allows them to review the problem situation and offer another solution, more balanced and deliberate.

As for his own experiences, a person of this type will never share them with other people, even the closest ones. These people are real realists who do not build any illusions, live in the present, set clear goals for themselves and do not consider dreams to be necessary and useful for life.

It is impossible to determine what the phlegmatic person thinks and feels about; their face is devoid of any emotions and it is difficult to describe their feelings and thoughts using it. By the way, this sometimes leads out from a more hot-tempered choleric and emotional sanguine. Many people accept this external calmness and low reaction rate for the fact that a person is simply slowed down, but in fact this is not at all the case.

Phlegmatic rather closed people, which is why it is quite difficult for them to make friends and build close relationships. They are rather reluctant to contact and for too long converge with others. But if this person nevertheless chose a friend for herself, then such a relationship will be very strong, this is friendship, which is called “for centuries”. It is safe to say that you cannot find a more loyal and reliable friend than a phlegmatic person.

Phlegmatic people are considered very good family men; they rarely find their other half among new acquaintances. As a rule, this is a person with whom they have long been acquainted - perhaps they lived next door or studied together. When they mature to the offering of a hand and heart, phlegmatic people think for a long time. Although such inhibition is more likely to benefit them, since the spouse is a person with whom he will have to go hand in hand through life, and the decision on marriage should be as balanced and thoughtful as possible. The value of marriage bonds for phlegmatic is very large.

As a rule, phlegmatic marital relations enter into middle age. Their family life goes smoothly - no scandals with smashing dishes you can not wait for them. If the partner hurts them, they simply close themselves and stop communicating indefinitely.

Sanguine persons are characterized as active, lively and mobile people who quickly respond to the events around them and at the same time are relatively easy to experience the setbacks and troubles that happen to them. This type is completely opposite to the slow, fearful of change phlegmatic, which is characterized by self-digging and self-analysis, which are included whenever something in life does not go according to plan.

Choleric - this is perhaps the most emotional type, an extrovert. People of such temperament are impetuous, fast and at the same time completely unbalanced. Choleracs are characterized by mood swings, violent nervous reactions, emotional outbursts, and a change in behavior.Unlike those who are able to keep themselves in the hands of phlegmatic persons, a choleric person will never save his discontent - he will not say what he wants to say to his opponent, but shout. This means that Italian passions with throwing objects and smashing dishes - about them.

But melancholic people are described by psychologists as very vulnerable and sensitive people, who are deeply and for a long time experiencing even the most insignificant failures - this is their main difference from phlegmatic people. But the absence of a strong external reaction, of course, unites these two temperaments. This is a kind of mixed type between choleric and phlegmatic.

Children phlegmatic fully comply with the characteristic features of this type of temperament. Already from a very young age, such crumbs are characterized by extreme slowness, love of order. At the same time, they are characterized by high performance and vigor. Children of this type with great difficulty switch from one class to another. They are hard on any changes, so a change of school and place of residence can cause them great stress.

Many people call phlegmatic children gold, it’s very easy to get along with them, children are very obedient and inactive. At the very young age, they very rarely cry and do not require increased parental attention. Such children speak slowly; between words they make long pauses. The little ones do not immediately answer the questions posed and can literally sit for hours on a piece of paper, and often they need to be pushed in order for them to start doing something.

That is why psychologists give several important recommendations to parents of phlegmatic children.

Try to develop mobility in the child, but this should be done gradually, without haste. Give it to the sports section, but it is desirable that these were not team sports - let it go its own way. Simultaneously work on his hardening, do not let him sleep too much. Such a kid should not be left alone for a long time, he needs to ensure frequent changes of backgrounds and impressions - travel with him, attend exhibitions, museums, concerts, be sure to visit and invite friends to your home.

Try to develop the creative power of the crumbs, let him draw, play, dance, sculpt, recite and express himself in every way. In this case, do not set a goal to make him a great artist or artist. Your task is to reduce the fear of the child before the public, before communication and self-expression.

