Child choleric: nature and recommendations for education

Attitude to children and features of their education depend not only on age. It is extremely important to take into account the specifics of the child's temperament. Teach children “choleric” on the need for special schemes.

Often there is the opinion that any children are easily excited, violently show emotions, continuously and actively. But even on the general background, the child choleric stands out strongly. His emotions beat over the edge. To cope with such a “living test”, it is necessary to thoroughly study the characteristics of such a temperament.

The mood of these children changes unpredictably in one direction or the other. In this case, all things go in cycles. Choleric prefer games in which many participants. Communication for them is usually not a problem, and even desirable. But the high contact in the kindergarten is clouded, depreciated by an increased tendency to hurt and conflict. Observing children immediately notice that they:

• love pranks;
• constantly scurrying around;
• restless in their pursuits.

The child choleric is not only clearly visible, but also perfectly “heard.” He, regardless of gender, manifests itself:

• voice volume;
• speed of speech;
• active gesticulation.

This temperament leads to the rapid consumption of mental energy. After all, the nervous system of children is unstable. Plunging into every thing, in every act without reserve, children spend almost all their strength. But instability makes itself felt all the same: it is expressed in the absence of perseverance. Raising choleric persons is a complicated matter that requires attention and accuracy.

This temperament (and in adolescents, and partly even at preschool age from 2 years) is expressed in leadership inclinations. Choleric almost always, in whatever company they appear, act as instigators. It is under their influence that others start and leave the game. Attitude to games is not just serious: attempts to interrupt such entertainment are found with irritation. Of all the games, unconditional priority is given to those where you need to take risks and exercise physical activity.

Once in the school, in the team, children of choleric persons are forced to slow down their desires and motivations. But outside the school or kindergarten (in the courtyard, in the street, and especially at home) self-control weakens. Therefore, the educational process is further complicated, it requires strong nerves and composure. To make sure that the child is choleric, it is useful to consider all four temperaments on the example of a specific situation.

For example, it is time to leave the playground. Sanguine persons will try to delay care until the last, feverishly will be engaged in "additional construction", digging holes, slide down the hill. Melancholic will be upset and express it emotionally. However, still fulfill the request. Phlegmatic people will bring the least problems to parents and educators - they will immediately leave all the games, no matter how passionate they are, and go where they are told.

Emotional stress choleric surpass all. They will not just fight, balk, scream and cry, some are able to interfere with other children, breaking the "built" by them, to get into a fight. In this place it is necessary to make a retreat. It may seem that kids with a choleric temperament are just lovers of aggression, completely unmanageable personalities. In fact, they also have strengths:

• less inclination to loneliness and self-digging;
• relatively rare bad temper;
• the ability to establish contacts and defend their "I", their opinion in communicating with other people;
• easy adaptation to an unusual environment (not only for children, but also for adults).

The bad features that teachers need to overcome in developing the personality of choleric individuals are:

• increased conflict;
• propensity to engage in conflicts, to make enemies;
• sometimes unwillingness to complete the work started;
• a sharp change in attitudes towards individuals, objects and things.

Adolescents with choleric temperament have their own characteristics, a bit different from those of other ages. You need to know them, if only because this group includes over 50% of boys and girls. Such minors are not just active, they are still physically strong and trained. Other distinguishing features are:

• enterprise;
• propensity for socially significant activities;
• the desire to overcome even serious difficulties;
• willingness and ability to take on the resolution of the difficulties of other people;
• not too high learning performance;
• priority in school and striving for what one likes or is taught personally by cute teachers;
• ability to respond quickly to non-standard situations;
• ability to easily remember information;
• focus on new and unusual things.

With all the universality of temperaments, there is still significant specificity depending on gender. If the son in the family belongs to this group, he will inevitably be extremely restless. It is necessary to overcome this problem by introducing clear and consistent rules. For example, on weekends the whole family starts its day not earlier than a certain hour. Or after work, give adults 1 hour of rest.

Each rule must be observed very strictly and rigorously. Much depends on adults, on their sequence. If they decide, let us say that we need to adhere to a certain schedule, give priority to separate occupations - we need to retreat from this only under very weighty circumstances. It is advisable for children to immediately explain why they decided so. They should be firmly aware that whims, tantrums, scandals and antics will not allow to achieve their goal.

It so happens that some bad property of the choleric person can be corrected, it cannot be corrected. Many children cannot sleep alone during the day for a long time. Parents are extremely annoyed that they lose a lot of time on this. Another negative point is often excessive childish talkativeness. In such cases, it is necessary first to change the attitude to the problem, to find advantages in it for yourself - and then try to introduce the situation into a certain framework. The time spent can be used on:

• thoughts about the past;
• planning further actions;
• listening to an audiobook through headphones;
• other similar things.

But the desire to dominate, in spite of everything, can not be treated equally complacently. It is very important to reverse this trend, otherwise the world will be filled with another family tyrant. But you need to focus, especially in adolescence, to care for other family members. This property is already characteristic of adult choleric individuals, but it is important to help its formation. It is necessary to ensure that negative emotions received in an educational institution, at work and in public places do not spill out at home in the future.

