School years are full of various events, emotions and impressions. Unforgettable and touching is youthful love. In girls, this feeling is accompanied by timidity, shyness, self-doubt. How to talk, how to start communicating with the object of your liking? Our article will tell you how to meet a guy at school.
The first steps
The boy who really liked, of course, wants to make a good impression. The girls begin to torment themselves with the question of how best to approach him and start communicating. Often the situation is complicated by the fact that a young man from another class and he is older, say 2 or 3 years. Meetings in this case occur only in noisy corridors. Yes, and meetings can not be called, because often you just pass by each other. To engage in an unobtrusive and natural conversation under the numerous views of other teens simply will not work. A suitable situation that could bring you together, you can wait very, very long time.
Well, in any case, your timidity needs to be overcome and begin to take steps towards acquaintance and rapprochement, otherwise it will not move, and you will remain a secret admirer. But you shouldn’t chop it off, persistently imposing your society, of course.
To start communicating with an unfamiliar boy at school, follow these tactics.
- Find out about him as much as possible details. For establishing friendship and further relations you will need information about his interests, social circle, hobbies, inclinations. In this case, you will already be aware of what topics you can have a conversation on. If he goes to any section or attends school electives, you can try enrolling there and getting close in the background of general classes.
- A good platform for dating is the overall learning process. True, it can be used as a preposition only if you study in the same parallel. For example, in a situation where the control on any subject was held in its class, you can come up and ask what tasks you expect in the upcoming test work.
- It is very good if you have friends in the classroom in which the guy you liked is studying. You can go chat with them at recess. And in the process of such friendly visits, you can find points of contact with the object of your sympathy.
- If you trust your friends-classmates of the guy you like, you can ask them to invite him to a joint event or walk. For example, the general company to visit a cafe or go to a concert. In an informal setting, making friends is much easier, even if he is 2-3 years older than you.
- Find out what events he attends outside of school and, as it were, happen to be in his field of vision. It is very likely that when he sees a familiar face from his school, he will want to say hello and will start the conversation first.
- Properly use the information you have about attracting a boy. For example, if you know for sure that he is fond of computer games, come and ask him for a game disc or ask any questions about its features.
To substantiate their request, they agreed on a mutual friend, for example: “Pasha Ivanov said that you are a great gamer, but I can’t pass one level in the game”. Thus, at the same time you will make him a compliment and present your appeal to him logical and unobtrusive. Similarly, you can use and interests in other areas: music, cinema, sports, science.
- If you attend electives together, contact him with any question on the subject being studied. Or, on the contrary, try to offer your help in a suitable situation.
- A good pretext for starting communication and friendship in the school is to borrow a pencil or pen. But do not forget to thank the person for the help and be sure to return the items taken to him.
- More often take part in school activities in which you can express yourself from the best side. So you will be in sight, and the boy may even be interested in you and take the initiative. But even if the first steps from it are not followed, you will have a reason to cross at events, and, therefore, common topics for conversation, for example, a discussion of a concert, the results of a sporting event or a school competition.
- Do not forget about social networks. This is a large and convenient platform for communication. You can leave an unobtrusive comment under his notes or positively evaluate the photo. Also a good option is to participate in a joint online discussion on any issue.
- Try to look good, but do not go too far. Often, girls make a mistake, making their appearance unnecessarily defiant and artsy. This, of course, is a matter of taste, but for many guys the excessive “brightness” simply repels.
How and what to talk about?
Now a few tips on how to conduct a conversation, so that it is interesting and conducive to further communication with you. It is clear that chatter will bore you about anything quickly and tire your interlocutor, and he may eventually lose interest in you.
- Learn to listen in conversation. The interlocutor will be interesting to communicate when he himself can fully speak.
- Be able to accept his point of view.
- Try to ask specific questions. Common phrases like “tell about something” are confusing. It seems that the interlocutor is not interesting to you.
- Talk to him on general topics more often, be interested in his successes, hobbies.
- In communication, be yourself. A natural, relaxed conversation brings together the best. You should not create a false impression about yourself.
It is always impossible to keep a fictional image, and if you are counting on a relationship with this young man, all the more you should not begin with a deception.