A separate role in the education of the phlegmatic belongs to the games. Perhaps you think that your child does not need anything and is not interesting, but this is far from the case. Inside the phlegmatic serious passions boil and you should teach the child to cope with them. That is why the main role in your leisure should be played by role-playing games, while stimulating the child to invent a thematic line on his own, ask who you intend to play with — a plush bunny or a kitten. Ask him to come up with the name of his hero himself, offer him to compose the route of movement of the toy himself and find a way out of the difficult situation in which the animal fell. The child should feel like a real master of the situation. Such games are necessary for the child, and from early childhood - only in this way he will gradually learn to react to certain situations and by the age of 4-5 will be able to confidently keep himself in the circle of his peers.

Pay special attention to mobile games.Many mothers seem to be senseless pastime in the sandbox, and this is natural, because the picture of a happy childhood most of us associate with an active pastime, fun races with friends, toy battles, catch-up and salochkami. And yet do not try to break the child, you must help him adapt, arouse his interest in motor activity, but not force him. To get started, start with the most ordinary games, for example, catch-up. Let the baby catch up with you, and then you will him, with this, be sure to let him catch you, and do your best to make the crumb think that he is fast and dexterous. This gives the baby confidence and emancipates him.

If a child rolls off the slide with fun, be sure to loudly express the delight of his speed and dexterity, if he threw the ball into the goal, congratulate him on a successfully scored goal. The child must love sports games, only in this case, physical activity will become part of his life in the future.

Work for people with a phlegmatic temperament is considered in terms of achieving various business goals. As a rule, they give a slow response at the start, but due to their propensity to analyze, endless diligence and exceptional diligence, they usually become ideal performers.

Despite the large number of positive characteristics, such people tend to underestimate their self-esteem, do not have confidence in their abilities, which does not allow them to build a good career and achieve some top positions in the business.

Such a person always refuses mass events, lectures, seminars, trainings, speeches and meetings with partners in public places. Phlegmatic people categorically do not accept work related to constant business trips and traveling, because in this case they will have to leave their home and spend at least a minimum time where everything is alien and far away.

Phlegmatic people are extremely sensible in assessing their abilities and will never take upon themselves the solution of those tasks that are beyond their power. The option “the main thing is to get involved in a war - and then we'll see” is not for them, so they prefer stable employment relationships with a standard set of job responsibilities.

Such bosses are very much appreciated among their subordinates - inert and taciturn, they will never blame their employees, especially in public. Usually at first glance, employees are afraid of him, but over time they find weak spots and begin to very confidently manipulate such a boss.

The professions from the following list are considered the best areas of employment for phlegmatic workers:

• scientist and researcher;
• accountant or financial analyst;
• botanist;
• doctor.

Among the well-known personalities in the history of a lot of phlegmatic. So, the most famous Russian commander who defeated Napoleon’s army, Mikhail Ivanovich Kutuzov, had a phlegmatic temperament. His company is the outstanding fabulist Ivan Andreevich Krylov, as well as the first German chancellor, Adenauer, who had made himself known - it was he who was responsible for the restoration of Germany in the post-war years, when he literally lifted it from the ruins and brought it to stable economic and social growth. By the way, as the story goes, at university he was not popular with students - he was considered a bore, so he spent all his time solely on studies and science.

The creator of the hydrogen bomb, the famous Soviet scientist Andrei Sakharov, was also a phlegmatic person, and among his colleagues he was considered a real boil-over, who was unable to quickly understand what he was being told.

Oddly enough, in the world of sport there are also a lot of phlegmatic people. For example, the well-known football team coach Dick Advocaat refers to this type, although even he sometimes allows himself to succumb to emotions on the field, but he speaks with representatives of the press exclusively with restraint and laconic words.

Of the well-known women phlegmatic can also be noted the Russian poetess Marina Tsvetaeva, as well as singers Lolita Milavskaya, Alla Pugacheva, Lyudmila Zykina and actresses Natalia Gundareva and Irina Muravyov.

And among men phlegmatic can be attributed to the famous politician Gennady Zyuganov and the philosopher of the past years, Immanuel Kant.

On the peculiarities of the nature of phlegmatic, see the video below.