As for the speed of reaction, the ability to make decisions very quickly should be encouraged. Watching, however, that the decisions are not lightweight and emotional. If parents manage to inspire that it is necessary to take into account all the information, it will only be better. When educating should pay attention to work with such a feature as sociability. The thrust to communicate, to the emergence of new friends should be limited to the ability to understand people.

They have fewer similar problems than boys.But the main features of the choleric temperament still manifest. We must put up with the fact that the girl will have a strong character, a strong will, that serious ambitions will soon arise. Experienced educators take into account these circumstances and try to make the behavior softer, more flexible, teach them to bypass the new angles. By the way, about learning: choleric girls learn new skills without any problems, love to try what they didn’t know before.

Because they are easy to "switch" from unwanted hobbies to those that parents consider best for children. But attempts to overcome the lack of attention to fashion trends, the reluctance to wear jewelry and various accessories are unlikely to give results. Such girls are somewhat masculine, and when educating one must take into account that they value comfort and the ability to act more. Gouging, leisurely activity - this is not for them.

Properly educate choleric not easy. You can cope with excess energy by redirecting it to useful areas. So, girls will be calmer at classes:

• figure skating;
• speed skating;
• athletics;
• stage art.

Boys choleric calm down during the Greco-Roman wrestling, martial arts, football and basketball, swimming. But it is not necessary to concentrate on these sports - any active activity will do. Additionally, it is necessary to reduce the number of stimuli. If an object acts as a stimulus, it is removed. If there are frequent conflicts with someone from other children, you should not invite them home.

But these techniques will give a positive result only if the active periods are periodically changed by elementary games with low mobility. It is desirable that such studies were intellectual in nature and allowed to be realized. Hobbies are selected individually, looking not only for what is convenient first of all for myself, but for the optimal compromise solution. To strive to find at least some kind of hobby is needed anyway - this will allow you to streamline life and improve organization. At the same time, we must try to convince children of the need to complete everything that has been started, even if they no longer like it or if a new hobby appears. This approach should be applied in everything:

• in communication;
• in training;
• in Game.

But in the control of actions a compromise is unacceptable. Yes, it is difficult, and even encounters resistance, however, otherwise children may commit harm, cause pain. It is better somewhat exaggerated, but firmly show how bad actions are unpleasant for a particular parent, educator.

With all the severity and intensity of work with choleric persons, it is categorically impossible to raise the voice, much less to use physical force. These techniques only increase the negative consequences, in addition, can cause rejection. Often, children out of a sense of contradiction only begin to violate the established rules even more. Others try to do it covertly, disguised from their parents and others. Gradually, this behavior becomes a habit, and if there are serious problems, you can learn about them too late.

It so happens that persuasion and rational explanations, gentle pushing in the right direction do not give results. In order not to break, it is better to choose the tactics of silence and ignoring. The underlined coldness on the part of parents is very quickly felt by the children. Certainly required to teach kids choleric rules of politeness in the most common situations. For compliance with these rules in each case must be praised, and for violation - to blame.

It is very important to be able to empathize and listen to children. They should know that parents do not care what they do and even say. You should certainly show your example, examples from your life, what is good and what is bad. But to strive to remake a girl or boy is meaningless. Many famous people who had a choleric temperament, achieved great success.

With a very strong emotion help modeling and drawing, games and hobbies that produce perseverance. Sessions should take strictly certain time and be on schedule. Choleric children should be given clear responsibilities, consistently instructing them. There should be a specific goal and stages.

Experts in the field of psychology advise to involve choleric children in household matters, the purpose of which is clearly clear. It is also desirable that the kids already understand the result, its meaning. It is better to accustom to speaking the stages of work out loud and to the precise fulfillment of the plan. When walking through the woods, in nature, on hiking trips, choleric persons should be given increased attention. If they do something uncontrollably, even for a short time, unpleasant incidents may occur. For the same reason, you should be very vigilant both on the sea, and on the streets of a big city, and on a train. To reduce impulsiveness, to enhance attention, such exercises as:

• handicrafts;
• embroidery;
• game designer;
• mosaic assembly.

When participating in games, as well as during developmental activities, irritation should be extinguished. Any case when choleric people try, show patience and diligence, should be encouraged. Maximum attention should be paid to the ability to fully communicate and not alienate others from themselves. Let children learn to think about their behavior, plan a conversation, recognize provocations and circumvent them. Good model situations can be gleaned from literature, cinema, even folklore and mythology.

There are a few nuances that will help to establish contact with children choleric. To communicate with them should be clear, expressive. Quiet, unintelligible speech may cause irritation. It is strictly necessary to avoid rude, frankly insincere compliments on duty. After visiting theaters, circuses, concert halls, museums, and so on, it is necessary on the same day to find time for a confidential conversation with a child.

Let him understand that he is valued and his experiences, assessments are interesting for adults. When listening to what a child or teenager says, it is important to bear in mind that they are sincere ... but they make a sharp, emotionally colored assessment. A little later, when passions subside, it will be possible to talk more thoroughly, more productively. It is worth remembering that after the end of the conflict choleric people are inclined to consider disputes irrelevant, and soon the claims will cause them only surprise, sometimes new irritation.

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